To think I wasn't rude to husbands colleagues?

[catnoirr]

Good Afternoon,

It's been playing on my mind all morning, yesterday I had to go to DH work to collect something. He's just a manager in retail.

As I was waiting a colleague came up to me and was like "Oh you're (dh name) wife, been wondering what you look like!" and started giggling, and then she goes "Aww he's such a good man, he doesn't even flirt with anyone and customers come in asking if he's married, giving their numbers but he just doesn't entertain it! He must really love you a lot!"

I just responded like "That's normal, don't think I'm gonna give him brownie points for acting like a married man" (I said it in a nice tone so not serious or anything)

Dh comes over to give me what I needed and colleague goes "I was just telling your wife how loyal you are compared to previous managers" and Dh just goes "oh yeah, but she doesn't appreciate it" (all jokey!)

I didn't say anything just smiled, said my goodbyes etc then left.

Dh comes home demanding why I was rude to his colleague embarrassing him. I said, I'm sorry but I don't appreciate the first time someone comes up to me gushing how you don't flirt with people lol, It's normal to not be disloyal.
He then goes on about how she's only young and was just trying to be nice (I'm 27, the girl was around 20). I said I don't need reassuring from a stranger lol but now it's just weird.

I'm literally dumbfounded at the whole situation lmao! He's now moody saying I've embarrassed him!
I am heavily pregnant and maybe hormonal but I don't think I'm being unreasonable here?

She just sounds very very immature. Maybe she was nervous around you, being her boss's wife and all?

If I approached my managers pregnant wife while she was waiting for him I wouldn't choose that topic of conversation. I'd probably say things like 'hi are you manager's wife? I've heard a lot of good things! He mentioned you're pregnant, how far along are you? You look great, etc'. Very strange to say out of nowhere how he's loyal and women try and give him their numbers all the time.

Well. He really thinks he's something doesn't he? He's not very good at the MO he's trying to achieve either. Obviously he's trying to make you feel insecure and well aware of how lusted after he is by every woman who comes across him, but he's being so clunky and transparent about it. I don't know how you kept a straight face to the women wearing make up as soon as they met him/women bending over in the aisles comments. What a prat. He loves it that this younger colleague fancies him and he's triangulating you both.

Honestly, the more you say, the worse he sounds.

@namechangetheworld

Lots of projecting going on here.

Her social skills are clearly lacking, but I'd probably let her off as she's young and clearly not the brightest. You were downright rude IMO.

read the op's posts at least

hes an arrogant cock who thinks his wife should be fawning over him because hes so desirable

She meant she's flirted with him but she considers he's been loyal to you. So far. People always give themselves away with statements like that. It's called leakage. She wanted to let you know you have competition.

I can kind of understand her putting her foot in it socially at that age but what’s weird is then bitching about you to your husband! A bit too comfortable if you ask me..

Your husband sounds like a manipulative twat with all his attempts to make you jealous and defending the way his appalling colleague acted. I would be having a serious rethink as to whether he is as nice a guy and you think he is.

@WaltzingBetty

Mentionitis.

They fancy each other. Be careful OP.

In no world is it appropriate for a colleague to comment to their bosses spouse about his fidelity or otherwise. I'd be telling your DH to be careful, if he doesn't have boundaries he could easily end up with a sexual harrassment claim

This . Stupid girl has a crush on him. She was baiting you.

I cannot imagine ever saying anything so personal to a managers wife I’d met for the first time.

Your H sounds like an idiot who enjoys flirting with this colleague and wants you to fight over him.

Your husband is actually cruel and horrible to stress you out and argue wit you (over literally non event), when your eight months pregnant.

I’d shut him down each and every time he tells you someone has asked him out, bent over, worn make up. Roll your eyes laugh hysterically and say yeah surrreee.

I wouldn’t want to be married or such a twat.

@Mmn654123

She fancies your husband.

She is attempting to normalise extra marital affairs in his mind through her interactions with him by suggesting everyone is at it, including his predecessor.

He is currently a normal loyal husband. Some young women find that a challenge. She isn’t your friend and she certainly isn’t his friend. Careful how you handle this.

This.

I had a similar experience once with an ex BF. We bumped into a colleague of his at a restaurant and she said: “Nice to meet you. Can you believe everyone thinks me and him are f?” In a way which was clearly designed to put the idea into his head.

She's trying to put doubts in your head and I'd wager that's because she actually fancies him herself.

Your DH is acting like a bell end.

I'd be keeping a close eye on things after that.

She sounds immature op, she fancies your husband and was being passive aggressive trying to bring you down a peg or two on the sly . Cheeky mare

You said nothing wrong. She was odd to talk to you like that!!! She ought to have said, hi nice to meet you!

I find this hard to believe, I can't imagine this ever happening.

Your husband doesn't sound nice at all. He's a manipulative bastard isn't he?

@U2HasTheEdge

I find this hard to believe, I can't imagine this ever happening.

Your husband doesn't sound nice at all. He's a manipulative bastard isn't he?

Agree.. lmao

She likes him obviously. YANBU op.

had to work full-time from home and support us all and look after our toddler while he galavanted about breaking all sorts of rules... moving house etc doing everything myself. And then he comes home with new stories of customers fingerling him, colleagues suddenly wearing makeup to work after they met him and other colleagues noticing this, to apparently colleagues bending down in front of him.
when I try to get this across how it sounds, he's like "I think you have lost touch on socialising because you haven't for over a year"

He sounds like a horrible gaslighting git. He sounds like he loves female attention and wants you to be jealous.

And that's quite apart from him losing his job (why?)), breaking Covid rules and being useless when you moved house - he just sounds horrible and unsupportive.

She was either trying be catty OR she has some very low expectations of relationships. He's way off.

I agree he sounds like he loves the attention and being thought of as "a nice guy" . Despite actually being a bit of a sleaze.

@catnoirr

She has a crush on your husband.

What a weird and inappropriate thing to say to her colleague wife.

I think your husband just enjoys somewhat the attention and the banter at work he has at work.

This definitely happened lol

What an odd thing to say. What an even more odd thing to say to someone you've just met for the first time!

My ex used to behave like this then convince me I was being paranoid and irrational. Turns out I wasn't and he was a lying cheating scumbag. Not saying your dh is the same but there's definitely something off in his behaviour if he dismisses your concerns and tries to tell you black is white.

I've just read your updates.
Good god doesn't he just love himself!
How lucky you are to have him with all these women falling all over him.
I cannot imagine my husband coming home from work telling me about females wearing make up etc.
The man is deluded