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ArabellaRockerfella · 2021-02-15T00:19:51+00:00

I admit I'm a bit bitter and prone to thoughts of revenge so I could do with some rational thoughts here. My recently ex husband has a new girlfriend. She records her and her child's life on Facebook. It's all on public, no filters! In January her parents drove 300miles to visit her for 'much needed cuddles' She has just driven 300 miles with her child to visit them for a half term break. It's all mud masks and lovely walks and mummy time! It's really grinding my gears! When some of us are playing by the rules and not driving 10 miles to see our loved ones. I really want to report her as I know her address, car reg etc. All public on Facebook! To report a Covid breach though you have to give your own details and my ex has a temper! I don't want my name to be implicated. Should I just leave it alone and get a life? What would you do?

MsHedgehog · 15/02/2021 08:18

What has she done to you to make you so bitter and obsessed? Was she the affair partner? Or did you ex get together after you split?

If the latter, then you really are directing your anger at the wrong person.

TillyTopper · 15/02/2021 08:19

Rather than concentrating on her and what's she's going - in the nicest possible way you need to concentrate on doing more with your life so you stop worrying about her. No I wouldn't report because it's not a party for 30 it's 1 woman and a child and they went to see her parents. For all know she's doing the bubble thing with them. Perhaps start by blocking her on facebook or coming off social media.

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ArabellaRockerfella · 15/02/2021 08:20

@Wishingwell75

Op I think pp have already said what I think about this - you are better than this and also if she wasn't the new gf but just living her life on FB would you still be wondering whether to report or not? I really appreciate how you may be feeling. You've been hurt horribly and so I can imagine how tempted you are. But the reality will be very different I should think. For a start, she wasn't married to you, he was and I think he should be the person in the (fantasy) firing line. By all means throw darts at a photo of him on a dartboard but don't give him the satisfaction of knowing how upset you still are in real life. You already know she feels the need to document every fart on Facebook so can you imagine what a meal she'd make of being in a revenge plot. "U ok Hun?" "No my new dp has a psycho ex and she's stalking me Hun!" That sort of thing, she'd love the extra attention. Then there's your ex, you'd only be stroking his ego (I dare say you've already had enough of that!) by letting him know you can't move forward. The best revenge is playing the long game by focusing on yourself, finding out what makes you truly happy and going for it and taking all their (imagined) power over you by kicking them out of your mind!

Thank you x

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NerrSnerr · 15/02/2021 08:21

@TillyTopper the OP has said the girlfriend is already in a support bubble with the OP's ex.

CuntyMcBollocks · 15/02/2021 08:23

So you want to do it on the sly and report her, but aren't brave enough to give your name as the one who made the report? What a coward. Its none of your business.

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ArabellaRockerfella · 15/02/2021 08:24

[quote NerrSnerr]@emilyfrost which one is the childcare bubble? Going to visit the OP's ex every other weekend or doing face masks with her mum?

This is one of the reasons there were still big infection rates during this lockdown because people have been seeing who they want, mixing with multiple households and just telling everyone they're in bubbles. So many selfish idiots who don't give a shit about others. [/quote]
This does really make me cross.
Why some people think they can do what they want but think others should follow the rules.
But I guess as others have said I suppose I wouldn't even be thinking of reporting it if it wasn't her.

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Bluntness100 · 15/02/2021 08:25

Op did he actually leave you for this woman? It’s not quite clear if he left you for her or someone else?

You need to stop stalking her social media, it’s only you it’s harming. 💐

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ArabellaRockerfella · 15/02/2021 08:27

@Sarcobaleno

Sorry you're getting a hard time OP. I would imagine it's a pretty normal thing to do to look at the OW's Facebook. She's breaking the rules, she can't bubble with her bf and her parents irrelevant of distance. But I don't think you should report her, however understandable your desire for revenge is. Keep trying to be the better person, you'll feel better for it eventually. X

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Brefugee · 15/02/2021 08:27

I guess you're a bit jealous or something? Just block her. If you care about the children's privacy how about you message one of her friends to let her know that the entire universe can see pictures of her children and how harmful that might be.

And then block and move on with your life.

Barrantsvidal · 15/02/2021 08:30

I am sorry you are going through such a tough time.

No, do not report her. I think deep down you know it isn't the right thing to do and it certainly will not bring you peace.

Definitely come away from her Social Media, it will drive you insane. Concentrate on your own life and making that better for you. Remember, one day she will be cleaning the toilet after your ex, looking at his fading boxers drying round the house, and being knocked out with his morning breath. Karma has her own way of sorting out justice

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ArabellaRockerfella · 15/02/2021 08:32

@Hammonds

OP be kind to yourself

It’s easy for people to say ‘move on’ but you’ve suffered a catastrophic life event. The damage it can do your mental well being is probably much worse than a broken leg/arm ect.. those heal in weeks - events like this can take years as if creeps in to brain all day and refuses to allow you to sleep.

