Married colleague texting me

[EmilaSa]

I'm in a bit of a tricky situation - my married (with 2 kids) colleague has been texting/ emailing inappropriate (sexual) messages.

I have in no way encouraged this. I have recently found out he's done it to a few other women from the office too.

We're all WFH at the moment, so haven't actually seen him in person for a few months.

I can't block him because we're on the same team and need to exchange messages/ emails.

I don't know his wife and I feel that if I go to my boss he will take his side, as they are friends.

I don't know what to do.

keep copies of everything. Will any of the others he's done this to be prepared to say that? How do you know it has happened before?

Tell him - in writing - that it is inappropriate and you are taking it further. Escalate to your manager. If it is your private number block and tell your manager that you'll be needing a company phone from now on and nobody has permission to contact you on your private number.

Sorry this is happening.

@Charliec12

Going back to office when you have feelings for someone how to cope. Things were on and off we would flirt and sext a bit for last few years but in April he started ghosting me. I am really hurt by it all particularly as I find work lonely now not chatting to him. He is doing things like telling me my colleagues have sexy bodies so I think he will get with any female. Right now I feel like jacking work in especially as I will have to see him more from beginning of Sept as we go back to working in the office

I suggest you start a new thread, everyone is inevitably commenting on th OP.

Some dreadful advice on thread
Do not delete his messages
Do not try to ameliorate by offering a 1 more chance to cease unwanted contact
Do not approach his wife, it’s an employment issue nothing to do with wife

Send a recorded delivery letter to HR if there is HR dept, otherwise to your line manager detailing your complaint

Don’t wholly rely upon other women to corroborate or support, for a myriad of reason others may not corroborate your account

Perhaps email your boss and BCC ACAS.

Screen shot them. Find his parents and wife on social media. Send it to them. Especially to his mum.

@DawnMumsnet

Thanks to everyone who reported SilverLining22's inflammatory posts. We've removed them all now - hopefully the thread will be able to get back on track.

Sorry for the interruption, OP.

Let’s hope Silverlining22 has been banned not just removed!