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AIBU?

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To still not having anything to eat because of what someone said

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yarncakes · 17/02/2021 18:51

We get meals made for us at work when we're on shift so the chef used to do it for us which is lovely. A few weeks after starting, I was eating and my supervisor said what have you got so I told her what I had and she said you've got too much there it was sectioned for other staff which I had absolutely no clue about! I hadn't touched it so I said fine I will put it back and she said there's no point now and I said no, you've said it now so I will put it back in the fucking kitchen. I got up and went to give it back and the chef said is there something wrong with it, I said not at all I realised that I need to leave now to pick up my little one. I never have lunch at work now and just wait until I get home and the supervisor still asks me if I'm having any lunch and I always say no. Surely by now she realised how much she has offended me? It's been months and it still gets to me.

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mantlepiece · 17/02/2021 20:00

She might have offended you but she also educated you on portion size so you should be thankful for that.
Just think how offended your colleagues would be if they went for their lunch and there was none left.

xyzandabc · 17/02/2021 20:01

You made a genuine mistake because you didn't know. Your supervisor pointed it out so you would know for next time, which is their job. The correct response would have been along the lines of 'oh sorry, I didn't know, I'll make sure to check next time'.

Instead, you flew off the handle, swore at your supervisor, are somehow offended and now refuse to eat at work. How would you have ever known about what was/wasn't allowed if no one told you?

Is there more to this than the OP states?

Backtobacktheyfacedeachother · 17/02/2021 20:03

I’ve just seen a couple of your other posts. You’ve argued with a supervisor about covering weekend shifts is it the same supervisor as this incident?

RosesRoundtheDoor8 · 17/02/2021 20:03

@DayBath

Is there a bit more to this OP? Did you think it was a comment on you being greedy or perhaps a comment on your weight? I can see how it could be taken the wrong way and I have suffered in the past from a phobia of eating in front of others due to a specific type of bullying when I was a child. You were rude to swear at her but I'm just trying to see if from your side here..what else aren't you telling us?

I used to starve myself because of nasty comments about my weight made by a parent. They would constantly tell me how far and ugly I was.

LoudestCat14 · 17/02/2021 20:05

Talking about cutting off your nose to spite your face! You haven't had lunch at work for months because of one comment? Madness.

IloveFebruary · 17/02/2021 20:06

@TheCanyon

You posted about this at the time. Yes, yabu for still being in a sulk.

I remember the first thread too. OP just eat a normal size portion like everyone else.

StanfordPines · 17/02/2021 20:08

She’s doesn’t care. The end here is that you are hungry and unhappy. She is an adult.

Candyfloss99 · 17/02/2021 20:11

This is called cutting off your nose to spite your face. Why would she care that you don't eat lunch anymore? She's probably happy you're no longer eating all the food.

Lotusmonster · 17/02/2021 20:11

Surely you didn’t really say “Fucking” did you??!!! Classy.

VinylDetective · 17/02/2021 20:13

It’s half term, isn’t it?

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 17/02/2021 20:13

Are you supplementing your sulk with passive aggression?

SteveBrexit · 17/02/2021 20:14

She might have offended you but she also educated you on portion size so you should be thankful for that.

brilliant
😂

AndreaMartelsCoat · 17/02/2021 20:16

Ha brilliant, someone has bumped your other thread.

You are utterly bonkers and scrap what I said above about a formal conversation, you'd be out on your ear, no question.

Xerochrysum · 17/02/2021 20:18

Bit childish reaction imo. Could have just said "sorry didn't realise won't do it again."
Sounds like you are angry because you felt embarrassed.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 17/02/2021 20:19

Ha brilliant, someone has bumped your other thread
Just saw it😂

ChristOnAPeloton · 17/02/2021 20:19

I get that it must’ve been supremely embarrassing for you for your supervisor to have taken you aside for a quiet word about eating other people’s lunch, but I don’t understand why you think her not offending you should have been the priority here. And why she should be worried now that you’re not eating.

You’ve made a massive mountain out of a molehill here. The only one suffering is you because you’re not getting any of the chef’s nice food.

RosesRoundtheDoor8 · 17/02/2021 20:20

@StanfordPines

She’s doesn’t care. The end here is that you are hungry and unhappy. She is an adult.

This

She isn't going to be bothered about this all these months later.

You're the only one suffering from this. I can maybe understand why, but it isn't helping you.

Cpl1586407 · 17/02/2021 20:20

Hahaha what are you, 5?

All this pent up rage and I'm sure your boss doesn't give a shiny shit

SunshineCocktails · 17/02/2021 20:20

Catch yourself on...really.

Originalusername2021 · 17/02/2021 20:21

again?

SchrodingersImmigrant · 17/02/2021 20:21

I get what people are saying about eating issues after being bullied (hope you are all better now), but let's be honest here. If someone is eating someone else's food, you simply have to tell them. It's not nasty, it's not bullying, it's a simple fact that someone else's lunch is being eaten. You can't really just ignore it at work, can you.

GrapefruitGin · 17/02/2021 20:22

I fell for it, doh.

Bookwords · 17/02/2021 20:22

That's known as cutting off your nose to spite your face!

SteveBrexit · 17/02/2021 20:22

We don't even know if it was obviously over-eating, or the company is stingy and should have been more obvious....

I am guessing you took the mickey, but who knows

shouldistop · 17/02/2021 20:25

I remember your last post about this

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