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Piss off, Pam!

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FuckingFabulous · 24/02/2021 12:38

A relative- 'Pam'- has pissed me right off this morning on Facebook (yes, I know, the root of all evil.)

And actually, it's not even just Pam, there are a few of them but she's the worst one!

Basically me and DH are group 6 for the vaccine. Me due to caring responsibilities for our DD and DH due to an underlying health condition. DH got the jab this morning and I reposted an article about how well the U.K. is doing with their vaccination programme and mentioned DH was currently having his vaccine and I'm having mine in a few days.

Straight away, Pam comments "so many young people having their jabs- what magic key have you all got to jump the queue? I'm Over 50 and I work with the public but I can't just waltz in like some! Oh well"

I just replied that I couldn't speak for anyone else but DH and I are in group 6, me for caring and him for health reasons and were invited to book, so there has been no queue jumping, and I realise it's frustrating to wait to be called when there are so many hopes riding on it. She then commented "So because you're a parent with normal parenting responsibilities, you are saying you have got rights ahead of me, a person over 50? Don't make me laugh."
I didn't reply because I was fuming as she knows full well that I have a round the clock caring role for my daughter (and she's a woman who wouldn't even have her own 20yo DD home to recover from surgery as it was "above and beyond" her responsibility ) so I was reeling from the audacity of her! I went to make a coffee and consider my response to her. I was all for politely telling her that she's being judgemental and although she's disappointed, it's not kind to be so dismissive when she's well aware of the difficulties I face at home, but then when I looked again, I saw it had all kicked off a bit!

Pam has posted another comment saying "And what's Mr FuckingFabulous's magic key condition?" Another older female relative chimes in then with a heart reaction and a comment of "I'd also love to know this, Pam! Beggars belief!!" Pam shoots back with "last time I checked, being an idiot wasn't on the list of conditions!" Cue about five laugh reactions from older relatives and comments like "this is why I love you, you say it like it is, Pam!"

DH has ADHD. Not sure if all older relatives know this but Pam, the one who called him an idiot, does indeed know!! I've had to speak to her and her husband before when they both expressed an opinion that ADHD and ASD don't exist and they're excuses for poor performance. And it is not even the condition which entitles him to a jab. Several people have also commented to her and some of the others that their comments are disgusting and Pam has been popping on a copy paste reply of "I am entitled to my opinion - it's a free country still."

So Pam has dismissed my caring responsibilities and taken the piss out of my DH for his ADHD. I have deleted the thread and spoken to my mum about it and she said it's best just to leave it, we don't want bad feelings in the family. Um, what about MY feelings? Or DH's??

WIBU to message Pam and tell her how bloody vile she is?? I should do it to all of them really, but I doubt it would have any impact.

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Inthevirtualwaitingroom · 24/02/2021 19:26

well done op,
i would have been apoplectic, at least that give me the vaccine Wink

no, also group 6, got the jab, posted it on the lovverly facebook, got so many likes
thank god i do not have your family !

FoffeeCoffee · 24/02/2021 19:26

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gamerchick · 24/02/2021 19:28

@FuckingFabulous

I have now blocked her, all three of her sisters, taken a break from DF, blocked my GM, blocked all my cousins and literally anyone who is on my friends list and posted anything supportive to Pam, even in the form of a like. And then I had a bit of a two minute spree, blocking people who I have seen be shitty about Covid, the vaccine, children's mental health etc. Bollocks to the lot of them!
Man, you're my hero OP. That picture was genius.

I know it's shit, I'm also getting a jab for being a carer. If people want to be a dick about it then it's their problem. I've seen an ugly side to people during this pandemic and lost respect for people.

Some reet bellends out there.

FoffeeCoffee · 24/02/2021 19:28

I'm a childish grudge holder op. If I were you I'd be signing up Pam's email and home address to various dildo, BDSM, and general spam email and postal mailing lists right now.

MonroeNotManson · 24/02/2021 19:28

Good for you OP Smile life really is too short for taking shit from bullies. Fuck 'em.

MariaAngustias · 24/02/2021 19:29

Pam is a bitch - tell her to sod off and take a look at herself I had similar jealousy cos I volunteer for a local charity twice a week - so was classed as an essential worker. People were quite nasty about me getting the vaccine. Nowt as queer as folk

starsparkle08 · 24/02/2021 19:29

Pam sounds vile Flowers
I have just had my vaccine this evening as I have a disabled son and am 34 , she would think the same of me . I don’t think some people understand what is involved with being a parent carer

SplendidSuns1000 · 24/02/2021 19:30

Bloody good on you, OP! I'm sorry you've got such twats for relatives, hope being detached from them brings you some peace.

ThreeTwoOneBlastOff · 24/02/2021 19:30

Good for you OP. She is as your picture says an utter cunt.

Eyesofdisarray · 24/02/2021 19:30

People with poor to no comprehension skills -stop posting or read the bloody thread
OP- good for you! Glad you got your jab. Shame on family supporting 'Pam'- are they afraid of her?? Bizarre behaviour

Unsure33 · 24/02/2021 19:31

Good for you OP she has already shown her ignorance by saying the vaccination is a “cure” and accusing you of jumping the queue , which is in fact not possible . You are right she has been personality rude and insulting. Just block block block . And relax .

Ihoeihoeihoe · 24/02/2021 19:31

Auntie Pam can fuck right off.

Don’t understand why people care about posting about the vaccine etc. Especially on SM where surely their friends/ family would be happy that they are being vaccinated.

evtheria · 24/02/2021 19:32

Well done on simply blocking them, OP.

muffb · 24/02/2021 19:32

That reply was brilliant OP, shame the rest of your family can't see how much of a bitch Pam is.

AwkwardSquad · 24/02/2021 19:34

Excellent work, OP, fuck Pam and all her crew

And dear lord, have people no reading comprehension skills these days?

itsgettingwierd · 24/02/2021 19:37

Pleeeeeeaaaaassseeeeee go one further an actually make her one of those and send it as a birthday gift Grin

Pure gold!

snowisfallingallaroundus · 24/02/2021 19:37

Brilliant Op. Made my day with that.

Fuck off Pammy

Youllbeoldertoo · 24/02/2021 19:39

@FuckingFabulous

Why isn’t your dad supporting you? That’s outrageous!

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BendyWendy18 · 24/02/2021 19:45

Well done OP, honestly why does you and your husband getting vaccinations due to your family health conditions, mean you are directly taking vaccinations out of their arms? Can't they just be happy some of the family are receiving them? They sound horrendous and anyone condoning their behaviour, outside or inside of the family should be ashamed.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 24/02/2021 19:46

@drsambeckett

I’m group 6 and had my vaccine last Friday. Anyone else who wanted it was most welcome but I would have expected your fully functioning liver, non-scarred lungs, fully functioning right leg and non-defective genes in exchange. Cheap at the price.
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Youllbeoldertoo · 24/02/2021 19:47

@FuckingFabulous
Also when my family members have had the vaccine I’ve felt nothing but happy that they are now safer. Is this not the normal response?

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 24/02/2021 19:49

Maybe I'm a bit odd, but if I read something on MN and think 'that doesn't sound right' I go back and read the post again to check whether I've missed something/misunderstood anything. Isn't this the obvious thing to do?

scrivette · 24/02/2021 19:49

What a brilliant response OP, well done for blocking them all.

I want to be your friend you sound awesome Grin

SleepingStandingUp · 24/02/2021 19:51

@shamalidacdak

You get the early jab for ADHD? That's insane
Yes @shamalidacdak they've moved everyone with ADHD into Group 1 and they get priority in the queue too. And the supermarkets give them first dibs of the priority slots.
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