Page 4 | Why do people need to show off gifts on Facebook?

1AngelicFruitCake · 2021-03-14T12:16:04+00:00

I don’t get it. Lovely seeing photos of people with Mums, messages etc. But why brag ‘I’ve been spoilt with my many presents’ then post photos of them? It just screams ‘Look at me!’ which I know Facebook is all about that but come on, it’s so needy! YABU-people should put photos of their presents YANBU-there’s no need to post photos of your presents

Mooda · 14/03/2021 13:55

It's Facebook. It is literally there for people to show off. If you don't like it, don't use it.

EasterGuineaPig · 14/03/2021 13:58

I think it’s quite nice, but with my friends it seems to be home made cards and Tesco flowers not anything flashy or expensive.

beyondtheshoe · 14/03/2021 14:02

I am glad they do, it's quite sweet. It's a poor state of the world when we start resenting someone for being childishly happy about presents.

Is someone showing-off and bragging? Why are you friend with someone you dislike in the first place?

I like people I am friends with, that's the main thing. It made me smile if they get a new car, a lovely piece of jewellery, a puppy, a hand-made pottery item from a 4 years old... They should be celebrating, and shouldn't be so spoilt that they dismiss their gifts.

If they want to post them, good for them.
Others are posting pics with families - not everybody is on lockdown, not everybody follows the rules, and some people have some kind of "bubble" and can meet with parents and siblings today.

Of all the things to get upset and offended about, gifts on FB? Really?
Unless you feel jealous and that you missed out, how can that be negative when it's YOUR friends?

WorraLiberty · 14/03/2021 14:03

"I find it interesting to hear other people say why they do it. I’ve not shouted anyone down or argued. Why start a thread? Why not?"

Clearly you have as much time as I do to reply to me!

This has nothing to do with how much time anyone has?

Ask yourself, why has my posted bothered you? Just like I didn’t have to start this thread, you didn’t have to reply!

When people are nasty to others for no reason, like you have been here, it tends to bother other people don't you find?

Of course I didn't have to reply but I wanted to

Or were you literally only looking for replies from people how agree with you?

zingally · 14/03/2021 14:04

There's a woman on mine who is so braggy about everything... She has 4 kids, from full-grown adult to pre-teen, and it's always armfuls of expensive gifts for mothers day.
Her whole fb is about how fabulously gorgeous, gifted, clever, talented, unique her kids are. Except I worked with her youngest kid in school, and when I knew him (not that long ago), he was dumb as bricks...

I should probably unfriend her!

needadvice54321 · 14/03/2021 14:05

I find it a bit weird, not the homemade cards/gifts though - I like that, makes me feel a bit sad that my days of that are long gone!

I do find the present mountain a bit baffling, but each to their own. I've never really understood when people post Christmas Eve pics of trees bursting with presents either

beyondtheshoe · 14/03/2021 14:07

I should probably unfriend her!

I honestly find it harder to understand why people are friends with someone like that, than anything else.

burgerjack · 14/03/2021 14:12

I generally subscribe to the don't like don't look & it is nice to see friends & family happy. However I do find the whole "it's ok to brag & boast on SM" a little strange because most people don't like it in real life.

burgerjack · 14/03/2021 14:14

It makes regifting impossible!

🤣

WorraLiberty · 14/03/2021 14:17

@zingally

There's a woman on mine who is so braggy about everything... She has 4 kids, from full-grown adult to pre-teen, and it's always armfuls of expensive gifts for mothers day. Her whole fb is about how fabulously gorgeous, gifted, clever, talented, unique her kids are. Except I worked with her youngest kid in school, and when I knew him (not that long ago), he was dumb as bricks...

I should probably unfriend her!

I think reading someone who works/worked in a school, describing a pupil as dumb as bricks, is far more disturbing than any bragging post on social media.

raincamepouringdown · 14/03/2021 14:17

@NerrSnerr

Mother's Day is a difficult day for so many people for so many different reasons. Everyone knows this and many people share posts about it being tough. I think the gushing Mother's Day posts can be really insensitive (and pointless when the person isn't even on Facebook). I know many don't agree with me but I think you should do it all in person. Give them a call and tell them or thank them in person. Saves the risk of causing upset for others.

Well, first of all, Covid means man people can't see people in person.

And frankly, every celebration in the world upsets someone these days. People act like nothing should be celebrated in case someone gets upset. I think that's wrong.

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1AngelicFruitCake · 14/03/2021 14:17

@WorraLiberty

"I find it interesting to hear other people say why they do it. I’ve not shouted anyone down or argued. Why start a thread? Why not?"

Clearly you have as much time as I do to reply to me!

This has nothing to do with how much time anyone has?

Ask yourself, why has my posted bothered you? Just like I didn’t have to start this thread, you didn’t have to reply!

When people are nasty to others for no reason, like you have been here, it tends to bother other people don't you find?

Of course I didn't have to reply but I wanted to

Or were you literally only looking for replies from people how agree with you?

No, as you can see by my replies. I’ve replied to people who disagree. I mentioned time because I don’t understand why people are replying when they don’t need to. Of course I’ve got time on my hands, I keep coming on here! As I said before, I’ll agree to disagree. When I think of the hate I’ve seen on here over the years, I don’t see my post as anymore nasty than any other post. I’ve said I find people showing off annoying. People find me starting this thread annoying. If you post photos on Mother’s Day, is my post really going to upset you? If yes then that you need to consider why! Going off the voting, many agree with me! And to answer other people, perhaps it’s just me (and clearly says a lot about me😄) but I’ve seen quite a few showing off piles of presents on my Facebook.