Its good your self aware enough to recognise your bitterness as many people don’t. Don’t let it consume you as it can fundamentally change you as a person and infect all relationships. I work off karma I don’t intentionally set out to hurt some one just incase it comes back to bite me on the bum!

Block her.
Even come off facebook so your not tempted to unblock her
Do lots and lots of self care and reading books around this topic.

You will be ok, you will get passed this if you work on it but don’t let him ruin you.

Thank you for your kindness and thoughtful response. I know you are right.x

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unbotheredbutbewildered · 15/02/2021 08:32

‘A catastrophic life event’ is the best description for ‘your scumbag husband left you’ that I’ve seen on MN.

You’re clearly hurting OP. But that doesn’t mean you should act like a bunny boiling psycho. It’s not going to make you feel any better. Just block her on Facebook, eat some custard creams and count yourself lucky; you had a narrow escape from the tosspotting fuckmuppet.

VaVaGloom · 15/02/2021 08:33

She’s a dick and your exH is a dick. You know this, Block her account don’t look. Things will get better for you and Take some comfort in knowing you are not a dick

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ArabellaRockerfella · 15/02/2021 08:34

@Barrantsvidal

I am sorry you are going through such a tough time.

No, do not report her. I think deep down you know it isn't the right thing to do and it certainly will not bring you peace.

Definitely come away from her Social Media, it will drive you insane. Concentrate on your own life and making that better for you. Remember, one day she will be cleaning the toilet after your ex, looking at his fading boxers drying round the house, and being knocked out with his morning breath. Karma has her own way of sorting out justice

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ArabellaRockerfella · 15/02/2021 08:35

@unbotheredbutbewildered

‘A catastrophic life event’ is the best description for ‘your scumbag husband left you’ that I’ve seen on MN.

You’re clearly hurting OP. But that doesn’t mean you should act like a bunny boiling psycho. It’s not going to make you feel any better. Just block her on Facebook, eat some custard creams and count yourself lucky; you had a narrow escape from the tosspotting fuckmuppet.

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Cornettoninja · 15/02/2021 08:36

I think your feelings are entirely natural but they are destructive, to you specifically. If someone makes you feel like this disengage. They’re not feeling awful and angry, that’s just you and any attempt to make them feel like you do probably won’t work anyway.

Find something that makes you feel good about you and build on that. Make sure there’s no room for her or your ex-DH in your head so they can become as inconsequential as they deserve to be in your life.

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ArabellaRockerfella · 15/02/2021 08:36

@VaVaGloom

She’s a dick and your exH is a dick. You know this, Block her account don’t look. Things will get better for you

and Take some comfort in knowing you are not a dick

My new mantra, "I am not a dick, I am not a dick"

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ArabellaRockerfella · 15/02/2021 08:38

@Cornettoninja

I think your feelings are entirely natural but they are destructive, to you specifically. If someone makes you feel like this disengage. They’re not feeling awful and angry, that’s just you and any attempt to make them feel like you do probably won’t work anyway.

Find something that makes you feel good about you and build on that. Make sure there’s no room for her or your ex-DH in your head so they can become as inconsequential as they deserve to be in your life.

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brownet · 15/02/2021 08:40

Its none of your business.

What qualifies as your own business?

I shout at litter louts, report fly tipping & have called the police when witnesses a burglary. None of that is my business.

SoupDragon · 15/02/2021 08:46

The "support bubble" excuse only holds water if she isn't seeing the OP's XH as well.

Some people are twats though - you just have to let it go sometimes.

peak2021 · 15/02/2021 08:46

Ask Facebook what they do if someone says they have breached Covid rules in such a blatant way. The answer is nothing of course, but worth reminding them how useless they are at managing their site.

Suggest you leave Facebook.

NerrSnerr · 15/02/2021 08:49

@peak2021

Ask Facebook what they do if someone says they have breached Covid rules in such a blatant way. The answer is nothing of course, but worth reminding them how useless they are at managing their site.

Suggest you leave Facebook.

Facebook aren't the police. Of course they remove violence etc but you can't expect them to remove Covid breaches. The OP wasn't considering reporting her to FB, she was going to report her to the police.

MzHz · 15/02/2021 08:53

@JosephineBaker

Oh you poor love!

I wish him nothing but toothache and warts.

No THAT’S a proper curse :)

MzHz · 15/02/2021 08:54

Now*

MrsIsobelCrawley · 15/02/2021 08:54

Please don't be the bunny-boiling vindictive ex. All you stand to do is lose your self-respect.

You have three children with your ex. If this woman stays in his life, you could lose the respect of your children as well.