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Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to ask if you ever wonder about certain posters/threads?

710 replies

mxmxm · 26/02/2021 13:39

i’ve used MN for years, and i often think about particular threads or posters that stuck out to me or i interacted with ages ago that i haven’t been able to find (or just seemed to stop posting without a trace) since then.

anyone else get strangely nostalgic/curious thinking back to threads/posters and wonder what became of them?

OP posts:
FellowFlipFlop · 01/03/2021 22:09

AF. What a ledge. Made me open my eyes to the fact that the man I was in a relationship with was a total shithead. Didn't want to hear it at the time and flounced off the thread but it really got me thinking and I reckon I ended it with him much sooner than I would have if I hadn't got some tough love off AF Grin that was probably 6 years ago now and I'm still grateful

Emeraldshamrock · 01/03/2021 23:43

Not Wilf himself.. Just people making comments made me feel like i shouldn't post anymore.
Ignore them.
That was a really lovely update, I'm glad things are good.
I'll hold the handbags! This made me laugh. Smile

Thattwatoverthere · 02/03/2021 00:17

@GreenSlide

Not sure if she was on mumsnet but does anyone remember ebonyhamster from DS. She posted as tinktinktinkerbell on other forums too. I think she died a few years ago Sad
I remember her from Cosmopolitan years ago. She ruffled some feathers but I was always fond of her. That's so sad about her dying. I always hoped she'd pop up here one day
catsrus · 02/03/2021 01:01

@WeatherwaxOn

AuntieMabel, Soda bread Dolphins -& Techno - TrickyTreeLou stopped posting after an issue she'd raised escalated irl (nothing dangerous). All has calmed down now. She's doing well, as is her little boy.
So pleased to hear that. I was a regular on her pregnancy thread and subsequent threads about Adam and George and the lovely neighbours. I was off MN for a bit and she seemed to just vanish. Really pleased they are both well! I often think about her.
catsrus · 02/03/2021 01:21

I often think of the husband and children of the lovely Biscuitsandbandages who died of leukaemia back in 2014.

She'd just had a baby girl, had two young sons, she and her husband both GPs who ran marathons to raise money for charity, her husband also sounded lovely

She was posting from the ward, so scared that her children might forget her, especially the baby, if she died. Another MNetter was a nurse there so was able to update us when she did die, Her colleagues set up a charity crowdfunder in her name and it was full of donations from MNetters.

She was called Teresa, her baby will be 7 or 8 now, I do hope they are all happy and well.

thenewduchessofhastings · 02/03/2021 01:41

There was a thread in December when a poster with a older baby daughter needed a handhold as she packed her and her DD and dog up one morning and escaped to family in another part of the country as her DH was physically abusive;he hit her a week before their wedding and her parents had persuaded her it was pre wedding nerves.

Thé police were involved and his brother and sister were supporting her as he's previously abused his ex before her.

The thread was being moved to a secret place on here in case her ex found it.I lost the thread about that.I really hope she's okay and she's been able to find a house where her parents live.

BonnieDundee · 02/03/2021 05:17

abusive;he hit her a week before their wedding and her parents had persuaded her it was pre wedding nerves.

That's awful ShockSad

freckles20 · 02/03/2021 07:37

@AnyFucker was instrumental in me untangling myself from a horrendous relationship where my partner and DC's dad had developed a gambling addiction, treated me horribly and had secretly lost tens and tens of thousands of pounds.

I had the help of a therapist but without the advice of posters like her the scales would not have fallen from my eyes, and I would not have been able to see her almost text book patterns of deceit and over attachment that were happening.

That was almost ten years ago. I got my life back, remarried and now know what a healthy happy relationship looks like.

I'll be forever grateful.

You can't make an omelette without breaking some eggs- that's how I see @AnyFucker 's posts.

freckles20 · 02/03/2021 07:38

Sorry I've no idea why my entire post was in bold.

ZackaryQuack · 02/03/2021 07:52

One that I keep thinking about is a couple of years old.

A poster found a painting under her bed and no-one could explain where it'd come from. I can't remember if I'd added it to my watch list or commented to go back to it, but it eventually disappeared.

NeverDropYourMoonCup · 02/03/2021 08:18

She asked about how disability affected people and got ripped into on one £ site because it was decided she was clearly asking for information to flesh out a claim for DLA. Absolutely torn to pieces, doxxed repeatedly, followed from site to site and.people claimed they'd tracked her down and notified the DSS of her fraud.

NeverDropYourMoonCup · 02/03/2021 08:22

@NeverDropYourMoonCup

She asked about how disability affected people and got ripped into on one £ site because it was decided she was clearly asking for information to flesh out a claim for DLA. Absolutely torn to pieces, doxxed repeatedly, followed from site to site and.people claimed they'd tracked her down and notified the DSS of her fraud.
Quote didn't work. I meant Tinktinktinkerbell/ebony hamster.
isthismylifenow · 02/03/2021 08:44

I really am not that good as all of you for remembering posters names.

I am going way back now, but do any of you remember the poster whose dc was ill, and she had to go back and forth for hospital appointments, and was battling financially. So many posters sent her money, she posted pictures with the dc wearing the new outfits she had bought etc. Then some started to get suspicious, she claimed to be in the UK, and someone found that one of the pictures she had posted, that the plug socket in the background was a US one and not a British one. I think that was my first ever experience with a troll.

