Would you buy present for all children on one child’s birthday?

[MotherToBee]

Does anyone buy your other children a little present when it’s their siblings birthday?

Personally I would not.
Defo not, teaching the kids they should get something as well as they will end up spoilt and entitled.
They was not born on that day why take it away from the child who actually has the birthday.
Each to their own no judgments passed though!

Oh I bloody hate that. My mil buys BIL's dcs presents on DD's birthday, so they don't 'feel left out'. They also have to get a go at blowing out the candles. It spoils the day for her.

definitely not, the others still have their pocket money and can buy something themselves.
Birthdays are special you only get one.
The only exception would be if it were close family who I bought something for every week like magazines/ sweets. Then of course I'd still take those.
My gd only 2.5 knows where I keep the chocolate buttons she only gets a couple

I used to for my daughter's. Only ever something small. My mum did it too.
I can't remember how old they were when I stopped but so far doesn't seem to have affected them too badly.

@Isadora2007
It was my opinion not judging what others do or don’t do.

We used to when they were younger, cousins too if they were staying. Choosing little presents is fun and everyone is happy.

Having presents doesn’t make them spoilt or entitled. Not learning the word ‘No’ makes them entitled and spoilt.

I've only got one child but no I wouldn't. Birthdays are so important. It is the one day it's about you and what you want no matter how old you are.

Only if it's a joint party. If my child didn't know the other child then they'd get a small gift like a box of Malteser's or some felt tips from Poundland.

My parents always used to. We certainly weren't spoilt kids and I don't remember ever resenting my brother getting something on my special day.

DD has had a birthday during this lockdown, she actually asked that I buy her two fewer presents and buy gifts for her siblings instead so that they could have something exciting during lockdown. She loved pointing out to them that two of the gifts in the pile were theirs.

I have two boys and I always buy something small for the other for an 'unbirthday' present - it used to be Brio trains/Lego etc, more recently wireless gaming headphones , still Lego sets etc. Also usually some chocolates / my two love the Lindt praline balls. Just a token really but of course all the real fuss and treats are for the birthday boy.

Sometimes my dc's grandparents get something small for the non birthday kid, if they see something suitable. I don't mind. I am a twin so don't really get the whole each child needing a special day of their own thing. I loved sharing opening gifts and blowing out candles with someone on my birthday. In fact, I sometimes feel a bit sad my kids don't have anyone to share their birthday with. It seems a bit lonely...

A firm no from me. Only exception is when a sibling is born, small present for older child/ren when visiting the new baby.

Depends, I use to live overseas and would send gifts to my DNs, I’d always put extra in for the other kids no matter whose birthday it was. I also gave my youngest a small gift last year, only because she was at an age she didn’t fully understand why her siblings who have birthdays a day apart were getting gifts and she didn’t, on one of the days I gave her an old toy she wouldn’t have remembered already having. I won’t be doing it this year as she understands birthdays more now.

No. Over indulgent and unnecessary. Children need to learn to take turns, respect other people in the spotlight and defer gratification.

This has never occurred to me! Everyone in this house just enjoys watching the birthday person opening their presents and looks forward to sharing their cake.

No, no, no, and good god no. Its not they're birthday. Just creating an entitled spoilt brat

@NewScone

Unless they are twins etc and it's their birthday too.

I don't do it because it never occurred to me, (although new babies bring presents for their siblings).
But, the flip side to the idea that "getting a present on your siblings birthday makes you spoilt and entitled" is surely that children are being brought up to realise that their sibling getting a present on their birthdays doesn't actually detract from the birthday child in any way, and will encourage inclusiveness and sharing.

No & I highly recommend not doing this at all. My mother did this when I was small & I absolutely hated it, it ruined every birthday for me as it was never just my special day, I always had to share

No, no, no, and good god no. Its not they're birthday. Just creating an entitled spoilt brat

This with bells on. That is exactly what my brother grew up to be & still felt entitled to take from our parents in his 50s. He actually thought he was doing them a favour as in his warped entitled head he made them feel needed. We are NC as he is a toxic POS

No way. It’s the birthday child’s special day and they all get their turn eventually. The siblings are involved in the fun of the day anyway so they still end up having an exciting time celebrating with cake and a party or whatever. In my opinion a present to stop them from feeling “left out” is just ridiculous.

No and I don’t say they can help blow out candles either

No, no, no, and good god no. Its not they're birthday. Just creating an entitled spoilt brat

It really isn't.

No never have done as its the one day for that person to feel special

Absolutely not. I don’t believe in offering a panacea to other dc when it’s another dc’s birthday, it’s just not fair to the birthday child.

Yes I always did nothing extravagant maybe a comic and sweets or small toy .never wrapped it so they knew it wasnt there birthday all my relatives did as well wouldnt give to just one child just not my way x