Who should get this money

[TheresNothingIWantMore]

OK, I'm going to try to write this as even handedly as I can - light hearted as we've come to an agreement but want to see what others think.

I'm one of a couple with 2 children who are signed to a model agency. When they were signed up we agreed all money earned by the children would be theirs and set up a separate account.

One of the boys recently had 2 days of filming, and on top of their pay there is £150 chaperone payment as the child has to be accompanied at all times. Usually they hire someone for this but due to covid they're minimising people so pay the parents instead.

Parent A thinks they should have the money as they were the chaperone, parent B thinks it should go to the children as its part of the pay for the job.

Some details to avoid drip feeding, sorry if it makes it a long post!

Parent A would have been going anyway, didn't expect payment and had a good time. They had to use a days holiday (usually holiday days are precious but maybe not so much this year with covid) Travel and food were covered so they weren't out of pocket. They have no specific plan for the money if they have it. Apart from this money we have no savings for the childrens future.

I'd say our financial situation is OK, we don't struggle to pay the bills each month but there's not lots left after that so apart from a takeaway and a few drinks on a Friday there aren't many treats. Parents rarely spend money on themselves.

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Of course the chaperone parent should have it. No contest.

Can’t you both share it!

Same logic as the children keeping the money they earned, Parent A was paid for being a chaperone so should receive the money. Isn’t it a lovely thing for parents to sometimes have money to spend on themselves?

I don’t think there is a right or wrong answer, but if the chaperoning parent wants to keep the money they should do, since they earned it.

I'd put the money aside and use it for a nice night out for you all when lockdown is over - win win for all

Compensation for parent A taking leave. Your DH is being a dick

Parent A is right, the chaperone pay should go to the chaperone.

It’s the chaperones money

Chaperone parent.

I think the chaperone parent should be entitled to keep it really. But if I was the chaperone parent I would probably spend it on something nice for both me and DH.

The chaperone should get the chaperone pay. If it was me I would probably treat us to a nice takeaway and then something nice for myself.

Chaperone keeps the money

I think that either the chaperone parent should get it or the family should spend it on something they can all enjoy.

I definitely don't think the child should get it in their bank account.

The parent should definitely get it. It never belonged to the child and the child would never have been entitled to it.

Yes. Chaperone should keep the money.

The chaperone keeps the money. Not sure why it’s even up for debate.

Unless the chaperone wants anything specific, I’d use it for a family treat.

It should be treated the same as the parent’s other earnings. In my house, I’d keep it. In my parents’ house it would go in the joint account.

Children do a job - they get paid.
Chaperone does a job - he/she gets paid.

Simple!

It’s payment for being a chaperone, so the money belongs to parent A.

Sad that two parents are bickering over £150 - why not use it for a shared treat for both parents or the family? Does the parent who wants to to keep the £150 just want to spend it on themselves?

Chaperone parent should keep it to spend how they wish - be it themselves, children or with other parent!

The chaperone or use it for a day out for the whole family once things open up a bit.

The parent obviously

@Martinisarebetterdirty

The parent should definitely get it. It never belonged to the child and the child would never have been entitled to it.

This is a very Good point. In normal times it wouldn't have even been a discussion the private Chaperone would have been paid. Parent A was the Chaperone.