to ask if you ever wonder about certain posters/threads?

[mxmxm]

i’ve used MN for years, and i often think about particular threads or posters that stuck out to me or i interacted with ages ago that i haven’t been able to find (or just seemed to stop posting without a trace) since then.

anyone else get strangely nostalgic/curious thinking back to threads/posters and wonder what became of them?

I also wonder about BertrandRussell and what happened? She used to always post on threads about surname-changing on marriage. Also anything about body hair removal! But she was always polite and well-reasoned.

Also, there was a poster called AnyFucker and there was a strange phenomena relating to her that she used to only have to say the most basic, banal thing and a whole stream of posters would then be falling over themselves to say, “I agree with AF,” “AF has nailed it,” etc etc. It was quite sycophantic at times and I always wondered what was happening there.

@SparkysMagicPiano

She has not suggested she has or intends to act on this.

Then there is absolutely no need to mention it, especially as the poster she is referring to has actually been posting on this thread!

No need for the emoji face either.

These are people's real lives, not some silly game.

Well, I don’t disagree, but I don’t see why you have appointed yourself that poster’s defender, as no one is being exposed or identified, or threatened with it. And many posts on the thread are about threads with obvious troll hallmarks , so many people don’t appear to grasp the distinction between ‘people’s real lives’ and ‘a silly game’.

I haven't seen Bertrand for a while either, I might not always have agreed with her point but they were always well reasoned arguments. I'll catch up on the thread now.

I often think of the pregnant poster whos dp threatened the smash her face in becuase she switched off the wifi in the early hours of the morning when he was gaming. She went to the hospital that night but never advised if she had left the dp or not. There has also been more than one post from woman asking if they have been raped by their dps, those posts always stay with me for days.

@Fleapit
I don't need anyone to defend me.

I’m new to MN - there was one about 3 weeks ago that got taken down . A woman who was ding with husbands best friend ? He was prioritised over needs of OO and child ? She left was staying in a air b n b with dc and pets ? Then it just ended ? Anyone ?

@Hufflepuffmamma

I’m new to MN - there was one about 3 weeks ago that got taken down . A woman who was ding with husbands best friend ? He was prioritised over needs of OO and child ? She left was staying in a air b n b with dc and pets ? Then it just ended ? Anyone ?

That was taken down by Mumsnet because it was a troll. Annoying because i was invested in that thread too. Her DPs friends sounded horrendous.

@WhereDoMyBluebirdsFly ok. I have much to learn. How do they know when it is a troll? I think I may be over invested.

[quote Hufflepuffmamma]@WhereDoMyBluebirdsFly ok. I have much to learn. How do they know when it is a troll? I think I may be over invested.[/quote]
I'm crap at spotting troll threads, but they usually post stories that are shocking and you are worried about the safety of the poster. They update very regularly with things getting much worse (like 'so I confronted him like you all said and he slapped me! What do I do now?'), or things change suddenly, like that poster managing to find a new job that included free accommodation for her, a baby and multiple pets within a weekend. Mumsnet can look at a poster's IP address to see where they're posting from, their posting history etc. so they can see if their story checks out.

@Fleapit

I haven't "appointed" myself anything and I am not "defending" anyone.

Simply (ap)pointing out that there are real, human people behind usernames and the casual flinging around of "She namechanged to XXX" or "I think I know this person in real life" can sometimes be a dangerous path to go down on what is otherwise quite a lovely thread which shows that even anonymous posters can really impact the lives of others.

AnyFucker used to be very active and helpful on the Relationship board, and she is still around.

I hope BertrandRussell is still around under a different name. Although I think I would recognise her.

It was my 1st MN thread, about 8-9 years ago. I'd googled something else and ended up on MN.

My recollections are a bit vague. The poster had 'roses' or 'red roses' in her name, was feeling suicidal due to the death of her young daughter (called 'Alice' on the thread, not real name) in the past that she hadn't come to terms with. I believe her partner had left her recently. At one point her threads were taken down for 'investigation' but were reinstated.

I can't remember if she stopped posting or if I simply lost the threads. But I often think of her.

The woman who wanted to extend her kitchen into the shared passage between her and next door.

Another thread I remember is my first ever MN thread. Do you remember yours? It was The Missing Series 1 with James Nesbitt. Loved it and loved the thread.

@AndOffFlewMyLastFuck

Where is wilfs mum? We used to have regular updates about him and his dog, I loved those threads, hearing how he was doing *@Oldat40* I am still cheering you on

Hi. Thanks for asking I'm still here... It was made abundantly clear to me that I should stop posting about Wilf so I did! We sadly lost Bumbledog eighteen months ago.

@StanfordPines

The woman who wanted to extend her kitchen into the shared passage between her and next door.

No way?!!!

[quote Hufflepuffmamma]@WhereDoMyBluebirdsFly ok. I have much to learn. How do they know when it is a troll? I think I may be over invested.[/quote]
to add on to what @WhereDoMyBluebirdsFly said, another telling sign is often that the poster will be in an emergency/some kind of urgent predicament yet will have the time to repeatedly come onto the thread and post updates in real time immediately as things ‘happen’

@Aposterhasnoname Oh god that has made me go cold. I hope she is okay.

The first thread I really became invested in was Zombie's journey. I'd been around, but I followed that through the whole thing. It was the first time I felt like part of a community. Until I was bluntly told to bugger off by those who were the REAL community. It was quite a lesson. I do wonder how the hospice she ended her journey in felt when all the donations stayed pouring in. Brave woman to the last.

I saw AnyFucker get that beating recently and it felt awful, how people pile on when they can. Not called for, when someone - anyone - is asking for support.

I think often of @lBoreofWhabylon who gave me the sagest advice and support when selling and buying homes. All will be well. MN was my rock during that period and I will always be grateful.

What was the sage advice?!

@HeyGirlHeyBoy if that was re my post, the advice was ongoing, but what stuck with me and is still helping me today was the attached. It is amazing how often it is useful.

That sure is good advice and I need to remind myself of it :) My DDad is a big Julian of Norwich fan!