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to ask if you ever wonder about certain posters/threads?

710 replies

mxmxm · 26/02/2021 13:39

i’ve used MN for years, and i often think about particular threads or posters that stuck out to me or i interacted with ages ago that i haven’t been able to find (or just seemed to stop posting without a trace) since then.

anyone else get strangely nostalgic/curious thinking back to threads/posters and wonder what became of them?

OP posts:
SleepingBeaut · 28/02/2021 09:29

@Mydarlingsleepthief

I often think about lostjennywren I think she was called. It was years ago, and she was dying and leaving behind a very young child. Sad
I just looked up her thread it’s heartbreaking and the last few troll hunting posts not nice 😞
PegasusReturns · 28/02/2021 09:33

I remember dizzymare very well. I’d lost my DC very shortly before she made up her story and one of her posts in particular was lifted almost entirely from one of my threads on the bereavement board.

I remember being away and staying up half the night as the story unravelled and being horrified.

StepOutOfLine · 28/02/2021 09:51

@RosieLemonade, the poster is on this thread. Not sure what you mean by "based on" as the poster you are referencing is very genuine.

Fleapit · 28/02/2021 09:59

[quote StepOutOfLine]@RosieLemonade, the poster is on this thread. Not sure what you mean by "based on" as the poster you are referencing is very genuine.[/quote]
I don’t think @RosieLemonade was implying the poster was a troll, only that because of the tragic circumstances that poster often references on here, she has an idea who she may be in RL.

SparkysMagicPiano · 28/02/2021 10:46

she has an idea who she may be in RL.

But why do you even need to say this?
What is the point?

I would direct the same comment to all those who have posted "I think A namechanged to B". People namechange for all sorts of reasons, but that doesn't make it OK to literally post someone's NC details on a public thread.

louise5754 · 28/02/2021 11:20

The woman who lived in a house surrounded by fields and found a mobile phone in her garden that didn't belong to anyone in her house.

I've not read the whole thread but I recently posted on here under a different name and got accused of making it up, on glue, cool story bro. It wasn't deleted even when I asked it to be so obviously MNHQ didn't have any concerns. It upset me so much I had to delete the app for a week. So I thought that might appear.

ToffeeNotCoffee · 28/02/2021 11:26

There was a wife whose husband just announced he was leaving because he was unhappy. There was a fairly minor argument prior to this. He told their kids he was leaving and they were upset. Spent a couple of nights at his Mum's house then decided he had made a mistake and wanted to come back.

His STBEW said, 'too late, you told the kids we were splitting up.'

I wonder what the outcome was.

StepOutOfLine · 28/02/2021 11:26

@SparkysMagicPiano

she has an idea who she may be in RL.

But why do you even need to say this?
What is the point?

I would direct the same comment to all those who have posted "I think A namechanged to B". People namechange for all sorts of reasons, but that doesn't make it OK to literally post someone's NC details on a public thread.

I wonder if MN will eventually adopt the rigid doxxing rules that platforms like Reddit use, where mentioning someone's former user name is classed as doxxing? They should really I think. I know who one or two posters mentioned here are posting as now, but it isn't appropriate to say so. If someone has namechanged, it's for a reason!
ParkheadParadise · 28/02/2021 11:54

I know who you mean and also think I know who she is based on bits and pieces. Not that I would ever ask if I was right. shock

What is it you want to know you are right about with your shocked face @RosieLemonade

NoraLuka · 28/02/2021 12:09

I don’t remember her exact name but it was along the lines of Ghost-something. She had about 5 kids and her life seemed quite chaotic. This was a few years ago and last I saw she was thinking about moving towns (somewhere on the south coast, maybe Hastings?) and kept posting asking what she should do. Don’t know how that turned out but I hope she’s ok.

CharityDingle · 28/02/2021 12:45

@PegasusReturns

I remember dizzymare very well. I’d lost my DC very shortly before she made up her story and one of her posts in particular was lifted almost entirely from one of my threads on the bereavement board.

I remember being away and staying up half the night as the story unravelled and being horrified.

That's shocking, I'm really sorry to read that. What an appalling thing to do. Sad
wrigglewriggles · 28/02/2021 12:48

Not sure how so many of you remember peoples names on here.

Several posts from the past few years I often wonder about.
Mini and her child - do hope everything is calm and lovely for them both.

A woman who's husband wanted a divorce, moved out (maybe with OW) she needed to sell her house but had two teenage /early twenty kids to think about. She started working I think in a supermarket. She was so down on herself and it all seemed so hard. I hope she managed to find a peaceful space.

The woman, I think it's been mentioned already, who's husband/partner was caught drink driving and she was planning on leaving. How did that end up?

A woman who was pregnant, her partner wanted her to abort but she couldn't/didn't want to go through with it. I think she returned to South Africa? Hope things panned out well for her too.

So many about woman trying to escape abusive relationships and the great support they receive on here. All give me hope that I'll be free one day soon too.

