To share this earth shattering life changing news!

[Breastfeedingworries]

You don’t have to hang your clothes up!

Okay everyone else has known this a long time. I’ve spent years with a rail and mess at the bottom of a very large wardrobe space.

All through childhood I was told off for not hanging my clothes, the only draws I had were stiff painted vile things I had to use every ounce of childhood strength to open. (So I never did) was a very messy unorganised child surrounded by hangers and toys and told off on a daily basis.

I posted previously about getting the council house and being able to be freed from a psychologically controlling mother ( I’ve got learning difficulties, low self esteem and poor mh)

Today speaking to a close friend whose been seriously helping me organise the house, painting and decorating she asked why I was bothering with cupboards when I always end up in a mess. I never buy anything that creases as I don’t iron.

So long winded and bizzare but I’m buying two sets of 6 draws and I feel so free and happy.

Immediately Have been shot down and told I have to hang dresses ect and sent photos of old painted draws by family members...but this tiny bit of life knowledge has changed my outlook on my whole childhood. I wasn’t given the tools or correct support.

What young child wants to constantly hang their clothes...wants the stress of someone opening and checking... has the time with their adhd to concentrate and complete the task! (I’m still undiagnosed but suspected adhd but I’m also dyslexic and dyspraxic)

I’m just in shock about my past and this small thing has basically made me cry with happiness.

I thought you had to hang clothes neatly.

Fuck that!

Huge well done on getting tour own place!
Can highly recommend IKEA draws, cheap and glide open with a finder tip touch. None of the solid oak furniture land type you’re describing. Enjoy Malinke your own

Do as you like. I'll carry on hanging up most my stuff, because it comes up better.

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I only iron if I’m going to wear the item. I don’t even bother to fold I just shove it in the drawer

You enjoy your freedom to have your clothes as you want 'em!! congrats!!

Well done OP and 💐 for your friend!

I'm opposite. Much prefer hanging as I need to see everything

I don't get how drawers are better than wardrobes except for small items.

@Breastfeedingworries

Yeah, sorry know it’s the most bizzare thread and sorry for making it as it would sound so boring now I think about it!

Just being messy and feeling useless really framed my childhood.

I’m so excited about my draws lol and having the freedom that goes with it.

I have also struggled with being messy and disorganised and stressed by things - one book which I found amazing was Marie Kondo’s “The life changing magic of tidying up” - really fantastic theory on how to be organised that changed my life. You’ll be pleased to know that she advocates folding almost everything in drawers rather than hanging things up as well! And she has great folding techniques to make the best use of drawer space and ensure you can see everything in the drawer like little parcels rather than stacked on top of each other.

Is folding really much less effort than hanging?

Hung up clothes are easier to see when putting together outfits.

My wardrobe is generally much more organised than my drawers because it’s easier to see the individual pieces when they aren’t piled on top of each other

I barely iron either, can’t be bothered.

I do find mess triggering though and can’t focus or relax in a messy environment

I personally love the Marie Kondo folding method but do you think OP is likely to spend time meticulously folding and organising if she cba to shove clothes onto hangers?

Firstly congratulations on Yr hard won freedom.. My life growing up was similar but the opposite.. My mother never did housework, ironed or got us new bedding etc. I grew up smelly and living in chaos and filth. I remember getting my first home and cleaning, I had fresh made bed, clean sheets and clean ironed clothes. I was so proud of myself, I had to get a book out of the library to learn how. She came round and reduced me to tears with ridicule & deliberately spilled coffee on my carpets and laughed as I cleaned it, she flicked fag Ash on my floor and left burn marks. I spent a whole evening in floods of tears after she left. An elderly neighbour gave me some useful advice.. She told me hunni, you have your own front door and it's got a key.. So use it... And I did, my home and I have it the way I want it... As should you. Just don't tell anyone you don't think will be happy for you your business. X

Oh I’m so with you there.

I recently had fitted wardrobes put in and the man kept going on and on and on about how “ladies like a good amount of hanging space...”

I use a tiny bit of hanging space for easy access to work tops during the week and the rest is folded away. I then use a big bit of the space assigned for hanging to keep all my make up and toiletries! It’s great.

Drawers all the way!

Congratulations on getting your own place, enjoy it!!!

How wonderfully liberating for you! And every one of us knows just how you feel...if not about hanging clothes and ironing, then about some damned thing that we no longer to because we don't have to. Now, me, I enjoy making my bed, organizing my clothes, and even a bit of ironing here and there. I don't mind washing my dishes by hand. BUT...I HATE TO DUST! I really do. LOL, one of my friends came by and actually wrote "Dust Me!!!" in the dust on my television stand. She looked at me and simpered, "Now you HAVE to dust, don't you?" I replied, "WHY? It'll fill in eventually." When the dust bothers me, I get rid of it, but not until then.

You do you. It's your home, run it as you see fit. There's an enormous difference between "filth" and "clutter." ENJOY!

I have a dyslexic/dyspraxic (now grown) son. He too was very messy and disorganised. I bought him a bunch of large plastic garden trugs in different bright colours. One for trousers and shorts, one for shirts, one for jumpers, slightly smaller ones for pants and socks and sports kit. No drawers to (leave) open, no hangers to end up on the floor. A separate basket in the room for dirty clothes.

Lots of stuff still ended up on the floor, but things that he took off and still considered clean did usually end up back in the bins. The key was making it a visible, handy, place he could just drop it, without having to open anything, or god forbid fold or hang it.

I can't say he became a neat person, but it helped.

It's your life, your room, your clothes. Do as you please!

I love this OP, although I do have wardrobes I totally agree that there's just no need to hang clothes. I use my wardrobes to store large objects like suitcases and spare duvets instead!

Just popping in to say ‘your house your rules’ and ‘what a great friend!’ Glad you feel liberated.

I hang my kids shirts. Of which they have about 3 each.

Everything else they are allowed to stuff in a drawer (as long as they put them away and they aren’t strewn all over the floor). You are absolutely right. Who wants to hang clothes up when you are a child. I hate hanging clothes and I am an adult. Fold and on shelf or in drawer. Or..... if I’m honest..... thrown on the poof at the end of my bed.

Enjoy your freedom. Controlling mothers ruin lives.

@Breastfeedingworries

Yeah, sorry know it’s the most bizzare thread and sorry for making it as it would sound so boring now I think about it!

Just being messy and feeling useless really framed my childhood.

I’m so excited about my draws lol and having the freedom that goes with it.

The thread isn’t the most bizarre... it’s refreshing and delightful to hear how something that can seem insignificant to so many can be the cause of happiness. Well done you for figuring out what works for you!

PS I was inspired to spend a few hours reorganizing my clothing drawers yesterday

Love this, how great that you feel so liberated. Ignore your family and the comments on here saying you "need" to hang dresses- bizzare use of the word need- to what end? To stop them being creased? - depends on the fabric. To please other people? Fuck that, obviously.

I'm also not "neurotypical" and now I'm in my thirties I am starting to realise I don't have the energy to spend another thirty years and more pretending to be other peoples definition of normal. I'm starting to feel quite liberated by little things similar to this. I'm sort of the opposite in that I like everything to be in its place, I need things to be organised for me feel calm. I also don't enjoy socialising with more than one or two friends at a time and I think after lockdown I'm going to embrace this and stop forcing myself to go to occassions/gatherings that fill me with anxiety for weeks/months beforehand and leave me utterly drained for days afterwards- it's my life why make myself miserable to meet other peoples approval - you shouldn't either!

My secret trick is rolling not folding. I have all my dresses in a box shelf, rolled so I can see them all. I pack for holiday by rolling too.