To still not having anything to eat because of what someone said

[yarncakes]

We get meals made for us at work when we're on shift so the chef used to do it for us which is lovely. A few weeks after starting, I was eating and my supervisor said what have you got so I told her what I had and she said you've got too much there it was sectioned for other staff which I had absolutely no clue about! I hadn't touched it so I said fine I will put it back and she said there's no point now and I said no, you've said it now so I will put it back in the fucking kitchen. I got up and went to give it back and the chef said is there something wrong with it, I said not at all I realised that I need to leave now to pick up my little one. I never have lunch at work now and just wait until I get home and the supervisor still asks me if I'm having any lunch and I always say no. Surely by now she realised how much she has offended me? It's been months and it still gets to me.

Maybe she is amused that you appear to be starving yourself to try an punish her? It's like something one of my children would do - fine I'll never eat again then like them starving themselves will be anything but shit for them.

Frankly, you'd be facing a disciplinary if you'd spoken to me like that at work.

Stop sulking and grow up. I imagine she realises what you're doing and is growing tired of it.

You swore at your boss and youre the one who’s offended?? And you think starving yourself is affecting her in any way at all?

Grow up and learn to act professionally at work

I think it was a terrible way to speak to your supervisor a few weeks after starting.

She’s your boss, not your mother. It’s not her responsibility to make sure you have lunch.

You took more than one portion, and she told you so you would know for next time. You overreacted.

Are you 11?

She was unkind to bring it up as you were about to eat.

Did you swear at her?

Why on earth wouldn't you eat now, you made a mistake, you know how things work.

The only person you're punishing is yourself. Take your own lunch, stop starving yourself to prove a point. It clearly hasn't worked as you say she doesn't notice so why make your own life miserable. If it's a lunch you've made yourself then nobody can comment on portion size as your not meant to share it with others.

Yeah, refuse to eat and go hungry all the time, that'll show her!

You are massively cutting off your nose to spite your face. She offended you but she won't really care if you now don't eat. Work out what the deal is and get on with it. There was no way they could serve your food to someone else, so putting it back in the kitchen was pointless. Surely you would just say OK I will do differently tomorrow.

Yeah, not eating lunch is definitely showing her!

You swore at your boss then started a hunger strike campaign?

Mature employee of the month goes to. .....

You sound like a stroppy toddler. You swore at your manager?! You are lucky to get away with that.

She hasn't noticed you aren't eating at work and if she did, she clearly doesn't care I wouldnt so you are only mugging yourself off. Ridiculous.

I think after speaking to your supervisor like that, you should be glad you’ve still got a job (with or without lunch)

Here, you can borrow my grip. You seem to have lost yours...

Cheeky woman could have been much kinder in telling you the food was for way more people.. so you reacted to her action ... no surprises there... this is what happens when rudeness is allowed to flourish 🌺

Maybe she doesn't care because you're an adult and if you choose not to eat that's up to you.
You really need to grow up

She's asking because she's your boss and as you said, entitled to lunch. It's your decision whether you eat there or not. I'm sure it's no skin off her nose.

Did you serve yourself from a dish or was it already plated up? I don't think your boss did anything wrong, unless it was said in a nasty way. I don't know why you would continue not to have lunch there because of this.

Grow up, OP.

I’m assuming you didn’t actually swear at your supervisor on your first day in a new job and you use of the the word ‘fucking’ was simply in the retelling of the story.

It’s not her/his responsibility to make sure you eat, I’m assuming you’re over 18. Stop punishing yourself and eat if you’re hungry. I’m surprised you weren’t pulled up about your swearing. I’d have reported you if you’d have spoken to me like that at work.

If you'd spoken to me like that you would be having a formal discussion that would be recorded and in your personnel file.

Sorry - a few weeks into the job.

Nonetheless, I assume an actual adult (well, child and teenager, for that matter) knows not to swear at work, to a supervisor.

Because, I mean, come on.