If I saw a thread on here about someone finding something I know I do annoying, I’d reply if I was bothered enough or think ‘so what?’ and scroll past.

And for the record, sentimental posts, homemade, toast your child has made, make me melt and make me smile (see, I’ve got some good in me!) but photos of ‘look at ALL my presents’ make me cringe because I find it so attention seeking. I accept some of you think that makes me bitter and nasty.

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burgerjack · 14/03/2021 14:21

OP any thread that criticises certain social media behaviour attracts a lot of why do you care, you must be hateful etc. Using that logic most AIBU threads shouldn't exist.

noblegreenk · 14/03/2021 14:22

YANBU.

I had much more than I expected for mothers day today but I'd never post about it on FB/IG. I personally find it really crass when people do this!

WorraLiberty · 14/03/2021 14:24

I mentioned time because I don’t understand why people are replying when they don’t need to.

You don't understand much then do you?

If no-one replied to Mumsnet threads on the basis that they don't need to, every single thread would have zero replies

SchrodingersImmigrant · 14/03/2021 14:24

@burgerjack

OP any thread that criticises certain social media behaviour attracts a lot of why do you care, you must be hateful etc. Using that logic most AIBU threads shouldn't exist.

Well.... Yeah

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1AngelicFruitCake · 14/03/2021 14:29

@WorraLiberty

I mentioned time because I don’t understand why people are replying when they don’t need to.

You don't understand much then do you?

If no-one replied to Mumsnet threads on the basis that they don't need to, every single thread would have zero replies

‘You don’t understand much do you?’ Wow and you call me nasty!

What I meant was, youve replied a few times and said why does it bother me. I’m explaining to you my reasons, you’ve persisted so I’ve said just don’t read/reply then as others have suggested to me.

Of course if no one replied then there’d be no threads 😄

I think you’re the one who is trying to prove you’re right.

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1AngelicFruitCake · 14/03/2021 14:29

@burgerjack

OP any thread that criticises certain social media behaviour attracts a lot of why do you care, you must be hateful etc. Using that logic most AIBU threads shouldn't exist.

Exactly! 😄

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LolaSmiles · 14/03/2021 14:30

YANBU . Posting photos of piles of gifts gets filled in the same place as people who feel the need to discuss all their latest purchases and high social/financial value items. I was brought up that it's a bit crass to do that. I feel the same on birthdays, christmas and valentine's day too. They're entitled to post what they like though.

Nice mothers day photos, or a card etc doesn't bother me though. I'm not a misery guts.

Justabadwife · 14/03/2021 14:34

One of my friends got a mother's day box of treats (basically jammy dodgers, marshmallows and chocolates) off one of them Facebook huns groups 🙄 I know that she will have ordered it herself using her husbands Facebook account. Then today she posts loads of pics of it from different angles. "Ooh doesn't this look nice, I'm so spoilt?"
No love, it looks like you've been ripped off £17.50 for a box of cheap biscuits that probably cost £3 to put together.

Sorry I got a bit ranty 🙄

tigger001 · 14/03/2021 14:39

Because that is what social media had turned into, i know some use it to keep on touch with friends on foreign countries and for business promotion, but lets be honest its just for insecure people to post what they have and where they are in the hope their friends are ennvious or jealous. (Was it called FOMO years ago)

Although im not on it, but thats what it seems to be about when i listen ti those who are on it.

Get off it, its not good for your mental health if it annoys you that much.

FoxgloveBee · 14/03/2021 14:49

I think it's annoying, but not as annoying as the Happy Birthday Here Is A Collage Of Pictures of Me (And You) Where I Look Good brigade.

beyondtheshoe · 14/03/2021 14:49

Because that is what social media had turned into, i know some use it to keep on touch with friends on foreign countries and for business promotion, but lets be honest its just for insecure people to post what they have and where they are in the hope their friends are ennvious or jealous. (Was it called FOMO years ago)

no, it's an opportunity for people to bitch about their "friends" behind their back.

Why else would you bother scrolling through your social media to find posts to mock or being shocked or find crass?

If you were not so insecure but had real friends, the normal reaction would be to be pleased for them. Not look down at them..

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1AngelicFruitCake · 14/03/2021 14:53

@beyondtheshoe

Because that is what social media had turned into, i know some use it to keep on touch with friends on foreign countries and for business promotion, but lets be honest its just for insecure people to post what they have and where they are in the hope their friends are ennvious or jealous. (Was it called FOMO years ago)

no, it's an opportunity for people to bitch about their "friends" behind their back.

Why else would you bother scrolling through your social media to find posts to mock or being shocked or find crass?

If you were not so insecure but had real friends, the normal reaction would be to be pleased for them. Not look down at them..

I’m not laughing, sneering or desperately looking out for these posts. I find them annoying. That’s it. Thank you for your concern, I do have friends (believe it or not!)

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LolaSmiles · 14/03/2021 14:56

Because that is what social media had turned into, i know some use it to keep on touch with friends on foreign countries and for business promotion, but lets be honest its just for insecure people to post what they have and where they are in the hope their friends are ennvious or jealous.

I disagree. Some people use social media to show off and brag just like some people do that offline.

Others use it to share what's going on and keep in touch, which is also what most people do offline.

Take a typical mother's day, most people might say had a nice day, went for a walk, had a lovely lunch, we went out for the afternoon. Most people wouldn't say I've got the best children ever, I'm so blessed to have them. They got me a box of chocolates, and a pandora bracelet, and a bottle of bubbly, and some expensive bubble bath.