To quit my job because of my weight

[AmberMay08]

I’m due back to work in 5 weeks time.

I’ve been on maternity leave. DC was born 8 weeks before the first lockdown.

During my pregnancy my BMI was 34, not ideal, but not as bad as it is now.

I’ve gained a lot of weight since having DC and my BMI is now 40.

I was diagnosed with PND last year, I’m not trying to use this as an excuse but I just haven’t been in the right frame of mind to loose weight.

I’m terrified of going back to work. I’ll be there 3 days and I have to go into the office.
I put in writing to request working from home but my request was denied as they said the office is Covid secure. (I’ve sought advice from ACAS and they’ve said it’s not the law to work from home)

DC will be going to nursery whilst I’m at work.

I’m petrified that I will catch Covid and i know when I get it my chances of survival are very slim.
I’m 35 with a BMI of 40, I also have asthma.

I’m in group 6 for the vaccine but I have no idea when this will be.

I’m so close to just handing in my notice because it feels like to much of a risk going to work and i dont want to leave my baby without a mum.

I can’t really afford to quit but for the sake of my
Health I’d make it work.

I don’t know what I’m looking for really, just someone to tell me I’m doing the right thing.

Pick out a nice outfit that flatters you - buy new work clothes if nothing you have fits anymore. Do your makeup, groom yourself well and have a nice perfume and go in there walking tall. A lot of people are in the same boat.

In my experience those that are most anxious are those that have been at home and not had to go out. You've been at home with your lovely baby and heard all the horror stories (they don't really report on the 'ivy down the road had covid but was fine' stories). This means you have inflated your risk and likelihood to die hugely. You need to sort this by going back to work and getting out more.

Health anxiety is a real thing and I'm afraid goes hand in hand with being a parent. I lost my best friend (late thirties) and a close family member (early forties) a few years ago to cancer and my worry about cancer increased massively. If I let myself think about it I can get in a real state but have learnt to manage it. I know you feel your reason is covid but this amount of worry is not reasonable. Please seek some help.

Also, write out a plan for first day.
So, alarm time, shower, makeup, baby to childcare, everything you'll have to do to get out the door in time. Mask and hand-gel prepacked.
Once you get through the first day, it won't feel as daunting. Don't lose your job over this shit - we're coming out of the worst.

Isn’t this your 3rd thread about this?

Even with a bmi of 40 and asthma you'd still have a far greater chance of contracting it mildly than having any major problems.

There's plenty of over 100 yr olds with numerous conditions who still made it through covid, the death rate is very low, honestly

You're due your jab very soon

it's all going to be fine

you're going to be fine

you might want to look into some help like CBT though as you seem very anxious - health anxiety maybe? Please talk to your GP about your fears and anxieties, I'm sure they can explain it better than us and potentially help with anxiety symptoms