To not tell friend where I bought something.

[GardenGnomeParty]

Three years ago we bought a common garden thing from a local supplier. It's gorgeous, still looks great, had lots of use and we love it.
My friend admired it but was then disappointed to be given a lovely but different one from her family. Not heard from her for ages, no presents for my DD last year for her birthday, I thought the friendship had faded.
She's now asked where we bought ours from.
I don't want to tell her.
It was expensive and I don't want local gossip.
Our version is unusual but classy and I don't want to share my 'fucking nailed it this time' style.
I have sensed 'competitive purchasing' from this 'Shopping Friend' family in the past, they do it with others and pride themselves on their great 'taste'. It's not healthy and we have distanced ourselves from them.
The examples they gave with other friends were best car, slow cooker, bell tent, dog breed, cat breed, mug manufacturer. They take great pride in their purchasing and like to buy the 'best'. It will end up all over Instagram and I'll have to listen to mutual friends tell me I've bought one just like 'Shopping Friend'

So yabu - tell her, share the joy, it's just a thing for the garden
Yanbu - keep quiet, wallow in your mid life teen cool crisis, don't share the info, you win the best garden thing prize, don't share.

Mug manufacturer 😂

Ignore the text

Yanbu, if only for your description of why you aren’t being unreasonable 😁

YABU. Tell her. Life is just too short to worry about stuff like this.

Surely if it’s a common garden thing from a local supplier it can’t be that hard for her to find herself

Or just say you don’t remember

Grow up

Tell them B & M. 😁

Don't tell her but tell us

Is it a garden gnome?

A real friend, I'd tell them. But someone who hadn't bothered keeping in touch and then contacted me out of the blue just to ask this - I'd ignore them...

Really?

I don't understand why this matters so much.

Based on your username... is it a gnome giving the finger or exposing its arse?

Tell her it was a gift

@Mucklemore

Don't tell her but tell us

Yes! Tell us, we won’t tell.

If it's 3 years old you could tell her it came from xx shop (where it didn't come from) and be sympathetic 'Ohhhh they must have discontinued it' when she can't buy one.

She doesn't want yours OP, she wants one like it.

No skin off your nose surely

Tell her it was bespoke?

You've used way too many inverted commas in your 'post'

@GammyLeg

Based on your username... is it a gnome giving the finger or exposing its arse?

😂

This thread is making me laugh so much!! Chill out OP, and tell your acquaintance where you bought your garden gnome from.

I think it's a bit immature to keep this kind of thing a secret, as a general rule, but if she's more of an annoyance than a friend, that's different. You could ignore the text, tell her you don't recall, or say it was a gift and you don't know where it was purchased. (Of course, if word gets out that it was a gift then you can't claim credit for having discovered the coolest Garden Thing in the neighbourhood. )

Why do people feel so competitive about what they own? It sounds like insecurity.

I couldnt care less if someone I knew bought something I owned. In fact I would feel quite flattered.

Just tell her ‘John Lewis, I think. It was a few years ago. That’ll piss her off because it’s posh and it’s out of stock.

I love the pettiness of this. I feel the same sometimes!

You have problems, how childish!

Is it a trampoline?