Do people like this actually exist?

[Stingebag100]

Backstory (have posted this before) - next door neighbour moved in few months ago. As soon as she came she made friends with few households on our cul-de-sac. Thought ok, just being friendly which is nice. Noticed she was asking more and more favours from men on street (and my husband). Help me paint this, can you come and pour some concrete, can you help me put some plaster on walls etc. Fine, she just needs some help and can’t afford to pay someone yet. Fast forward to present time, she is a CF on all levels! She had been coming around our house regularly (in our bubble) just to socialise a bit and see actual people as she is on her own furloughed. One night she came and our male friend was here and they hit it off, he is really into her and they have been meeting regularly. He has noticed that every time she messages him (which is every single day) it’s because she wants something. She wants a lift here or needs to pick up something here (sometimes up to an hour drive). Every time they go out he buys lunch (she will always make an excuse to not pay) and has now ended his friendship with her as he has realised she is a user. Since then she’s been messaging me asking if I can drive her here or drive her there ETC. I am at home with two children under 3 and definitely not going anywhere. She even asked me today, in this snow!
Am I right in thinking this is my life now? I think I need to construct a message or sentence to say to her to get her to leave me alone! CFCFCF!!

I am reminded of jill from nighty night.
Be strong. Say no.

@HoppingPavlova

I don’t think this is uncommon sadly. I once had a neighbour move in, house was very run down. They quickly got a boyfriend who just so happened to be a builder. He did a lot of work, took several months and when it was done she gave him the boot. She immediately acquired another boyfriend - luckily a plumber! He did a lot of work and then she moved him on. Enter the electrician who was kept on for a few months. The grand finale was a painter. We felt so sorry for the guys, only had brief over the fence neighbourly encounters but they all seemed to be nice, decent blokes.

I think this woman ^^ sounds like a genius

All I take with this post is if people keep taking the piss with bubbles and using them how they see fit , it will actually seriously affect people who need them and ongoing if lock down doesn’t start to ease. You actually had the most perfect thing too say with how the current world is going through a pandemic and should have said that to her

There's so many things about this that are odd but the weirdest part is that you've formed a bubble with somebody that you clearly don't like very much

Right now is the perfect time to keep your distance from people you don't particularly like but you've done the opposite lol

Also, you're only allowed one bubble. Not multiple ones or you'd just have people with twenty different bubbles seeing everybody as normal

@Bythemillpond

I am always amazed on these threads that the men folk are all really good at diy.

I could send my husband round to help her out. She would have to move after because he would probably make her house uninhabitable.
He was once asked by a female neighbour to help shut her garage door. He broke it. She never asked him for anything again😀
Garage door never worked again

SAME! My husband and my dad will both fuck my house up beyond repair if I accidentally disclose what I'm planning to do. I would need to protect my neighbours from their 'help'. I mean, any of us could hold a ladder or something, but why are people trusting random 'helpers' to solve actual problems just because they are the nearest penis in proximity? Madness.

Op’s bubble

OP - Are you one of those people who has a constantly changing "bubble" depending on who is over at your house on any given day? Having whats seems like a series of Venn diagrams instead of one bubble seems pretty CF to me so I'm finding it difficult to get excited about your CF neighbour.

@Bythemillpond

I am always amazed on these threads that the men folk are all really good at diy.

I could send my husband round to help her out. She would have to move after because he would probably make her house uninhabitable.
He was once asked by a female neighbour to help shut her garage door. He broke it. She never asked him for anything again😀
Garage door never worked again

Exactly!

@IloveFebruary

So you get childcare from your mother. You get to ‘bubble’ with your neighbour and you have friends round who you casually declare are vulnerable (but ok to take girls out on dates, drive them for hours and do odd jobs as well as go to their mates houses socialising)?

I’m out.

You forgot the going out to lunch.

No 1. Obviously people
Like that exists, you’ve got one coming round to your house.

And no 2, you’re the CF here ignoring the rules and pretending you’re not by having more bubbles than a fucking fairy liquid factory.

I am always amazed on these threads that the men folk are all really good at diy.

{grin]

This is obviously a fake post not because OP is on a wind up with all of her different bubbles and people going out for lunch when everywhere is closed but because of the men who are amazing at DIY and neighbourhoods where people seem to get their homes done up for free! I would need some proof of them doing up my home for free to believe it!

[quote Stingebag100]@whatswithtodaytoday she does only see us as she is on her own next door, I never see her leave her house unless it’s to come here. We also don’t meet with anyone apart from essential working, her and my mum as she does childcare for us. Our male friend comes to us as he is vulnerable on his own and also doesn’t meet anyone else. I realise we have broken the rules[/quote]
So bubble with him?

