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Who should get this money

145 replies

TheresNothingIWantMore · 11/02/2021 20:52

OK, I'm going to try to write this as even handedly as I can - light hearted as we've come to an agreement but want to see what others think.

I'm one of a couple with 2 children who are signed to a model agency. When they were signed up we agreed all money earned by the children would be theirs and set up a separate account.

One of the boys recently had 2 days of filming, and on top of their pay there is £150 chaperone payment as the child has to be accompanied at all times. Usually they hire someone for this but due to covid they're minimising people so pay the parents instead.

Parent A thinks they should have the money as they were the chaperone, parent B thinks it should go to the children as its part of the pay for the job.

Some details to avoid drip feeding, sorry if it makes it a long post!

Parent A would have been going anyway, didn't expect payment and had a good time. They had to use a days holiday (usually holiday days are precious but maybe not so much this year with covid) Travel and food were covered so they weren't out of pocket. They have no specific plan for the money if they have it. Apart from this money we have no savings for the childrens future.

I'd say our financial situation is OK, we don't struggle to pay the bills each month but there's not lots left after that so apart from a takeaway and a few drinks on a Friday there aren't many treats. Parents rarely spend money on themselves.

Both parent have read and approved this post! Grin

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1Dandelion1 · 11/02/2021 23:12

Worth remembering the the person who gets it should be declaring it as income.

BornOnTwelthNight · 11/02/2021 23:15

Should be split equally between Both of you as you both played a part in facilitating the shoot.
Shouldn’t go to the child as in normal circumstances the £150 would have gone to the chaperone so isn’t the child’s ‘earnings’, this is an added extra.

katy1213 · 11/02/2021 23:17

Parent A - if they hadn't done it, the professional chaperone would have got it.

katy1213 · 11/02/2021 23:25

But each child should have their own account. If one works more, they should have more in their nest-egg, that's only fair.

RootyT00t · 11/02/2021 23:25

Chaperone. It's a bit ridiculous to say it's part of the payment for the child because it isn't, if the chaperone wasnt the parent it would go to the chaperone and not the child....

Put it away somewhere.

Justsocross · 11/02/2021 23:38

Spend some on a nice takeaway treat / m and s meal deal . Put the rest in the children’s account

daisyphase · 11/02/2021 23:45

I say it goes in the child’s bank account so that parent A doesn’t have to deduct tax, then child withdraws it and it goes into the family pot for all to enjoy.

Bythemillpond · 11/02/2021 23:52

Parent A is right in that it shouldn’t go to the child but then with the update the £150 should be split equally between the parents and maybe go towards buying something nice for the family.

MessAllOver · 12/02/2021 03:16

Parents A and B should either split it or spend it on something nice for the two of them.

It's definitely not the children's money!

wombat1a · 12/02/2021 03:20

If A when and facilitated it but B did all the organization then split it equally as a 'bonus'.

NoSquirrels · 12/02/2021 03:40

Parent A thinks they should have the money as they were the chaperone, parent B thinks it should go to the children as its part of the pay for the job.

Parent B is wrong - it’s not part of the child’s pay for the job. It’s payment to another party for a different job. Parent A would have been there anyway and had a nice day out, so I’m not sure they should keep it all if they didn’t do the whole admin job that preceded it.

It’s basically just an unexpected bonus, a windfall. We’d spend it on something for everyone, or put half in savings and half to parents to blow on whatever.

Figgyboa · 12/02/2021 04:24

Chaperone gets the money

Cantbelieveit101 · 12/02/2021 05:38

The child gets the money.
I take my child to umpire a sport, I stay cause its only two hours... no way would I think of taking that money.

RichPetunia · 12/02/2021 05:40

Chaperone should have it, so parent A wins the day.

AStudyinPink · 12/02/2021 06:37

In my house this would be joint money - in the joint account, probably spent on the kids anyway.

MagentaGiraffe · 12/02/2021 06:45

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Createsuser · 12/02/2021 07:01

Give it to the parent- they did the work and the child was paid as well.

Beautiful3 · 12/02/2021 09:23

If you and your partner are a and b, then you should share it and get something like a takeaway.

NativityDreaming · 12/02/2021 09:44

I think you left off basic information from the initial post. I think parent B deserves the money as much as parent A. Parent B should step up more for the admin type stuff and not just take on the fun parenting role.

EachBleachBlairTrump · 12/02/2021 10:23

As treats are few and far between I would've used it for something nice for both parents, v it was an unexpected bonus, the chaperone parent was there but would've been anyway, however did lose a day of leave, however the other parent was at home looking after the other child. Spend it on something for you both even if that's a night out post lockdown

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