To not tell friend where I bought something.

[GardenGnomeParty]

Three years ago we bought a common garden thing from a local supplier. It's gorgeous, still looks great, had lots of use and we love it.
My friend admired it but was then disappointed to be given a lovely but different one from her family. Not heard from her for ages, no presents for my DD last year for her birthday, I thought the friendship had faded.
She's now asked where we bought ours from.
I don't want to tell her.
It was expensive and I don't want local gossip.
Our version is unusual but classy and I don't want to share my 'fucking nailed it this time' style.
I have sensed 'competitive purchasing' from this 'Shopping Friend' family in the past, they do it with others and pride themselves on their great 'taste'. It's not healthy and we have distanced ourselves from them.
The examples they gave with other friends were best car, slow cooker, bell tent, dog breed, cat breed, mug manufacturer. They take great pride in their purchasing and like to buy the 'best'. It will end up all over Instagram and I'll have to listen to mutual friends tell me I've bought one just like 'Shopping Friend'

So yabu - tell her, share the joy, it's just a thing for the garden
Yanbu - keep quiet, wallow in your mid life teen cool crisis, don't share the info, you win the best garden thing prize, don't share.

Is it gnome? Can you please tell us?

I'd just ignore the message. Its a bit cheeky of her to get back in touch especially and you don't have to tell her.
If you feel you do, just say the shop went bankrupt or give her a random website where she can waste loads of time looking. Or say it was Limited Edition?

If she’d got your DD a gift, would you have told her where your expensive, cool, nailed it amongst the blessed people item was from? Hmm I wonder why the friendship was fading?

It's one of those gnomes with the light-up arse, isn't it?
What exactly is 'fucking nailed it this time' style? It sounds like a load of pretentious wank.

This is your reply

"Best mug manufacturer".

WTF - or who the fuck - is the "best mug manufacturer"?

This thread has made me SO happy. I'm with you OP. You win the coolest garden thing competition.

'Fucking nailed it this time'

😂😂😂

In my head I read your op in the voice of Alan Partridge 😂

It's fairly obvious that you're an equally competitive purchaser..

Clothes or jewellery I wouldnt tell her, it would be annoying if you were both somewhere wearing it at the same time.

But something in the garden...i just couldn't give a shit if someone else 'nailed it' in the garden stuff buying department by copying me

You’re both as petty and immature as each other. You’re one of those pretentious people who likes to pretend you’re more middle class than you are, and are really insecure about it aren’t you op.

TELL HER FUCK ALL.... and enjoy your garden thingamajig🎉... it's zilcho to do with anyone where when and how you purchased it 🌟🌺

Hi Op
I get why you feel the way you do about your so called friend too.

She your friend sounds really irritating in her competive impulse shopping spree nature.

Your so called friend sounds very superficial and fickle
everything is about showing off to impress as many as possible on social media /and her circle of friends etc.

You hardly hear from your friend and then out of the in a random way,she is only interested in herself,her own needy ways.

She your friend can not even be Arsed to ask how you are/your family

Op
Do not tell her where you got this lovely garden furniture from at all

Just say you can not Rember.

She your so called friend is not worth it op.

She is just one of life's User's.

@Cccc1111

You’re both as petty and immature as each other. You’re one of those pretentious people who likes to pretend you’re more middle class than you are, and are really insecure about it aren’t you op.

you sound unhinged FFS 🤣

Nah... don’t tell her. I’m with you.

You are being a bit childish OP, but I also sympathise with you because people who are intrusive with questions about where things are from and who have form for copying are quite annoying.

Such a lot of people on this thread with a sense of humour bypass looking down on the OP and calling her childish. Good post OP, well written. Give her the name of a shop a couple of hours away that doesn’t have a website. Oh dear, I’m childish too!

Nope @BlueThistles I just live in an area there are a lot of people like op. I know of this type of person too well! Currently trying to plot my escape from the area I live in before I become one of them

Is it a firebowl from The Firepit Company?

Stay schtum with your ex friend, but, I beg you, tell us. Tell us what it is, where you got it and how much it was. I am not sure I will be able to sleep again until you do.

This sounds like a family member of mine. She was furious that I wouldn't tell her where I got my planters. I told her the truth, Dh made me them. She tried different people who all told her the same thing... Dh made them. She still thinks I've bought them.

Is it a gigantic chip for your shoulder?
It's extremely childish, the whole thing.

If you've had yours for three years, why on earth would your friends think you've copied the other person? Just tell her and stop being so precious.