To throw in towel on TTC after 2 months

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I don't mean to offend or upset anyone with this post and I know there are people who go through TTC for years and years of fertility treatments but I'll start by saying I'm in awe of how you can all carry on.
I'm two months in of tracking, DTD on certain days, taking all of the vitamins under the sun etc and I just can't mentally do it anymore. I've wanted children for about a year and I've been planning this for so long but if it doesn't happen when I'm doing everything perfectly then what's the point. I don't think IVF and adoption etc are what I'd want to do as I don't think I could deal with the stress if I can't even deal with it for 2 months. I just want to stop now before this consumes anymore of my time.

I'm two months in of tracking, DTD on certain days, taking all of the vitamins under the sun etc

You know the vast majority of people don’t do this, right? They just ditch the contraception, have sec and see what happens. Especially when they are only 8 weeks in...

My advice would be to don't let it take up any of your time. Just don't use contraception and have sex whenever you feel like it. So many people say it was when they relaxed and stopped trying that they conceived. I never tracked anything, just followed this advice (and have 2 kids now). There is as book called Taking charge of your Fertility which suggests making sure your bedroom is pitch black at night. That was the only other thing I did.

OP, the best advice I could give you is buying cheap of the internet ovulation strips. And check your ovulation around the time (from a few days before to a few days after) your period app (I use Clue) says it's your ovulation window. I say this because mine was earlier than what it said.

This is not very demanding to do. And to be honest, if you have fairly regular periods, you only need to do this for one month and then you know more or less where your ovulation falls on

Btw getting pregnant takes time. It took me 10 months for the first child.

How about just see what happens. We didn't have trackers, monitors etc 20 years ago - we just had sex, the babies followed. In a year if it hasn't happened, that's when to look at scientific approaches. Ttc should be fun, not stressful

Yes, stop OP. See if happens over the next year or so. It's not compulsory to 'try' like you are and be stressed from the start

Two months is a very short time.
The Via app had worked for me... twice.
There's such small window each month.

I've been pregnant four times and I have never in my life used an ovulation stick, spoken to a fertility consultant, or investigated my own cervical mucus.

Just have unprotected sex. It will either happen, or it won't.

*Ovia

Just stop with all the tracking and planning, stop using contraception and go with the flow?

I never "planned" my children they just sort of happened. Unless you're approaching your forties and time is against you just let nature take its course.

I did 9 months of tracking everything on DC1. I was miserable. We decided to get a pup, stop tracking, and just not use contraception. I got my BFP the day before we picked the pup up (FYI, dont do that. Morning sickness and toilet training a pup is NOT fun).

On DC2, I was told I had fertility issues, so we had the conversation to TTC as we may need IVF, chucked the condoms, and I got a (shocking) BFP 3 weeks later.

Just dont use contraception anymore. No need for tracking. It's just stress over something I think we all wish we could control but cant. Good luck to you!!

Stop the tracking, you'll go mad.

Sex 10 days after your period, every other day for a week.

No tracking at this point, you haven't ttc long enough. Ttc ruins your sex life and frame of mind, trust me, I done it for years.

Have fun, stop tracking.

I honestly don’t know why people bother with ovulation sticks, unless people don’t live together or can’t have sex frequently. If you have sex every 2 or 3 days from day 8 to day 20 then you’ll be getting sperm into the womb over the fertile window. If you’re aware of your cervical mucous then you can narrow it down even further to every other day in the fertile window. I got pregnant twice within 2 months using this method, and it’s free.

If you’re under 35 average time is a 6 months I think. Just have sex every other day, don’t track just relax and enjoy the process, if it hasn’t happened in 6 months track and if it hasn’t happened in a year see a doc. Good luck!

Is there any reason you're trying to suck all the joy out of this? Have you been trying for ages and failed to conceive or are you just making it really hard on yourselves?

You can't be serious?

Come back after 2 years & no help from NHS

80% of couples conceive within one year of trying and a GP won’t even look at investigating issues until you have been trying for two years - I speak from experience.

In the nicest possible way, get a grip! The stats on actual conception are something like 30% in any given month - so many things have to go right for it to happen - healthy egg meets healthy sperm, successful division of cells, successful implantation, etc.

Stop charting everything for now. If you know the approximate length of a normal cycle for you then just keep having sex every other day, or every third day through your potential fertile period. Don’t assume you ovulate on day 14 as very few women have a textbook cycle.

You will drive yourself utterly insane and make yourself miserable if you carry on like this.

If you've only just started ttc why are you tracking etc? As others said just ditch the contraception, have lots of sex and enjoy. Generally it only becomes 'a problem' if you are still ttc after a year with no success.

And I don't want to be a scaremonger but it took us 17 years 😩

2 months is nothing, literally nothing. If you've not been having unprotected sex prior to going to these extremes then you've been a bit nuts, just chill out and have sex when you want, regularly and see what happens.

Just have sex! Stop all the tracking and planning. IT takes all the nice bits away and makes it much harder.

When we were TTC the sex was not great and life was too sterile.

When we gave up and just had regular sex, because we wanted it, I fell pregnant.

If two months is too much hassle, you're gonna hate the hassle of being tied to a small baby.

You are massively overthinking this!

Even with perfect fertility you only have about a 20-25% chance of conceiving in a given cycle. You haven't given it chance to work yet!

Drop all the tracking. Shag when you feel horny or at least once a week. Stop taking vitamins except for folic acid.

Give it six months. I'd say eight, but you've done two. If you're not pregnant in 6 months, do some kind of tracking to make sure you're actually ovulating and dtd at the right time and try for another four months. If no luck, ask your GP to be referred for infertility investigations.

But mainly, try to surrender to the fact you can't actually control any of this. It's something you need to get used to with parenthood anyway!

Why have you jumped straight to the tracking stage? Have sex every few days see where that gets you!

2 months?? You know it takes most healthy couples up to a year right?

Is there a reason you are 'tracking, DTD on certain days, taking all of the vitamins under the sun'? Had you been having regular unprotected sex roughly two weeks before your period and not fallen pregnant before this? Or have you been told you will likely have problems conceiving?

If you think that is time consuming then stop for good.

Bringing children up will be a lot more time consuming and not something you can opt out of after a couple of months.