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In not going to drop things off at the hospital

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Hoppinggreen · 13/02/2021 11:38

My mum fell about 10 days ago and was taken to hospital where she has had an op. The hospital is very close to my house and when she has been there before I have been daily and taken food etc (she hates hospital food). I don’t mind visiting under normal circumstances and it’s nice to see her.
However, we have been pretty careful during Covid and stuck to the rules around seeing her. She and my sdad have health issues so are vulnerable but have been out and about more than they should, plus I know my brother has visited regularly. We are healthy but DD has mild asthma and I am overweight, plus DH is SE so if he was ill and couldn’t work it would cost us ££££££.
I dropped off a book and a couple of things my mum asked for last week but despite wearing a mask, using have gel etc I was pretty uneasy about being at the hospital and when DH had a blood test he also dropped off some clean nighties for her, the nurse taking his blood actually advised against it as he said Covid was rife in the hospital and my mums ward was opposite the Covid ward. DH did it anyway
This morning I had a text asking me to take her some more things and some food as the food there was awful, last time she was in hospital I cooked extra and took it in a cool bag to keep warm. I have replied saying I am not going to shops at the moment (thank you Ocado) and in any case I am not comfortable with coming to the hospital. I have suggested sdad do it as he has had both jabs so it’s safer to him. He does have some cognitive issues but can drive, go to shops etc.
I have had quite a nasty text back and now feel guilty - not guilty enough to do it but even so. DH is quite cross my mum would even ask
I am right not to go aren’t I? In an emergency I would go obviously but wanting a sandwich and clean undies isn’t an emergency

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WakeUpLockie · 14/01/2022 20:08

I know I’m just adding to the resurrectedness but I really want @Jellybeans53 to explain herself 🤣 seriously, what?? Why?? @MNHQ come onnnn!!

Hoppinggreen · 14/01/2022 20:13

I can’t understand what she was looking for to find the thread after so long

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MichelleScarn · 14/01/2022 20:22

I am so sorry @Hoppinggreen as am sure was not funny at the time, but this thread has made me chortle a bit. I'm actually surprised the thread back then wasn't full of people shrieking YOU LEFT THE HOUSE LAST WEEK, WHY ARE YOU LEAVING AGAIN!! DONT YOU KNOW THERES A PANDEMIC?!!! 😱😱😱 here's an appropriate covidy face mask for this zombie outbreak. Grin v glad your mum and you are all ok!

In not going to drop things off at the hospital
Ilovechinese · 14/01/2022 20:28

What a horrible way to treat your mum all because you're scared of a virus with a 99% survival rate! I feel sorry for her. I hope she has someone else who will help her whilst she is stuck in hospital

MichelleScarn · 14/01/2022 20:31

Did you just read the first post and the pile on and want to join @Ilovechinese [confused

MichelleScarn · 14/01/2022 20:32

Confused of course! It wasn't seen as 99% survival rate in Feb 2021.

Redglitter · 14/01/2022 20:36

@hibbledibble. Maybe read more than just the first post in future 🙄

iklboo · 14/01/2022 20:37

@MichelleScarn - of course. People like that never let checking a date get in the way of a jolly good pile on / keyboard warrior attack.

ResidentEden · 14/01/2022 20:42

You're selfish and vile.

Your mother could have left you without undies and nice food when you were reliant on her as a helpless child. Clearly she didnt. Now its her time of need and you make excuses. I've no doubt that your abandonment at this time will stay with her forever. I wish I could ease her time in hospital by showing care and compassion and taking her a few things.

84wood · 14/01/2022 20:52

I just want to let you know what happened to me. I didn’t want to go in because of covid. I accept hospitals grey policy - some allowed in and others not. Then my lovely mum died. I’ll. never get over it

iklboo · 14/01/2022 20:58

You're selfish and vile.

You can't read. Dates of the thread or the OP's update that this is a ZOMBIE THREAD and her mum has been home 10 months.

I wish I could ease her time in hospital by showing care and compassion and taking her a few things.

I don't think Dr Who is using the Tardis at the minute. Why not ask if you can borrow it? Maybe to just before you posted?

MichelleScarn · 14/01/2022 20:58

Oh ffs!! @mnhq can we please have a zombie alert at the top of the thread, some of these posts are really getting shitty and sticking the boot in!

Hoppinggreen · 14/01/2022 21:19

@ResidentEden

You're selfish and vile.

Your mother could have left you without undies and nice food when you were reliant on her as a helpless child. Clearly she didnt. Now its her time of need and you make excuses. I've no doubt that your abandonment at this time will stay with her forever. I wish I could ease her time in hospital by showing care and compassion and taking her a few things.

And you are an idiot
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Hoppinggreen · 14/01/2022 21:21

@84wood

I just want to let you know what happened to me. I didn’t want to go in because of covid. I accept hospitals grey policy - some allowed in and others not. Then my lovely mum died. I’ll. never get over it
I am genuinely sorry about your Mum However this post is a year old when we were not allowed to visit at all
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Hoppinggreen · 14/01/2022 21:24

@MichelleScarn

Oh ffs!! *@mnhq* can we please have a zombie alert at the top of the thread, some of these posts are really getting shitty and sticking the boot in!
It’s ok Michelle I took onboard what people said A YEAR AGO and I did make sure my Mum got what she needed. My Mum is fine now and I find the whole resurrection amusing, people are just making themselves look pretty stupid and showing how they just want to be Dicks without bothering to read the thread properly.
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84wood · 14/01/2022 21:28

Just so you know it happened July 21 I followed the rules. Am utterly devastated

MichelleScarn · 14/01/2022 21:30

@ResidentEden rriiiggght because a parent not clothing or feeding their dependent child which is a basic need is exactly the same as the op not bringing the dm stuff that is a want. There were others who could have helped the dm her own dh who could also have sent stuff in a taxi. Ward staff can provide disposable/mesh underwear in times of absolute need, not great but something. The dm was being fed on the ward, just not her favourites. Not at all the same. But 👍 to you and your pious I wish I could...show care and compassion

Hoppinggreen · 14/01/2022 21:30

Again, I am sorry about your Mum but I doubt being on this thread is going to be helpful for you.

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Redglitter · 14/01/2022 21:40

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Hoppinggreen · 14/01/2022 21:43

Fully vaxed I promise!! Me , DH and both DC.
Had to postpone my booster due to having Covid but I’m having it next week
So I may be an evil daughter etc etc etc but at least I’m fully vaxed

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