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Piss off, Pam!

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FuckingFabulous · 24/02/2021 12:38

A relative- 'Pam'- has pissed me right off this morning on Facebook (yes, I know, the root of all evil.)

And actually, it's not even just Pam, there are a few of them but she's the worst one!

Basically me and DH are group 6 for the vaccine. Me due to caring responsibilities for our DD and DH due to an underlying health condition. DH got the jab this morning and I reposted an article about how well the U.K. is doing with their vaccination programme and mentioned DH was currently having his vaccine and I'm having mine in a few days.

Straight away, Pam comments "so many young people having their jabs- what magic key have you all got to jump the queue? I'm Over 50 and I work with the public but I can't just waltz in like some! Oh well"

I just replied that I couldn't speak for anyone else but DH and I are in group 6, me for caring and him for health reasons and were invited to book, so there has been no queue jumping, and I realise it's frustrating to wait to be called when there are so many hopes riding on it. She then commented "So because you're a parent with normal parenting responsibilities, you are saying you have got rights ahead of me, a person over 50? Don't make me laugh."
I didn't reply because I was fuming as she knows full well that I have a round the clock caring role for my daughter (and she's a woman who wouldn't even have her own 20yo DD home to recover from surgery as it was "above and beyond" her responsibility ) so I was reeling from the audacity of her! I went to make a coffee and consider my response to her. I was all for politely telling her that she's being judgemental and although she's disappointed, it's not kind to be so dismissive when she's well aware of the difficulties I face at home, but then when I looked again, I saw it had all kicked off a bit!

Pam has posted another comment saying "And what's Mr FuckingFabulous's magic key condition?" Another older female relative chimes in then with a heart reaction and a comment of "I'd also love to know this, Pam! Beggars belief!!" Pam shoots back with "last time I checked, being an idiot wasn't on the list of conditions!" Cue about five laugh reactions from older relatives and comments like "this is why I love you, you say it like it is, Pam!"

DH has ADHD. Not sure if all older relatives know this but Pam, the one who called him an idiot, does indeed know!! I've had to speak to her and her husband before when they both expressed an opinion that ADHD and ASD don't exist and they're excuses for poor performance. And it is not even the condition which entitles him to a jab. Several people have also commented to her and some of the others that their comments are disgusting and Pam has been popping on a copy paste reply of "I am entitled to my opinion - it's a free country still."

So Pam has dismissed my caring responsibilities and taken the piss out of my DH for his ADHD. I have deleted the thread and spoken to my mum about it and she said it's best just to leave it, we don't want bad feelings in the family. Um, what about MY feelings? Or DH's??

WIBU to message Pam and tell her how bloody vile she is?? I should do it to all of them really, but I doubt it would have any impact.

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mintich · 24/02/2021 15:17

@GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal

"You're right Pam, it has nothing to do with my caring responsibilities or DH's condition, I was just trying to spare your feelings. The truth is, the medical community at large discussed it, and agreed that as you'd be no great loss to humanity, they wouldn't rush to vaccinate you. Sorry Sad"
Oh please write this!
FlowerFluffer · 24/02/2021 15:18

I personally find vaccine post reassuring – because it makes me feel that at least something is changing from one year ago. It makes me feel that we have a chance to keep kids in school and climb out of this

LouJ85 · 24/02/2021 15:19

I know right. It really boils my piss when people look down their nose at people who use facebook, like they're some kind of low-life, low-intellect peasant, who needs to grow up and get a life and get off facebook...

Yep! I've found the MN general attitude to social media very, very odd if I'm honest.

vintageyoda · 24/02/2021 15:20

"ItsJackieWeaverBitch
Pam is a cunt, no 2 ways about it. Block her and anyone who was on your comments agreeing with her or liking what she was saying. You don’t need to put up with that and like you, I would be very upset and angry about it. If she ever gets round to asking you why she’s been blocked I’d tell her straight it’s because she’s a fucking cunt."

Yeah, this ^^

BobbitWormNightmares · 24/02/2021 15:20

This is how she's speaks to her Facebook "friends" how does she speak to her enemies? Sad pathetic creature who shouldn't be given any time of day.

Id send one quick "fuck off, vile bully" and then block for ever.

Congrats on the jabs news Flowers

Originalusername2021 · 24/02/2021 15:21

I’d love to know what is acceptable to post on Facebook from the Facebook police on MN.

