It's a Parking One

[ILoveFlumps]

Ok mumsnetters I need some ideas.
I popped out for 10 minutes this morning and come home to a random car on my driveway (outside my house). This is private property and allocated parking for a New Build. The Main Street it's off is permit parking only - this car has a permit.
The only place I can park is blocking it in causing a semi obstruction which I've done.
Police won't help as a civil matter.
Note has been left on the car by me telling them it's private property.
What else can I do?! Immediate neighbours have no idea whose car this is.

I’m not buying the conversation at all. I’m sure it’s the way OP would have liked it to go and don’t doubt she wishes she’d had that conversation. I suspect the reality is a bit different.

Remember that most carers are women. It is a feminised occupation.

Is that true - even for in-home carers for the elderly and disabled (obviously it is for children and in care homes)? Genuine question. Don't guidelines/rules stipulate that intimate care has to be provided by a client of the same sex? Or is it that male clients have to have a female carer, as there aren't enough men attracted to/willing to do the profession?

Then again, women tend to live longer, so there are disproportionately more elderly women than elderly men - and a lot of the men who need care will have wives still alive to do it for them, whereas they will have died by the time their wives need care themselves.

Just wondering out loud.

We have a carer visit once a week .
They know which is our house. And our drive and our car. With big hedges between us and neighbours.
Every week; without fail, they leave my drive free. And block my neighbours in.
Every week, I politely ask them to move their car. Point out it's fine to block me in .they are visiting me. I am not going out while they are here...

He blocked OPs drive, he knew he was in the wrong and apologised, he took the comments and then was given space so he left.

OP has done nothing wrong.

@VinylDetective

I’m not buying the conversation at all. I’m sure it’s the way OP would have liked it to go and don’t doubt she wishes she’d had that conversation. I suspect the reality is a bit different.

I was impressed that we got to read the entire conversation word for cringey word!

I hope it wasn't real.

If the roles were reversed and OP was the female carer , this thread would be shouting abuse and misogyny on page 1.

If the carer was not a 'young' male and say, a lady in her sixties I think the conversation would have been very different too.

Don't guidelines/rules stipulate that intimate care has to be provided by a client of the same sex?

No @WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll. Quite a few of my clients are male. We don't have any men working for our company at the moment.

If the roles were reversed and OP was the female carer , this thread would be shouting abuse and misogyny on page

Well they weren't reversed were they. Totally different power dynamic. Do not relevent.

@Hettya

If the roles were reversed and OP was the female carer , this thread would be shouting abuse and misogyny on page

Well they weren't reversed were they. Totally different power dynamic. Do not relevent.

Completely relevant.

I don't agree. But we're all entitled to our own opinion :-)

@Hettya

I don't agree. But we're all entitled to our own opinion :-)

Power dynamic.

This gets churned out on each thread which effectively means women are never ever wrong.

This gets churned out on each thread which effectively means women are never ever wrong

Nope. It doesn't mean that at all. But in this case, the op isn't wrong. Hth.

@Hettya

This gets churned out on each thread which effectively means women are never ever wrong

Nope. It doesn't mean that at all. But in this case, the op isn't wrong. Hth.

But it does though. We see it time and time again.

Woman smashed Xbox the other week and was praised to the hilt. Woman slapped partner or called him a cunt or whatever. Praised to the hilt . Any suggestion that this would be wrong if it was a man is met with 'but men are stronger than womrn/he should have made life easier for her' we see it daily. Women must be kind and smile etc etc. If the guy at the house would have been a man OP would have been a poor keyworker with this awful man showing his power.

No, it doesn't mean women are never ever wrong. You've given a few examples where sometimes some women may have been wrong. So what. Sometimes they're wrong, sometimes men are wrong. In this case I don't agree that the op is wrong. You do. Who cares. I'm not going to spend time arguing over it with you for goodness sake.

@Hettya

No, it doesn't mean women are never ever wrong. You've given a few examples where sometimes some women may have been wrong. So what. Sometimes they're wrong, sometimes men are wrong. In this case I don't agree that the op is wrong. You do. Who cares. I'm not going to spend time arguing over it with you for goodness sake.

It's not even that I think she's wrong.

It's the use of power dynamic that bothers me, because a man simply cannot win that one.

Oh behave. Men win that one all the time.

Errr, I saw the "woman smashed Xbox" thread - she was absolutely NOT "praised to the hilt", she was told it was unacceptable behaviour and completely OTT, despite the provocation.

Pmsl at men being unable to win at power dynamics 😂

@ThumbWitchesAbroad

Errr, I saw the "woman smashed Xbox" thread - she was absolutely NOT "praised to the hilt", she was told it was unacceptable behaviour and completely OTT, despite the provocation.

Mmm, I'd argue it was 5050, whereas if a man did it there would have been none. I assume you saw the many posts then saying it was the DHs fault for not being more supportive and helpful? Would anyone say that to a woman if DH did it ? Eh no.

@IndecentFeminist yes very clever in the outer but world they can't, in that regard. They are always in the wrong. on MN

Situations like this make me so grateful I live in Australia. To me, this is absolutely ludicrous. If someone parks in your driveway here, you are entitled to call a tow truck company and have it towed away to an impound lot. The owner of the car is then legally liable for the cost of the towing and impound fees. Because everyone knows this, it doesn't bloody happen. (Unless accidentally - because you haven't maintained plants around your driveway, and then it can be legally challenged, or a stolen car is dumped there, and then, same thing, but it's not YOUR problem. It's towed away quickly and you can go about your business.)