Would you buy present for all children on one child’s birthday?

[MotherToBee]

Does anyone buy your other children a little present when it’s their siblings birthday?

Personally I would not.
Defo not, teaching the kids they should get something as well as they will end up spoilt and entitled.
They was not born on that day why take it away from the child who actually has the birthday.
Each to their own no judgments passed though!

No I wouldn't

Yes and no.
if there is a party then there are sweet treats for the other kids. Pass the parcel or piniata games etc.
if no party then no. you get the cake thats enough

Unless they are twins etc and it's their birthday too.

I usually get something for the siblings too but it's nothing big, just a bag of sweets each or a £1-£2 pocket money type of toy - by that I mean the little spinning tops, finger lights, slime pots, etc that The Works and Flying Tiger sell. Birthdays are exciting for children and I think its nice for the siblings to have a little token something too.

Definitely not.

As a PP said, a party is different but that’s more for prizes and goody bags. Not just the birthday child should win all the games.

No one ever grew up spoilt and entitled because they got given a bag of Haribo or a strip of stickers on their siblings birthday

Yes I do. It was done for me and my brother. Only little things, a book, sweets, something around £5. I used to love getting a little thing on my brothers’s birthday, it didn’t take away from the birthday child at all.

Not if it was at one of DC's classmates' parties or something, but sometimes, if it's a family we know really well and we haven't seen them got a while, I'll bring a present for the birthday child and little things for their siblings. But that's probably because I would bring them something even if it was nobody's birthday.

It certainly wouldn't annoy me if someone did it for mine and I don't think it is inherently wrong, if that's what you're getting at.

No.

For* not got

I wouldn't get an actual gift, but sibling get to enjoy any party/outing/treat, and I usually try to get the birthday child some gifts that are multiplayer or can be done together.

And yeah, neither of us have grown up to be spoilt and entitled. We are both quite thoughtful though 🤷‍♀️

I actually think this causes more confusion with little ones. Why has their big brother got lots of presents and I've only got this one little thing? It's not fair! If they have no presents because it's not their day it's easier to understand I think.

No. I never did this. If there were any protests I explained to them that their own turn would come on their own birthdays and ignored all else after that.

No, birthday here are all about the person having the birthday. Everyone gets a turn so no unfairness.

We do gifts and treats throughout the year though so maybe those that only buy on birthdays and Christmas do it for that reason.

We had to put a stop to this as DH’s family would buy for his two children if it was one of their birthdays, but nothing for mine because they weren’t the real grandchildren. It would be a sizeable gift for the non birthday child as well. We suggested just buying for the birthday child only as I think it’s a bit mean to just single out the other sibling in a blended family.

Nope , I never have done

No, my sil does this and even buys herself a gift.🤷‍♀️

Yes when kids where young as it’s awfully hard when it’s 6 months and forever to your birthday and you have to watch someone open theirs. But small a book or sweets and only when under 5/6

This happened to me up until I was about 8 and I am in my 50s. I remember being so excited at getting a fuzzy felt circus for my younger brother's fifth birthday. I didn't need to do it for my children as I had twins but I probably would have done.

The other side - it was a nice thing to do. I remember my mum asking me to help choose a little something for my brother in the lead up to my birthday and she did the same to my brother. I think that was a big part of it, we both enjoy choosing gifts still.

I wonder if all the people who insist on birthday festivals - demanding people go abroad, lavish parties, banquets out etc., got a token gift on a siblings birthday. All the talk of landmark birthdays - I know something who insists on a 5 at the end of year needs to be a big celebration, tells me they were King/Queen for the day.

My mum always did this when I was a kid. A little gift for the non birthday child/children. Stopped when we were teens. When I was a teen my younger sisters still got gifts on the others birthday but I did not. I am not spoilt!

I have two children both are autistic so I do tend to do it too. Just because when it’s DS’s birthday he won’t even let Dd even take a quick look at his new stuff and gets quite protective over his new things. So a little something for Dd helps. Plus DS gets a little something on Dd’s birthday too. Nothing expensive 🌸

No I don't.

Wasn't done for me and I wasn't bothered by it. The non birthday child gets to enjoy the party or outing, the cake etc.

No, 3 of my children were all born in March, the month is expensive enough as it is! What a weird thing to do

God no. Absolutely not for Birthday's.

Only time siblings have got a gift is when a new sibling arrived.

We did it with our own kids. So the (then) 2yo got a new teddy when his sister arrived and the (then) 5yo and 3yo got a little activity pack each when our 3rd arrived.

Same logic applies If I am going to someone's house to meet a new baby - I will take a little something for the siblings [dependant on age? So maybe a some pens and a colouring book] so they don't feel left out.

DC2 and DC3 have birthdays very close together so things like banners / balloons remain up for both of them and we usually have a joint celebration (low key family party or an activity... they are both still young so we've not done any proper parties!)