Excluding one child from birthday party bags

[seaclaidte]

Would you blame me?

This child has targeted my DS with his nasty comments, including calling him a Paki.
He also put his hands around my sons neck. The teacher brushed both items off as boys being boys type of thing but that's another story.

Both boys are 9 years old.

*party
*you’re

I find it confusing that you would have considered that leaving him out when giving out party bags would have solved anything.

You also said something about not approaching the school as the school wouldn’t want to affect its ‘perfect ofsted rating’.

I know you didn’t give out the party bags

I tried to think rationally like okay maybe the child has learning difficulties etc but those behaviours are learnt and I can understand why, If to try and look deeper maybe to build bridges and to teach what essentially is a child that everyone is human and kindness is good by inviting him but I would be cautious

OP wasn’t having a party for her child. She had suggested that she was going to give every child in the class a party bag with their name on it except for the child that she doesn’t like because she said he’s a racist and a bully. But then he wasn’t 🤷‍♀️ He uses shocking language apparently and is educating her child on the playground about something. The posts confused me tbh as I’ve said to OP.

She didn’t speak to school because ‘they wouldn’t ruin their perfect ofsted rating.’

So the outcome of it all was going to be to exclude one 9 year old child from having a party bag when all of his classmates got one. However, she decided not to give out party bags at all in the end.

I asked why and I still don’t know.

If no party a teacher would not consent to handling them out to every child but one.

You need to escalate the racism to the Head Teacher. You should not leave one child out if you really must hand out party bags. Show the child you are better than that.

Please read all of the posts

@Jamboree01

Please read all of the posts

Why dont you read all of the posts.

The school is aware.

And other posters are the ones that have labelled the situation as bullying.

I have read all of the posts.

OP said clearly that the 9 year old child boy wasn’t bullying her 9 year old boy