To think 28 isn't too young to have a baby?

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I'm pregnant with my first child and about to turn 28. DH is 31. Since we started telling our friends and family, a few have commented that they are surprised as we are so young.

I've googled and seen that the average age to be a first time mum has now gone past 30.

Am I going to be the youngest at all baby groups and struggle to make friends?! I thought we were fairly average.

I was 23...so not too young

A quick google suggests 28/29 to be absolutely average first time mum age!

Thank you for the congrats!

I had one friend tell me "Oh I want to be AT LEAST 32 before I have my first!' which I thought was slightly patronising!

I would say the younger end of average these days but definitely not too young.

I was 19 when I had my first and 28 when I had my 5th.
To me you’re definitely not too young.

Blimey times have changed. A friend of mine was officially a "geriatric mother" when she had her first child at 26.

I was going to say it's not that long ago, but it's probably 40 years

I had mine at 32. I sometimes envy people who has theirs really young. I could be having a second life by now

Wow, too young really?!

I was 23 when I had my first, just had my 3rd at 27. No wonder I get funny looks 😂🙈

I’d say it was perfect! I was pregnant with DS at 28 (he was born when I was 29) and DD came along 2 weeks after I turned 32.

I was very average among my friends - when I found out I was having DS, four of my friends found out they were pregnant in the next few months, they’re all a similar age to me. But I was much older in our local area at the time (lots of the mums at a local baby group we went to were 19-25) and younger than the mums at the quite fancy nursery DC1 attended for a bit (lots had their 40th birthday while I knew them there).

I don’t think it’s you, but it’s also not as clear as they are wrong in their thinking.

In my industry a lot of women have PhDs so would normally be trying to fast track their career during their late 20’s and seem to start having a family at 34 ish.

I do admit to thinking 28 was really young to have a child when I saw an old school friend at about that age, then within 2-3 years all of my friends had babies so your mindset can change quite quickly.

I can’t even tell you the average age in my NCT group as I thought we were all the same age! I was 30 when I had my first.

I had my first at 28, and was described on my notes as ‘elderly’!!

It depends on your social circle. I'm near your age and many people i went to school with have children, and only one of my Facebook friends from university has them.

I was 18 when i had my first, now 31 and pregnant again!

I still feel young!

I'll be 33 and worried I'll be much older than everyone else. My sis was 27 with her first - she's generally one of the youngest of her friends (one was 25 when she had her first at the same time as my sis) but never had trouble making friends. it's rarely about the number but more about the stage of your life you're in

I was pregnant with number 4 by 28 😅

I had ds at 28 and don't consider myself a 'young mum' by any stretch! It's a very average age. People are just weird when it comes to this subject unfortunately. When ds was born DP was 29 and his mum considers him an 'older dad' which is mental to me!

I think it's the perfect age. I was 29 when I got pregnant with dd1. BUT where I live, most first time Mums are in their 40's so I must have seemed very young!

I had 3 before i was 29. So i would say no - 28 not too young for your first :)

Not too young. Definitely unusual where I live, though. First time mums are between 31-37 on average. I have two friends who had children at 29, but they live elsewhere.

I think like PP it really depends on who you know / social circle

I had my first DD at 30 and felt I was late to the game, yet was the youngest in NCT by at least 4 years, and now many people my age at work are only trying for DC late thirties so 36+ seems to be more the age

At the school gate there definitely seems to be the younger / older split roughly by socioeconomics

I'm really surprised by that reaction, I was 25 when I had my first and was no where near the youngest mum at baby groups we attended

Considering that the average age of a first time mum in the UK is 28.9, you are bang on average. So absolutely no need to worry.

28 is a great age! You'll probably find that you're the youngest at the likes of NCT groups but that's a class thing more than anything to be honest.

I'm almost 28 and have an almost 9 year old and I'm the youngest parent at school BY FAR at our local village primary school however my experience at an inner city school in a deprived area that my child attended prior to his current school most of the parents were teens when they had had their first.

My sister is 34 and out of about ten 33-34 year olds she keeps in contact with from university, only 2 are married, 1 engaged and 1 pregnant. None have kids yet.

A few of my own friends (who are now 40) have only starting having kids in the last 2-3 years. People are definitely settling down later in life and pursing careers beforehand I think.

28 isn't too young though - it's a good age to have your first.