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To still not having anything to eat because of what someone said

145 replies

yarncakes · 17/02/2021 18:51

We get meals made for us at work when we're on shift so the chef used to do it for us which is lovely. A few weeks after starting, I was eating and my supervisor said what have you got so I told her what I had and she said you've got too much there it was sectioned for other staff which I had absolutely no clue about! I hadn't touched it so I said fine I will put it back and she said there's no point now and I said no, you've said it now so I will put it back in the fucking kitchen. I got up and went to give it back and the chef said is there something wrong with it, I said not at all I realised that I need to leave now to pick up my little one. I never have lunch at work now and just wait until I get home and the supervisor still asks me if I'm having any lunch and I always say no. Surely by now she realised how much she has offended me? It's been months and it still gets to me.

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Newnamefor2021 · 17/02/2021 19:08

She probably has noticed and she's wondering when you're going to stop sulking like a child. How old are you and how long have you worked there? Are you still in your probationary period?

DayBath · 17/02/2021 19:09

Is there a bit more to this OP? Did you think it was a comment on you being greedy or perhaps a comment on your weight? I can see how it could be taken the wrong way and I have suffered in the past from a phobia of eating in front of others due to a specific type of bullying when I was a child. You were rude to swear at her but I'm just trying to see if from your side here..what else aren't you telling us?

imalmostthere · 17/02/2021 19:09

What? All she did was tell you it was meant for several people. Unless she started swearing and hollering, she's done nothing wrong in telling something you didn't realise. I can see why she said not to put it back, how is she to know you haven't touched it? We are in a pandemic - I wouldn't want your recycled food for lunch.
You're cutting off your nose to spite your face. You really need to grow up.

ChancesWhatChances · 17/02/2021 19:09

My 3 year old learned refusing to eat to get at me didn’t work recently, it just ended up with him hungry.

As an aside, if someone’s offended you then talk to them about it (politely, without swearing). She pointed out that you took more than your share and deprived your colleagues of theirs, she wasn’t trying to offend you. Put the tantrums away, grow up and stop the passive aggressive shit that you should have outgrown once you left the teenage years behind.

Wearywithteens · 17/02/2021 19:10

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Brieminewine · 17/02/2021 19:11

I’m confused, you were informed by your boss you’d taken other peoples portions, you swore at her but your the one that’s pissed off?!

AbsitivelyPosolutely · 17/02/2021 19:12

🤣🤣

TheCanyon · 17/02/2021 19:13

You posted about this at the time. Yes, yabu for still being in a sulk.

HelgaGPataki · 17/02/2021 19:13

Sounds like you overreacted because you were embarrassed..

Womencanlift · 17/02/2021 19:13

There is something familiar about this story. I am sure it has been on here before.

If this really happened the. YABVU and acting like a child. She probably doesn’t have a clue she has offended you and probably just things you are odd for not eating at work of that is the done thing

luxxlisbon · 17/02/2021 19:13

This is crazy and something a teenager would do. You aren’t having lunch at work to spite your supervisor and you think that is somehow sticking it to them?
They were just pointing out you took food for other staff members. You said you didn’t know, you were told and then you were aware.
Obviously no one wants the food off your plate so you making a big song and dance about being offended and putting it back is just weird.

SteveBrexit · 17/02/2021 19:13

how long before you mention fat-shaming too?

You are, in all honesty, completely ridiculous.

Do you react to everything that way? You must be a dream to work with.

VainAbigail · 17/02/2021 19:15

@TheCanyon

You posted about this at the time. Yes, yabu for still being in a sulk.
Yeh, this has been posted about before. Ages ago. And the OP is still on about it.....
PegasusReturns · 17/02/2021 19:15

I’ve read this before....Confused

SchrodingersImmigrant · 17/02/2021 19:16

@TheCanyon

You posted about this at the time. Yes, yabu for still being in a sulk.
Wait. It's real?😱
wineandcheeseplease · 17/02/2021 19:17

Are you 14? If not yabu

StrikeWhileTheCoffeeIsHot · 17/02/2021 19:17

You swore at your line manager?

DisgruntledPelican · 17/02/2021 19:19

Can anyone link to the previous thread?

imalmostthere · 17/02/2021 19:20

I just tried to find the previous thread but gave up due to the sheer amount of posts by OP

SteveBrexit · 17/02/2021 19:20

@PegasusReturns

I’ve read this before....Confused
shame the most entertaining threads always get deleted. I was waiting for the huge drip-feed from the OP
Curiosity101 · 17/02/2021 19:21

The OP may have an undiagnosed eating disorder. I do think telling the OP they're being childish/acting like a teenager makes an assumption about their relationship with food being normal.

I do however agree that you need to find a way to get past this @yarncakes as it's definitely not healthy/normal to react so strongly to what you've described. It's also not healthy/normal to still be so upset by it. It doesn't sound like you or your manager were unreasonable at the time (swearing aside). You made a mistake and she highlighted it. That's ok though, you live and learn, but you do need to find a way to let it go.

BlueThistles · 17/02/2021 19:21

@Womencanlift

There is something familiar about this story. I am sure it has been on here before.

If this really happened the. YABVU and acting like a child. She probably doesn’t have a clue she has offended you and probably just things you are odd for not eating at work of that is the done thing

Actually... yes I recall this now 🤔

ChonkyChook · 17/02/2021 19:22

How much did you take!?

Sugarandteaandmum · 17/02/2021 19:25

yes this is the same as before??

OP, what bugs you about it so much? Why is it still playing on your mind? It's no fun having those memories that make you feel rubbish. Perhaps you can work out what upset you so much and make your peace with it.

SteveBrexit · 17/02/2021 19:25

@ChonkyChook

How much did you take!?
I bet we'll never know, if it was something like 2 sandwiches instead of 1, or 25 sandwiches from a platter of 30 Grin

it would make it pretty obvious if there was a mistake or not..

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