@dontdisturbmenow
*Yes sure they do in front of you. Meanwhile with mates they are watching porn, rating girls using foul language.
I have 2 DD’s and they say every single boy they know dies this*
What a sad sad use of the world. I can say with absolute certainty that my two sons have never done that because they'd find no satisfaction in doing so. Your daughter needs to hang around better role models.
Our children's peers are rarely their role models, even with monkey see monkey do mimicry going on, and often there is little choice in the other children in their class or neighbourhood.
My DD2 was 7 the first time a boy a couple of years older sexually threatened her, talked about shoving items into her. A bunch of other boys laughed. She wasn't hanging around him, it was just another kid in the local park, a big group of them circled a small group of girls, judged them, and threatened my daughter.
Now thankfully in that case there was some small resolution in that the boy receieved punishment and my DD never saw him again -- but many of our girls don't get that. They get the remarks dismissed, told they misunderstood, blamed, told they just need to not hang around those boys even when they have to remain with the perpetrator in class. This goes into adulthood where by then many have learned that the social systems around us aren't going to protect us or help us the way we need which emboldens those who enjoy harming us. Some schools and communities are putting in place ways to do better, but too many are failing in this.
Some boys do get the same - my DS1 was 15 when he experienced sexual harrassment at college by adult women that left him badly frightened, the college dealt with it well, but even with that, we know largely peer-on-peer abuse is a sexed issue of males over females. This was a case where the power imbalanced was adults over a child.
I hope the college would do the same if they had been the same age, but we can't ignore how social power plays a role, even when it's just that little boys have learned they can make terrible frightening remarks about girls, get laughs from their friends, and too many adults give lip-service about the shame of it, but nothing negative actually happens to them. The girls are too often left floudering on their own with families not knowing what to do.
After the incident my daughter experienced, the effect it had on her and her sister who was also present when it happened was rough on everyone, including my oldest son. There were a few years there where he expressed ideas that boys just hurt girls, men just hurt women, how much he hated that and I had to find ways to help him come to a more balanced view from that loathing. Finding him more male role models and ways to feel he could do good while also helping my daughters be able to express their feelings freely too was a challenge. He benefitted from his volunteer and helping experiences, they benefitted from having single sex and mixed sex spaces to talk and help and feel part of a better community. It isn't easy, everyone deals with shite, the issues are how the systems around us enable us to come through it better or put up barriers to that, do they shut down the abuse or do they empower it?
I have no idea if most men respect women - there are a lot of men out there. Honestly, I'm not sure I care on an individual level - my concern is more about how social systems make the disrespect acceptable so it escalates so they've the power to use their disrespect to harm. We've a system where most protected characteristics are also protected by hate crime legislation - but sex isn't even when we know the role it plays in violence. We have systems in place in schools to help prevent radicalisation, but that boy who threatened my daughter, those boys who laughed, have that not been radicalised in how they think about girls? Should there not be more concern about why ~9-10 year old boys would think that behaviour and language was good fun? That my DD was able to go out without those boys doesn't change that those boys also need better too if anything is to really be made better.