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To not tell friend where I bought something.

359 replies

GardenGnomeParty · 19/02/2021 18:25

Three years ago we bought a common garden thing from a local supplier. It's gorgeous, still looks great, had lots of use and we love it.
My friend admired it but was then disappointed to be given a lovely but different one from her family. Not heard from her for ages, no presents for my DD last year for her birthday, I thought the friendship had faded.
She's now asked where we bought ours from.
I don't want to tell her.
It was expensive and I don't want local gossip.
Our version is unusual but classy and I don't want to share my 'fucking nailed it this time' style.
I have sensed 'competitive purchasing' from this 'Shopping Friend' family in the past, they do it with others and pride themselves on their great 'taste'. It's not healthy and we have distanced ourselves from them.
The examples they gave with other friends were best car, slow cooker, bell tent, dog breed, cat breed, mug manufacturer. They take great pride in their purchasing and like to buy the 'best'. It will end up all over Instagram and I'll have to listen to mutual friends tell me I've bought one just like 'Shopping Friend'

So yabu - tell her, share the joy, it's just a thing for the garden
Yanbu - keep quiet, wallow in your mid life teen cool crisis, don't share the info, you win the best garden thing prize, don't share.

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Piglet89 · 19/02/2021 19:57

@BornInTheLGI I’m hearing your question in Peter Kay’s voice.

iknowimcoming · 19/02/2021 20:00

I was friends with this woman ok maybe someone very similar some years back and she drove me insane! At her house 'have you seen this rug/tea towel/garden parasol? We got it from Costco and it was only £xx - it's sooooo amazing' on and on and on. At my house 'where did you get that cushion/lamp/tea bag? How much did it cost?' On and on, she was relentless, it was bizarre! I stopped returning her phone calls - no regrets! Ignore and block her OP!

Daphnise · 19/02/2021 20:03

You manage to sound smug and unstylish all in one go.

And she sounds worse for trying to emulate you.

I hope she doesn't use the same gas and electricity supplier as you as well.....

Or Covid masks....

user1471439310 · 19/02/2021 20:05

How old are you 5? It is a garden item and people will gossip.😂😂😂

gigity · 19/02/2021 20:08

mug manufacturer

🤣🤣🤣

TonTonMacoute · 19/02/2021 20:08

Tell her - but lie.

OverByYer · 19/02/2021 20:09

I can’t imagine being so precious about something I have in my garden, in fact about anything I own. I wouldn’t think twice to say where I got something from

gigity · 19/02/2021 20:11

fucking nailed it this time' style.

I do not believe a garden thing can give off the above vibe, it makes zero sense!

mumsiedarlingrevolta · 19/02/2021 20:12

omg ads on my fb page now flooded with alien garden gnomes

TillyTopper · 19/02/2021 20:12

It was The Range or Robert Dyas wasn't it? Or one of the stores that has now gone bust :)

gigity · 19/02/2021 20:13

Don't get me wrong it is annoying when a friend buys the exact same clothes & wears them out with you but you are talking about mugs & slow cookers 😆

DrWankincense · 19/02/2021 20:15

Just tell her but before you do make sure you post it in the background of some other shots..Oh look how bad the weather is! Soooo many leaves in my garden, can anyone recommend a gardener or some such shite.
Then everyone will know that you had it first and she's a copy-catting cow 🤣🤣🤣

Lovemusic33 · 19/02/2021 20:15

I’m guessing it’s one of those hand crafter fire pits, if so just tell her a friend made it for you and it’s a one off 😉.

Regularsizedrudy · 19/02/2021 20:18

I think a lot of this might be in your head...

WhoWants2Know · 19/02/2021 20:19

It was a bespoke item and the craftsman has now retired. Aww, shame....

ktp100 · 19/02/2021 20:19

You can't remember?

Lie and say it was from somewhere different?

Ignore the text?

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SecretOfChange · 19/02/2021 20:20

Talk about first world problems Grin
I voted YABU because I can't comprehend the fact that you had time and inclination to even begin to think about it Grin
You're very lucky.

NoCherryNoDeal · 19/02/2021 20:21

Could you just say it was a gift?

Hope you’ve stopped sending her and her kids gifts.

bloodyhairy · 19/02/2021 20:21

Your post is a bit bonkers. I mean, what does it really matter?
That said, it sounds like she only got back in touch with you to ask where it's from. And that's out of order.

SecretOfChange · 19/02/2021 20:22

@Piglet89 Grin Grin Grin

dottiedaisee · 19/02/2021 20:22

Why are you bothered? I really wouldn’t care if someone bought something that I had chosen...in fact I would consider it a compliment!

MirandaMarple · 19/02/2021 20:23

Odd. You are the one that wants to wallow in the exclusivity.

SongSilkTrainspot · 19/02/2021 20:24

I was laughing at this, until the mug bit! I know a similar mug manufacturer show'er off'er!!! I don't give a fuck about your Emma Bridgewater mugs!!!!!! So I'm with ya, don't tell her Grin