To share this earth shattering life changing news!

[Breastfeedingworries]

You don’t have to hang your clothes up!

Okay everyone else has known this a long time. I’ve spent years with a rail and mess at the bottom of a very large wardrobe space.

All through childhood I was told off for not hanging my clothes, the only draws I had were stiff painted vile things I had to use every ounce of childhood strength to open. (So I never did) was a very messy unorganised child surrounded by hangers and toys and told off on a daily basis.

I posted previously about getting the council house and being able to be freed from a psychologically controlling mother ( I’ve got learning difficulties, low self esteem and poor mh)

Today speaking to a close friend whose been seriously helping me organise the house, painting and decorating she asked why I was bothering with cupboards when I always end up in a mess. I never buy anything that creases as I don’t iron.

So long winded and bizzare but I’m buying two sets of 6 draws and I feel so free and happy.

Immediately Have been shot down and told I have to hang dresses ect and sent photos of old painted draws by family members...but this tiny bit of life knowledge has changed my outlook on my whole childhood. I wasn’t given the tools or correct support.

What young child wants to constantly hang their clothes...wants the stress of someone opening and checking... has the time with their adhd to concentrate and complete the task! (I’m still undiagnosed but suspected adhd but I’m also dyslexic and dyspraxic)

I’m just in shock about my past and this small thing has basically made me cry with happiness.

I thought you had to hang clothes neatly.

Fuck that!

Well personally i put clothes on hangers to dry and the straight on a clothes rail, no ironing or folding then and you can see at a glance what is available to wear.
But the main thing is that different systems suit different people and you are allowed to do things the way that suits you. Rigid people like your parents, probably became rigid as a way to cope themselves and fear losing control because they have they own insecurities but that doesn't mean they get to tell you what to do for ever.

Jesus, 🙄🙄 at all the people making this alllll about themselves and how they find hanging things up so much easier and quicker blah blah blah...did you actually read and, more importantly, pay attention to the nuance of what OP said?

It is not easier for OP to hang things up. It is easier for her to have things folded and put away within a methodology that makes sense to her, suits her and her lifestyle and also isn’t tied up in her difficulties in her formative years.

@Breastfeedingworries enjoy your new drawers and your liberation from the tyranny of your childhood/growing up years.🌻

I only hang the bare essentials that need hung (expensive dresses/good jackets all of which is rarely worn). My eldest school trousers too as he would crease them while rummaging for his jogging bottoms and hoodies. He has ASD and ADHD so worrying about hanged clothes falling is not something he needs.

I had the majority of my hanging spaces turned into storage boxes in my cupboards. It saves me so much time and hassle.

@Meruem

The Kondo folding method is a revelation. I still have a wardrobe, although a small one, and drawers. But after learning to fold that way I can get way more things in the drawers now and they’re easier to find. Plus they look so neat and tidy.

Good for you OP. Have a wonderful life in your new home, organised just how you like!

This with bells on! We now have one small single wardrobe between 2 adults (which still has hanging space left) and a chest of drawers each. Just opening the drawers makes me smile, as it's all neat and tidy.

Well done OP, and thank you for sharing, I love reading threads like this.

Hanging stuff is way less of a pain in the arse than hanging stuff up imo but do what you want, you're an adult. It's the joy of being one, like that first night you live alone and realise you can eat ice cream and cake for tea, then you never do it again because you realise how terrible it really is

Hanging is way less of a pain than folding and draws that should read... I'm only half way through morning coffee here...

It’s your house, your rules . Do whatever you want !

My clothes rarely make it to the wardrobes.

I pick them off the clothes rails when they're dry.

You have to organise your clothes your way.

See I'm the opposite, we had everything in drawers and ended up creased etc and as I couldn't iron at that age I looked like a tramp. In my house we hang more a less everything as soon as and I rarely iron these days.

I found it life changing when I realised 95% of stuff doesn’t need to be ironed

Yes! Do whatever you want as long as it works for you

Well done! Loved reading your revelation OP ❤️.