I don't understand why this is a problem if the simple answer is just to obey the rules?

@Aposterhasnoname

No 1. Obviously people Like that exists, you’ve got one coming round to your house.

And no 2, you’re the CF here ignoring the rules and pretending you’re not by having more bubbles than a fucking fairy liquid factory.

This .... I had my DSis in my support bubble as she is on her own and vulnerable, then realised all the people she saw outside of our bubble during a conversation one day, now the bubble has now been popped since Christmas. As my DP is ecv, I’m not taking any chances.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 fairy liquid factory! Yes then! Another vote here for a whole cul de sac of CFs where OP lives, I can’t believe others neighbours are not getting pissed off with her borrowing their blokes when the need arises, mind you if she is a young, gorgeous type, they are probably over there with their tongues hanging out and she is playing them all better than a second hand fiddle!

“I’m forever blowing bubbles, toxic bubbles everywhere...” Fuck off, no one is this thick.

No, I don't think she does exist actually.

@Pumpkinpied

“I’m forever blowing bubbles, toxic bubbles everywhere...” Fuck off, no one is this thick.

Don’t make that mistake, assumption is the mother of all fuck-ups, I have met people who actually are that thick! Although I’m of the opinion like you and others that this could very well be some sort of weird post by a very bored person (you’d have to be very bored, wouldn’t you). Which then puzzles me that someone would go to all that effort.....odd. I just don’t get it!

How many bubbles are you in op?

You mean users/cheeky fuckers?!

Of course there are! Loads of them! Defo NOT just on mn!

I'm bloody related to about 20 of em! You have to be blunt I'm afraid otherwise they keep trying it on.

"No I'm not going out today. Stop asking for lifts there's a perfectly good bus/train service"

"No I won't do x/y/z for you hire someone if you can't do it yourself"

I'm fully expecting some pps to say this is rude but trust me it's the only way to get through to these types and not be one of their reliable targets!

Before any smart arse comments I am perfectly happy and willing when I'm able to help people out in various ways as long as it's genuinely appreciated and I know those concerned would reciprocate if needed but I'm nobody's mug!
Not any more

People like this flourish because others are too weak to tell them where to shove it!

Totally agree! Her scattergun approach to ask various neighbours for favours is at least in part to gauge response - so she knows who she can zone in on for her cheeky fuckery!

Don't make any excuses like I am too busy right now because she won't take the hint this is exactly it! People like this have the hide of bloody rhinos!

You were given loads of good advice on your last thread about this woman. You didn't take it.

Atleast if you're bored and making up a thread then make it sound real.
Out for lunches? Where is open for lunching out ATM?

@Graphista

You mean users/cheeky fuckers?!

Of course there are! Loads of them! Defo NOT just on mn!

I'm bloody related to about 20 of em! You have to be blunt I'm afraid otherwise they keep trying it on.

"No I'm not going out today. Stop asking for lifts there's a perfectly good bus/train service"

"No I won't do x/y/z for you hire someone if you can't do it yourself"

I'm fully expecting some pps to say this is rude but trust me it's the only way to get through to these types and not be one of their reliable targets!

Before any smart arse comments I am perfectly happy and willing when I'm able to help people out in various ways as long as it's genuinely appreciated and I know those concerned would reciprocate if needed but I'm nobody's mug!
Not any more

People like this flourish because others are too weak to tell them where to shove it!

Totally agree! Her scattergun approach to ask various neighbours for favours is at least in part to gauge response - so she knows who she can zone in on for her cheeky fuckery!

Don't make any excuses like I am too busy right now because she won't take the hint this is exactly it! People like this have the hide of bloody rhinos!

No, I agree with you 100%, in fact it’s what I do, I stopped doing crap for people years ago when the piss just gets taken out of you time and time again.

My DSis cringes if I have the opportunity to do it in front of her, she said hearing it makes her want to crawl up her own asshole!

This is like a thread from a different time.

Having your mates round and pretending it’s a bubble
The pair of them going on dates and out for lunch.
Driving here there and everywhere.

It’s like CF bingo 😂

This person only exists in Op's imagination I fear

@Serin

You were given loads of good advice on your last thread about this woman. You didn't take it.

Do you have a link - couldn’t’ find another thread by the OP in the last year

I stopped doing crap for people years ago when the piss just gets taken out of you time and time again.

Same

Worst was a close relative I'm now nc with and this is one of the reasons. Eg asked to babysit a thu night and they'd not collect the kids until the Sunday! And would be uncontactable.

You can only be pushed so far!