Forthis1 · 28/02/2021 12:57

@NoraLuka

I don’t remember her exact name but it was along the lines of Ghost-something. She had about 5 kids and her life seemed quite chaotic. This was a few years ago and last I saw she was thinking about moving towns (somewhere on the south coast, maybe Hastings?) and kept posting asking what she should do. Don’t know how that turned out but I hope she’s ok.
I have name changed to answer. Hi im good thank you. Things are much more settled. I name change alot. And keep more in the background. Thank you for asking. Smile
BlackBrowedAlbatross · 28/02/2021 13:08

@PhylisNightsIsAwesome
Runninginrain was the poster whose boyfriend unexpectedly dumped her by text.

Fleapit · 28/02/2021 13:10

@SparkysMagicPiano

she has an idea who she may be in RL.

But why do you even need to say this?
What is the point?

I would direct the same comment to all those who have posted "I think A namechanged to B". People namechange for all sorts of reasons, but that doesn't make it OK to literally post someone's NC details on a public thread.

But she hasn’t. No one has. One poster has simply said that she has possibly realised who someone might be in RL, based on highly-identifying and tragic circumstances that poster, who has certainly been posting under the same name for quite some time, often mentions on Mn. She has not suggested she has or intends to act on this.
YellowMugPuffin · 28/02/2021 13:31

@wrigglewriggles

Not sure how so many of you remember peoples names on here.

Several posts from the past few years I often wonder about.
Mini and her child - do hope everything is calm and lovely for them both.

A woman who's husband wanted a divorce, moved out (maybe with OW) she needed to sell her house but had two teenage /early twenty kids to think about. She started working I think in a supermarket. She was so down on herself and it all seemed so hard. I hope she managed to find a peaceful space.

The woman, I think it's been mentioned already, who's husband/partner was caught drink driving and she was planning on leaving. How did that end up?

A woman who was pregnant, her partner wanted her to abort but she couldn't/didn't want to go through with it. I think she returned to South Africa? Hope things panned out well for her too.

So many about woman trying to escape abusive relationships and the great support they receive on here. All give me hope that I'll be free one day soon too.

CatLadyToddlerMother and Mini are doing great, CatLady was touched people remember her and think of them both. She still posts under a name change but I don't know what name she now uses.

I'm a friend of hers in real life.

DioneTheDiabolist · 28/02/2021 13:40

I miss BuffytheReasonableFeminist, her contributions were intelligent and reasonable. FWR is a lesser place for her leaving.

SparkysMagicPiano · 28/02/2021 14:46

She has not suggested she has or intends to act on this.

Then there is absolutely no need to mention it, especially as the poster she is referring to has actually been posting on this thread!

No need for the emoji face either.

These are people's real lives, not some silly game.

BonnieDundee · 28/02/2021 15:12

There was a woman who lived in london whose DP was abusive. She was pregnant and was.wondering whether to move to Scotland where she had family. Posters urged her to, and have the baby in scotland so the DP (babys father) couldnt stop her moving. I'm not sure what happened but I hope she did escape

LaurieSchafferIsAllBitterNow · 28/02/2021 15:47

@DolphinsAndNemesis

I also wonder what happened to BertrandRussell. She had a name change fail at one point and it turned out she had been posting with both names on the same threads. That made her look a bit foolish. However, she continued to post for a while after that, then seemed to disappear.

I didn’t always agree with her, but I very much appreciated her presence on some threads. She was always excellent on threads about racism in particular.

I thought Bertrand got "duplicated" by someone posting as BertrandRusselI with the last l in Russell being a capital i instead....MN did not seem that bothered somehow, which was weird imo.

Did that not happen to a couple of big name posters at about the same time?

I often wondered if she was another person I knew from another forum, same writing tone...but that person died and Bertrand was still posting so that solved that.

DolphinsAndNemesis · 28/02/2021 16:16

I thought Bertrand got "duplicated" by someone posting as BertrandRusselI with the last l in Russell being a capital i instead....MN did not seem that bothered somehow, which was weird imo.

Yes, I seem to remember that happened to BertrandRussell. But she did also get caught in name change fail, which then revealed that she had used both names on some other threads.

In any case, I hope she is well.

IncludesFreeOnlineEdition · 28/02/2021 16:41

I remember one from around 8-9 years ago. Her username was something like, CheekyPickle. Her husband was much older and she had been a teacher until she had her baby and became very sick. She posted a lot about problems at work and also feeling guilty about using a childminder in the holidays.

derxa · 28/02/2021 16:50

@Bloodybridget

I wonder why BertrandRussell stopped posting, she was a prolific poster, and certainly not a troll.
I wonder that too. Also Euphemia whose husband kept having affairs.
Aposterhasnoname · 28/02/2021 17:04

@Allmyarseandpeggymartin

There was a poster in coronavirus called cute kittens or something similar who used to come on the threads repeatedly and say that her mental health wouldn’t survive another lockdown - I hope she’s okay
I was coming on to post this. Kittensarecute is her name. She posted that she was going to get to Christmas Day then she was done, and she’s not posted since Christmas. I do worry about her.
Bloodybridget · 28/02/2021 17:09

@Derxa there are a couple of posts about BertrandRussell just a few posts up.