@Xenia pl can you share some of the things you wear that are repeats?

@Octane

I don't get it – if you end up with piles of clothes because hanging is too much effort, don't your drawers just end up as piles of clothes too? Surely folding/rolling and arranging in a drawer is just as much work as slipping something onto a hanger?

This is how I feel but look into my chest of drawers containing underwear, socks, nightdresses etc and it could look as if I have had a burglary.

Most of my clothes aren't even in drawers - I have a bookcase and fold my clothes onto that.

Maybe look up 'enmeshment' @Breastfeedingworries and how to free yourself of it. Sounds like that's the situation between you and your mother. I was in the same, and my mother is yet to move on. Takes it as a personal attack if I dare to even think of doing something differently to her. But I am me, not a mini version of her.

Congratulations on coming as far as you have. I look forward to hearing more from you.

This is a lovely thread OP. It is so freeing when the penny drops with something that through your childhood you thought was gospel. Good for you with grabbing hold of your freedom.

I'm actually the opposite, I only just discovered that I find hanging clothes to be a million times easier than folding them. I now hang everything and my room is neat where as before it was a state.

If it works for you and you have an intuitive system then that’s great.

I suffer with depression and poor organisational skills and had a tendency to let the laundry get out of hand. What has helped me is finding a nice YouTube channel to watch whilst I fold on a Sunday afternoon. Also the Marie Kondo folding method is brilliant so you can see everything and keep things organised. Personally I still need to hang some things to be able to see what I have and as a good visual reminder to wear my nicer clothes not just pyjamas!

Drawers are the way forward!

I feel this way about my kitchen drawers - my pan drawers were my best purchase ever, and no more searching for pans in back of cupboards, or stacking them neatly :)

Good for you living an independent life and organising your stuff exactly how you like !
It’s not boring, it’s amazing so well done you

Well done for thinking laterally and finding a method you can live with.

I know what you mean about stiff drawers that don't open easily. Even as an adult they're a pain.

A few hooks for coats and jackets and everything is catered for.

I have chests of drawers IN my wardrobes. Clothes all folded inside. The top of the chests used for shoes with a basket for gloves etc in winter.

I did this about 5 years ago, as a stop gap as I was worried about my little toddlers pulling drawers.

It has been a revelation. Wardrobes are overrated and unnecessary.

Enjoy your freedom!

Well done OP! It sounds like you're breaking free of your family's control and doing things for yourself and that's really important.

My family think I'm mad for using one of my pan drawers for cups, but I can see them all at a glance and don't have to root around. I love it.

I second having a look on Youtube etc. for some folding and organising methods for your drawers, but don't put yourself off doing what works for you if you think your dyspraxia/ADHD can't handle it. Enjoy your drawers!

Life is too short to iron( mum used to iron tea towels!) , make beds ( leave them to air) and dishwashers rule.
Marie Kondo folding is great though if you want to fit lots in a small space.

@Ninkanink

Jesus, 🙄🙄 at all the people making this alllll about themselves and how they find hanging things up so much easier and quicker blah blah blah...did you actually read and, more importantly, pay attention to the nuance of what OP said?

It is not easier for OP to hang things up. It is easier for her to have things folded and put away within a methodology that makes sense to her, suits her and her lifestyle and also isn’t tied up in her difficulties in her formative years.

@Breastfeedingworries enjoy your new drawers and your liberation from the tyranny of your childhood/growing up years.🌻

Huh? Isn't that how conversations go though? People discuss how they do things differently don't they?

I think it's made the thread quite interesting and the fact only 2 idiots embarrassed themselves by correcting the OP's spelling is also a bonus.

I hang everything on hangers because I refuse to iron.

I'm happy for you a OP! I felt the same when I realised my house dosent need to be sterile like the one I grew up in! I still have welly boot mud on my doormat from the weekend. I love you welly boot mud!!