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Givemeabreak88 · 2021-03-06T09:36:10+00:00

What are your thoughts on giving a child the day off school on their birthday? If they are asking for the day off..

ZaraW · 06/03/2021 09:59

@Dutchesss

For those saying no, would you go to work on your birthday or book the day off? I'm lucky both my children's birthdays fall in the summer holidays so I haven't had to think about it.

I'm an adult I get to manage my own time a child doesn't have that privilege.

SnowyBranches · 06/03/2021 10:00

@Dutchesss

For those saying no, would you go to work on your birthday or book the day off? I'm lucky both my children's birthdays fall in the summer holidays so I haven't had to think about it.

I’d go to work on my birthday. It wouldn’t occur to me to book the day off. What are you going to do?! We always had cake on peoples birthdays when I worked in an office so plenty of people must have been in on their birthdays, and as a line manager I can’t remember anyone booking the day off because it was their birthday.

therealteamdebbie · 06/03/2021 10:01

@Dutchesss

For those saying no, would you go to work on your birthday or book the day off? I'm lucky both my children's birthdays fall in the summer holidays so I haven't had to think about it.

looking at the amount of birthday cakes brought in the office, not many people take a day off for their birthday.

I would never even think about booking a day off, how weird. I'd happily take the week off and go away, but just a day? No.

SnowyBranches · 06/03/2021 10:01

My birthday is late May, so - shock horror - I have had exams on my birthday, GCSEs, A Levels, finals...There wouldn’t have been any getting around that, so if I had been brought up to believe my birthday was sacrosanct and I should remember it and keep it holy, I would have been in for an upsetting shock.

MissDollyMix · 06/03/2021 10:03

No. All Kids (with term time birthdays) have to go to school on their birthdays, that’s just how it is. They’ll make a fuss of him and he’ll be special for a day. It might even help him to like school. Open presents before school. I never make my kids wait until after school before we begin celebrations.

therealteamdebbie · 06/03/2021 10:03

@Givemeabreak88

Excuse me I’m not a key worker, my child has a disability hence being in school, go be rude somewhere else.

Touched a nerve? Why am I being rude? If you need a space, surely you are a "key worker" on that day too...

RampantIvy · 06/03/2021 10:04

@Dutchesss

For those saying no, would you go to work on your birthday or book the day off? I'm lucky both my children's birthdays fall in the summer holidays so I haven't had to think about it.

Yes. I always worked on my birthday if it fell on one of my work days.

therealteamdebbie · 06/03/2021 10:04

@SnowyBranches

My birthday is late May, so - shock horror - I have had exams on my birthday, GCSEs, A Levels, finals...There wouldn’t have been any getting around that, so if I had been brought up to believe my birthday was sacrosanct and I should remember it and keep it holy, I would have been in for an upsetting shock.

What? You didn't demand an exemption and reschedule of the exams because of your birthday?

I am shocked!

MissDollyMix · 06/03/2021 10:04

Oh and FYI, most of the kids who have been at home during this period haven’t been ‘off’, if they’re anything like my kids they’ve been working pretty hard!

Original poster

Givemeabreak88 · 06/03/2021 10:04

It’s not just key workers kids that still can attend school but I will be ignoring you now anyway, I never claimed to be a Key worker 🙄

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minniemoocher · 06/03/2021 10:05

No, it's just a birthday - life doesn't stop

jessstan2 · 06/03/2021 10:05

The way schools are at the moment, with children in and out at short notice, I don't think it would matter. As long as your daughter doesn't expect it every year.

Dutchesss · 06/03/2021 10:06

In my office people usually book their birthday off. Take a spa day or something else nice. I've never worked on my birthday though I used to go to school on my birthday.

Original poster

Givemeabreak88 · 06/03/2021 10:06

I’m gonna give him the day off, we’ve had to isolate so many times And I imagine with all kids back that will be happening more and more, so one day off won’t hurt, thanks for the opinions anyway

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needadvice54321 · 06/03/2021 10:07

No I wouldn't, IMO it gives a child an impression that school isn't important and I don't want children to think they have a choice over whether they attend or not, esp a child who already doesn't like it (like my DS!)

Soubriquet · 06/03/2021 10:08

Here we go again

Shall I do?

Everyone:- No
Op:- but he really wants to
Everyone:- still no
Op:- I’m gonna do it anyway

Why bother asking if you was going to do what you wanted to anyway?

Therarestone · 06/03/2021 10:08

Why the bloody hell not. Life is tough enough at the moment, find the joy where we can.

lottiegarbanzo · 06/03/2021 10:09

No.

But I know a lot of children have taken the day off home-school on their birthday (I don't know if they made up the work), which, although it is school, is less obvious.

unchienandalusia · 06/03/2021 10:09

Why bother asking OP?

Seriously you should be tackling the not liking school thing and giving a day off on his birthday will only make this worse.

Are you going to do it every year? Dangerous precedent to set.

ancientgran · 06/03/2021 10:09

@SnowyBranches

My birthday is late May, so - shock horror - I have had exams on my birthday, GCSEs, A Levels, finals...There wouldn’t have been any getting around that, so if I had been brought up to believe my birthday was sacrosanct and I should remember it and keep it holy, I would have been in for an upsetting shock.

You didn't do you A levels/GCSEs/finals when you were 7 did you? Would it really have been a shock when you were doing your finals that the rules that applied when you were 7 were a bit different when you were 21?

NameChangedForThisFeb21 · 06/03/2021 10:10

@Dutchesss

For those saying no, would you go to work on your birthday or book the day off? I'm lucky both my children's birthdays fall in the summer holidays so I haven't had to think about it.

Some of us aren’t entitled to book holidays whenever we feel like it and have to follow the guidelines of our employers - if my birthday falls outside of my employer’s set holidays I have to go in. It’s the same for anyone who works termtime for example.

I think OP this sets a very poor example of instilling a good work ethic in children. Most people I know can’t take the day off work merely because it’s their birthday. Time off should only be for sickness, emergencies or bereavement.

Also birthdays at school can be quite exciting. Add to that having something to look forward to after school (trip to a drive thru or a takeaway, ice cream etc at the moment as there aren’t many options) then you’ve got the best of both worlds. One of my best birthday memories is opening presents early with a fancy breakfast and then going into school (which I also hated) and my friends making the day quite special with a card signed by the class and everyone wishing me happy birthday throughout the day. Then at night we had a family meal at a restaurant. Great day. Skiving school and doing nothing at home with just my Mum wouldn’t have improved that day.

ancientgran · 06/03/2021 10:11

@unchienandalusia

Why bother asking OP?

Seriously you should be tackling the not liking school thing and giving a day off on his birthday will only make this worse.

Are you going to do it every year? Dangerous precedent to set.

The OP specifically said it had been a hard year, I think it has for many of us so I don't think every year comes into it.

therealteamdebbie · 06/03/2021 10:11

It's so depressing to see how people have abused the school place system and how others children have been penalised because of it. It really shows a nasty side of society.

ancientgran · 06/03/2021 10:12

@Givemeabreak88

I’m gonna give him the day off, we’ve had to isolate so many times And I imagine with all kids back that will be happening more and more, so one day off won’t hurt, thanks for the opinions anyway

Hope he has a lovely day.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 06/03/2021 10:12

Touched a nerve? Why am I being rude? If you need a space, surely you are a "key worker" on that day too...

I don't know @therealteamdebbie why ARE you being rude? Why would she be a key worker on that day? Did you not read the part that said her child was in school due to a disability? Or did you think it was only key worker children who were allowed in school?