AndOffFlewMyLastFuck · 02/03/2021 09:17

@Elderflower14, that's so lovely to hear

EllieQ · 02/03/2021 09:57

@missbridgerton

I'm glad someone mentioned RedStripeLassie - such a deluded and battered down young mum with 2 kids and a druggie waster of a DH. She wouldn't ever listen that he was dragging her down. She did appear for a while as Cocodemoll or something but was very quickly recognised as "oh god are you that poster.........".

I really hope she's got herself and those kids away from him and his family. Her poor DD didn't even have a winter coat but her DH had his weed.

I often wonder what happened to her too. My daughter is about the same age as hers, and I felt quite upset at the thought of her little girl without a winter coat because of the money spent on weed.

I remember one thread where she’d posted asking if other parents would judge her DD’s behaviour in a playground. She mentioned in passing that her DP was there but was sitting ‘having a smoke’ and seemed astounded when people replied saying the issue would be the dad smoking weed in a playground, not a toddler having a bit of a tantrum Sad

BIWI · 02/03/2021 10:42

I think/feel it's important to point out that an awful lot of the posts/posters that are being discussed on this thread are/were trolls.

It's a lesson to all of us not to become too invested in tales from random strangers on the internet. Especially if that involves volunteering money or gifts or time to help them out.

TimeIhadaNameChange · 02/03/2021 16:47

@Elderflower14 - I'm pretty sure I spotted a post from Wilf in a FB group a while back. Sorry to hear about Bumbledog.

CharityDingle · 02/03/2021 16:49

@BIWI

I think/feel it's important to point out that an awful lot of the posts/posters that are being discussed on this thread are/were trolls.

It's a lesson to all of us not to become too invested in tales from random strangers on the internet. Especially if that involves volunteering money or gifts or time to help them out.

Exactly.
AlternativePerspective · 02/03/2021 17:07

I think/feel it's important to point out that an awful lot of the posts/posters that are being discussed on this thread are/were trolls. And I will go one further.

Many deaths which are announced on sites like this one aren’t real.

There’s a horrifying statistic that the vast vast majority of deaths which are reported on Internet forums are in fact not real, but are simply someone killing off their internet persona.

Obviously not all, but e.g. if a poster posts constantly and people might be a bit suspicious and then a husband comes online to announce that sadly they’ve died, there is potentially a chance that they’re not, and that it’s that persona which has died.

I personally know of three trolls whose deaths were faked. Not here but on a different sight. They were all close friends with a longstanding member of the site, so when they died by various means nobody had reason to doubt. Until an IP clash flagged up the longstanding friend as being all four of the personas. She would just create one, make a lot of friends, gain their sympathy, and then end its life because it couldn’t take any more, but because she then wasn’t getting any attention she would do the same again with a different persona.

As far as I’m aware she did this prior to being discovered as well, I only know about 3 of them.

While some might say she deserves sympathy as clearly she must be mentally ill, I disagree. I saw the aftermath of what she did. She befriended many people specifically because they had MH issues themselves, because they felt understood by this new friend, and in one instance a member had formed an online relationship with one of them and was about to get to the point of meeting up when the persona killed itself.

user1471462428 · 02/03/2021 17:38

I really hate the troll hunting/nasty comments on domestic abuse threads. I had a thread after I bitten what I thought was tip of my partner’s tongue off after he tried to force himself on me. There was blood all over me and I was locked in my en-suite. I posted looking for support as I was terrified he’d report me to the police and had a couple of pages of support then got trashed and troll hunted. I was told I was angry with him because I’d asked for a break and wasn’t given one. I didn’t have one once of self esteem after years of abuse and had found the anger to fight back. Unfortunately that and the attitude of my shitty family make me feel like the most worthless person on earth. I believe you = you a worthless tramp who deserves it on that particular thread.

medebourne · 02/03/2021 18:30

Somebody upthread mentioned gabbyloggon

I remember him/her very well as he used to post constantly. A lot of his posts and threads were nonsense and quite irritating but in those days there was a core of regular posters who seemed to police the board (MN royalty) and didn't allow anyone to say anything negative about him. There was this kind of 'aw bless' patronising attitude to his threads.

He reappeared with a new user name but his posting style was so distinctive it was obviously him. Finally I think he disappeared for good.

I always got the impression he was an elderly man who read the Telegraph and thought he was very amusing.

I realise I come across as very intolerant and after all of course he was harmless.

Does anyone remember him?

Elderflower14 · 02/03/2021 19:19

[quote TimeIhadaNameChange]@Elderflower14 - I'm pretty sure I spotted a post from Wilf in a FB group a while back. Sorry to hear about Bumbledog.[/quote]
Wilf is all over Facebook so that's more than likely!! 🤣 🤣

louise5754 · 02/03/2021 20:37

How do you know if someone had died though?

ToffeeNotCoffee · 02/03/2021 21:41

How do you know if someone had died though?

Because someone purporting to be their husband/wife/partner etc will use their account/user name to tell site users that they have passed away.

My sympathies to those that knew the deceased in real life. However, if someone is pretending that they knew them and are sad that they died and it's the troll poster under a new username that is pretty low.

GBand · 02/03/2021 22:37

Oh god yeah I remember a husband coming on a suicide thread to say he'd found her with the noose just in the Nick of time Hmm

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