Day off school on birthday?

[Givemeabreak88]

What are your thoughts on giving a child the day off school on their birthday? If they are asking for the day off..

@Givemeabreak88

Yep her birthday is in January, she books it in advance as says it’s a family members wedding.

Every year? I'm sure the school would have caught on to the lies, and put 2 and 2 together.

I still think you need to get to the bottom of your DC hating school. I've seen the situation so many times, and it's important to work on the problems before it ends up as complete school refusal.

No I don't think a child should have the day off on their birthday. About 1/3 or 1/4 of the time it will be on a weekend in any case. I think occasionally saying no to a child's request is a good thing, a useful lesson for life.

My mum always let us have our birthdays off - we had a really poor work ethic as adults! Used to ring in all of the time until I got pulled in once and then sorted myself out. Thinking back I’m sad about it because when it was my friends birthdays we used to always let them be the leader and stuff in games and I missed all of that.

No not unless everyone in the family was off and you'd booked something special

Do it this once and he'll want it every year and it's much harder saying no when you've let them once.

I sympathise. I have a ds who has never enjoyed school. He'd just always rather be doing something else.

my DDs birthday is in the school holidays and she rarely gets to spend it with friends as they are often on holiday. DS has a termtime birthday and in primary at least I think they try and make it a special day at school

some work places give birthdays off as holidays though.

No

As I have said @Givemeabreak88 mine never go to school on their birthday. My parenting choice that it seems many don’t agree with. But I’m the parent I decide. There are many decisions others make as parents that I totally disagree with but I don’t say nothing because that is their child and they must do what they think is best.

We have a birthday in a couple of weeks and child will be off school for the day.

some work places give birthdays off as holidays though

Probably because people ring in for the sake of it as their parents have let them do it as kids! Saves them having to pull them in for a fake back to work!

What a sad thread. Way to instil good values and work ethic OP.

@Givemeabreak88

He doesn’t like school hence him asking for the day off. He will be turning 7. Just to add he’s been at school throughout so he hasn’t been at home.

So teaching staffs kept going into school to support your child during a lockdown, but you are happy to keep him off for a jolly?

I'd rather resent the fact you were sending him in all that time if your schedule is that flexible, frankly.

I wouldn’t normally no!

I did give Ds the day off the other week, during lockdown, as I’d taken the day off to be with him, so obviously a key worker space wasn’t needed when I’m not working.

Appalling! Such low standards to do this

@givemeabreak88

Teachers can't just book days off for any event. A cousin's wedding wouldn't cut it. They'd have to take unpaid leave. Might also get noticed it coincides with their birthday every year. Unless this person jumps schools every year. A mature adult would simple celebrate in the evening or at the weekend. Better than a random week day off anyway, with usually the requirement to go back to work the next day.

Both my kids have term time birthdays and are happy with birthday meal on the day and party the weekend before or after. Makes it longer too.

Yes, one day is really no big deal. Home schooling has made me realise how little they actually do in a day. I especially would as your child has been in school throughout.

Why are you asking for permission on here? Just do it.

Ps I took a day off annual leave. I obviously couldn’t do that for eight weeks to keep Ds off before anyone says I don’t need the place.

I wouldn’t be doing now that schools are going back though or on any other year.

Give him the day off. Life is way too short!

Okbussitout I was being facetious, hence the grin at the end.

If I took a week off every year in January to go abroad for my birthday and claimed it was for a friend's wedding, my HT would be very suspicious. Bollocks indeed as a PP said.

And it's definitely the wrong message to give a child that they can stay off on their birthday. In a large school that could be several kids off everyday.

And if he doesn't like school, one day off a year won't be much consolation anyway.

No way.

I’ve never worked or been to school on my birthday. Nobody has ever batted an eyelid, school employer or otherwise. The teachers would only be a bit frustrated if it landed on sports day, I’d come in for my races then go🤷🏽‍♀️ I did live opposite though.

Actually my current employer just gives you the day off free if you’re in for it.

So sad to see that your child does not enjoy school , can you talk to your teacher about this and find out the root of the problem and tackle that. I hope this gets sorted for both your child and your sake.
I see you have made the decision about not sending him in this year and they don’t allow sweets but some schools with this policy allow the birthday child to bring in a present for the class - for example a book, game etc that can be read / used that day and subsequent days such as wet play days. Just an idea you could ask for next year so your child feels it is their special day.

Ah you know what? Life's too short and been particularly crappy for young kids this year. I'd probably agree if my primary aged kid was asking. They've not had very much to look forward to recently.

@Givemeabreak88

Yep her birthday is in January, she books it in advance as says it’s a family members wedding.

Well isn't she a credit to the teaching profession, I wonder if she's involved in absence monitoring at the school.

Glad she never taught my children