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to ask if you ever wonder about certain posters/threads?

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mxmxm · 26/02/2021 13:39

i’ve used MN for years, and i often think about particular threads or posters that stuck out to me or i interacted with ages ago that i haven’t been able to find (or just seemed to stop posting without a trace) since then.

anyone else get strangely nostalgic/curious thinking back to threads/posters and wonder what became of them?

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SymphonyofShadows · 26/02/2021 13:45

There was a one in Relationships about 6 years ago that I think about sometimes. OP left after posting here about a controlling and sexually abusive H. I think she got the divorce petition sorted before she told him it was over. The last posts I remember where after he had left and she had stayed in the marital home, but he was trying all sorts of tricks to mess with her head. The most chilling part for me was when she was talking about his behaviour, and that, if there was any old food in the fridge, he’d make her eat it.

Anotherdayanotherdollar · 26/02/2021 13:50

Yeah... The nrighbour hanging the bin bags on the washingline at night... What happened there?

And an op whose teenaged ds with AS found out he was going to be a dad. I often wonder how that worked out for them. I think the young girl had a troubled background and was desperate to keep the baby.

Sparklesocks · 26/02/2021 13:58

Sometimes! I think certain stories/experiences just resonate with you and you feel empathy for that person - but then it can be outweighed by thinking people might not be who they say they are.

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mxmxm · 26/02/2021 14:43

@SymphonyofShadows oh that sounds awful - the food hit sent a chill down my spine. i really hope she managed to get/stay away safely from him. maybe she NC’d after the divorce to avoid the risk of being traced or w/e

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mxmxm · 26/02/2021 14:48

one of the ones that really sticks out for me was the woman about four years ago who was in a really rough situation re. the council and her benefits/housing. she had a huge family iirc and would post really worrying, almost desperate posts every day but started getting troll hunted and never posted again. i still don’t know if it was all ‘real’ but if so i hope she’s doing better.

one of the confirmed trolls in particular really sticks with me but i don’t want to mention it in case this turns into a TAAT

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HeyDemonsItsYaGirl · 26/02/2021 14:50

Many, mostly the people in abusive relationships. One always sticks in my mind where the OP's husband was a sex pest and constantly pressuring her. I remember he was a farmer. She got very upset when people said that was abusive and left the thread. I often wonder if MN opened her eyes or if she's still with him.

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Chicchicchicchiclana · 26/02/2021 14:54

The woman in her 40s whose early 20s daughter with severe mental health problems, living in a filthy house with her drug addict boyfriend and pregnant. The thread was 90% encouraging her to give up her new child-free life and support her daughter in having this baby and how it was all going to be great and pull the family together and maybe make the daughter grow up Hmm.

The other 10% of us were saying "what about abortion? it would seem to be the best option in these particular circumstances" and we all got shouted at for being mean and disgusting.

I'd like to know if that baby was born and how everything is going now.

FiveGs · 26/02/2021 14:59

There was a recent thread where OP's DP we think was recording her in the bathroom/house and he was following her to work in order to trip her up and catch her out?

The updates got more and more sinister and then OP stopped posting as we think he was monitoring her MN use (that or it was a troll).

Yesididmeantobesorude · 26/02/2021 15:08

There are loads of threads I'd love to get 'closure on' - too many to mention. But as far as posters go, I will always remember a poster on the relationships board called WhenWillIFeelNormal.

She gave fantastic advice about infidelity. Her husband had been unfaithful in the past and they had done a tonne of work to manage to stay together. Her posts were from the perspective of someone who had been through the hell of his affair but had successfully come out the other side with her marriage in tact.

Except there always seemed to be an air of sadness from her. And I used to suspect that actually, she was still devastated and always would be, but could never admit it to herself because she's created this persona of 'affair survivor'.

Wow, that was deep. Anyway, I hope she's okay and happy now. With or without the cheater.

thecatsthecats · 26/02/2021 15:22

I get very hung up on house selling ones, especially where they've posted a link.

I always end up keeping them on Rightmove just to see what they eventually sold for (after the OP stubbornly insisted they were sticking with the price after being told that their house was nowhere near as good as the neighbour they benchmarked themselves against).

One that really stood out was a woman who posted in high dudgeon about the comments received, who ended the thread on an assertion from nowhere thst the house had sold for over asking from a snap viewing that afternoon.

(it hung around on Rightmove for another six months before eventually going for 40k under)

Puddymuddle · 26/02/2021 15:27

Did the Victorian safe ever get opened? Grin

IEat · 26/02/2021 15:28

@FiveGs

There was a recent thread where OP's DP we think was recording her in the bathroom/house and he was following her to work in order to trip her up and catch her out?

The updates got more and more sinister and then OP stopped posting as we think he was monitoring her MN use (that or it was a troll).

I wonder about that one too
IEat · 26/02/2021 15:29

Last year there was a three as a woman found out she was pregnant.. maybe 8 months along when she did find out and she and she had a child and was in absolute shock. Then she decided to stop updating

StormyInTheNorth · 26/02/2021 15:34

Sad one. A post where the poster had offered a sofa to a friend and her DH had taken a knife to all the seams to check there were no coins left in it rendering the sofa unuseable.

Funny one. "Your minge!"

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mxmxm · 26/02/2021 15:37

@FiveGs

There was a recent thread where OP's DP we think was recording her in the bathroom/house and he was following her to work in order to trip her up and catch her out?

The updates got more and more sinister and then OP stopped posting as we think he was monitoring her MN use (that or it was a troll).

this is absolutely bloody terrifying. i really hope she managed to get away from him
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daisychain01 · 26/02/2021 15:39

If people need "closure" on a thread, all that does is feed the trolls. If trolls know that people over-invest that's their cue to keep coming back to wind people up. It's very hard to walk away from a thread, but it's the best way to cut off their oxygen.

And I don't actually think the person who posted a fantasy photo of their posh bedroom or whatever is a troll in the true sense of the word. There are a lot more pernicious things a poster can do, like the person who pretended their wife had cancer or the famous Zeebrugge Ferry disaster troll (the details are publicly available on the Internet, so it's no great mystery anymore). Making out you have a posh bedroom is about as benign as it gets.

Etinox · 26/02/2021 15:39

I really hope Riven and MrsdeVere are well and happy.

LadyCounterblast · 26/02/2021 15:41

I often find myself wondering if that kid ever did get named Balonz. He'd be about 6 now.

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Donotgogentle · 26/02/2021 15:45

I think about Riven too, I hope it’s better for her now.

Any my favourite thread was Somerville and her date with Mr Lovely, it was great that worked out.

bearlyactive · 26/02/2021 15:49

A few weeks ago I got called a "spiteful cunt" amongst other things by a struggling OP, who quickly got deleted. They resurfaced again recently (and got deleted for being a PBP), still struggling. I do hope they're okay, despite what they said to me.

the80sweregreat · 26/02/2021 15:51

One where a lady found some things in a loft she said was empty previously? Looked like ceramic art of some kind?

AndOffFlewMyLastFuck · 26/02/2021 15:54

I remember someone who's user name was one red sock or something, one night she was riding round on the buses just trying to keep warm. I do hope she has found some happiness
Also there was a young lass who posted alot, she had one son and then found out she was pregnant, went on to have a daughter and then stopped posting. She was quite gobby but in a really nice way
This is going back years mind .

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