LouJ85 · 24/02/2021 15:22

@Originalusername2021

I’d love to know what is acceptable to post on Facebook from the Facebook police on MN.

Yes me too, please.

I think I'm breaking these rules left right and centre ShockGrin

evtheria · 24/02/2021 15:23

@GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal

"You're right Pam, it has nothing to do with my caring responsibilities or DH's condition, I was just trying to spare your feelings. The truth is, the medical community at large discussed it, and agreed that as you'd be no great loss to humanity, they wouldn't rush to vaccinate you. Sorry Sad"
Haaaaaaaaaahaha 🙈
SleepingStandingUp · 24/02/2021 15:25

@Originalusername2021

I’d love to know what is acceptable to post on Facebook from the Facebook police on MN.
"Today is another day. I am neither grateful not sad to live it. It just is. I have neither gratitude or jealousy in my heart. I am an empty vessel of blankness."

Every day, renewed at exactly 7.02.

Originalusername2021 · 24/02/2021 15:26

@LouJ85 the 1st crime is having Facebook at all of course Wink

supercatlady · 24/02/2021 15:27

I’d have told her of course you aren’t going to share details of your husbands medical condition on social media and she needs to take it up with the JCVI if she disagrees with vaccine priority groups.
I’d have wanted to say “last time I checked being a spiteful old hag wasn’t on the priority list either - maybe that’s why you’re still waiting!”

For those asking why share, OP was posting about how well the vaccination programme is going and adding her personal experience.

BobbitWormNightmares · 24/02/2021 15:27

Because it's amazing news to share? Better than..."look at my dinner"

And it's promoting the jab, there's still alot of reluctance within communities, not to mention anti-vaxxers -spouting their horse shit- spreading misinformation. Being vaccinated is something to be loud and proud about

1forAll74 · 24/02/2021 15:27

When you post personal things on Facebook, you should accept that you might get nasty and crap comments. Pamdemic is one such person.

Originalusername2021 · 24/02/2021 15:27

@SleepingStandingUp - 😂😂😂 perfect!

DimidDavilby · 24/02/2021 15:28

Please post your message when you send it. I can't believe she would try to carry on on a picture of your kids!

Originalusername2021 · 24/02/2021 15:28

@1forAll74

When you post personal things on Facebook, you should accept that you might get nasty and crap comments. Pamdemic is one such person.
God for it anyone posts personal things on their personal Facebook!
SleepingStandingUp · 24/02/2021 15:29

@1forAll74

When you post personal things on Facebook, you should accept that you might get nasty and crap comments. Pamdemic is one such person.
Why though? There's literally nothing in ops post that warrants nasty and crap comments. Do you always assume people will day nasty and crap things to anything you say or anything you share?
scoutingfornarwhals · 24/02/2021 15:31

is it covered by this on the www.autism.org website:

How will the Government know if the person I care for or my loved one has a severe or profound learning disability?

The Government has now stated all people with a learning disability have been added to priority group six, not just those who are considered to have a severe or profound learning disability. GPs will be using their records to contact all people with a learning disability for the vaccination. You may want to contact your GP to make sure that they know whether you, the person you care for or a loved one has a learning disability. This is how the Government will know to contact you when it is your turn.

nancywhitehead · 24/02/2021 15:32

I really don't get why some people are getting so upset by who gets the vaccine when. Honestly! She'll get it when it's her turn and is very unlikely to die of Covid in the meantime. People are getting really grabby and silly about all this Confused

nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 24/02/2021 15:32

"last time I checked, being an idiot wasn't on the list of conditions!"

Well there you go then, Pam, that's why you haven't had it yet!

LouJ85 · 24/02/2021 15:33

@1forAll74

When you post personal things on Facebook, you should accept that you might get nasty and crap comments. Pamdemic is one such person.

Nope. You shouldn't.
Unless you have utter twats on your friends list. In which case you just need a clear out of said twats, then you're good to go. Grin

littlefireseverywhere · 24/02/2021 15:33

Can you get one of those meme's that says, be like Pam, Pam is a twat. Or similar?

LouJ85 · 24/02/2021 15:34

@nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut

"last time I checked, being an idiot wasn't on the list of conditions!"

Well there you go then, Pam, that's why you haven't had it yet!

😂😂
OP I wish you could go back in time and reply this

ClangingChimesofDoom · 24/02/2021 15:34

I can't believe she would try to carry on on a picture of your kids

Me neither.

fridgepants · 24/02/2021 15:38

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