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ILoveFlumps · 2021-02-10T08:00:23+00:00

Ok mumsnetters I need some ideas. I popped out for 10 minutes this morning and come home to a random car on my driveway (outside my house). This is private property and allocated parking for a New Build. The Main Street it's off is permit parking only - this car has a permit. The only place I can park is blocking it in causing a semi obstruction which I've done. Police won't help as a civil matter. Note has been left on the car by me telling them it's private property. What else can I do?! Immediate neighbours have no idea whose car this is. [angry]

diddl · 11/02/2021 08:37

"As a PP pointed out his employers need to allow the time for that."

Perhaps they do?

Him "being in a rush" doesn't mean that it's the employers fault does it?

Should they also only send him to addresses with parking?

Hettya · 11/02/2021 08:38

What she said was true for the carers my Mum had when living at home - they were always on a tight schedule as described

It doesn't mean the neighbours have to provide parking to accommodate that. It does mean the employers need to provide enough time between visits to allow their workers to get from one to the other and park though.

diddl · 11/02/2021 08:38

@Goldieloxx

It's not illegal to park on someone else's drive its just incredibly stupid

Isn't it?

Wow!

CuriousaboutSamphire · 11/02/2021 08:38

There is absolutely bugger all you can do if some cheeker fucker parks on your drive. Nothing that is not ridiculously expensive and pointless.

So a bit of humiliation is probably the only thing that might work... on a driveway by driveway basis.

www.autobulbsdirect.co.uk/blog/debate-parking-on-other-peoples-driveways/

www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/greater-manchester-news/what-can-you-someone-parks-12894725

YetAnotherSpartacus · 11/02/2021 08:40

It doesn't mean the neighbours have to provide parking to accommodate that. It does mean the employers need to provide enough time between visits to allow their workers to get from one to the other and park though

Yes, and this was Thumbwitches' point.

Hettya · 11/02/2021 08:43

Ermmm, okay. We both posted something similar then. Hurrah. We agree...

Sparklingbrook · 11/02/2021 08:43

@diddl

"As a PP pointed out his employers need to allow the time for that."

Perhaps they do?

Him "being in a rush" doesn't mean that it's the employers fault does it?

Should they also only send him to addresses with parking?

No but they need to be aware that parking is difficult/impossible at the address he attended yesterday. Hopefully he can feed that back to them. But I would imagine this is a problem for lots of carers/HCPs attending their clients/patients.

Hoppinggreen · 11/02/2021 08:49

Hellotheremeharties you have no idea what my Mums Medical issues are and I won’t be sharing them on here.

Rhiannon13 · 11/02/2021 09:19

Can see his badge and uniform - he’s a carer

I'm sure he's learnt his lesson then. We only get paid when we're in client's houses, so he would have lost a few quid over this.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 11/02/2021 09:23

@Rhiannon13

Can see his badge and uniform - he’s a carer

I'm sure he's learnt his lesson then. We only get paid when we're in client's houses, so he would have lost a few quid over this.

Entirely his own fault if he did!

Or do you too park on empty driveways because... careworker?

Rhiannon13 · 11/02/2021 09:26

Him "being in a rush" doesn't mean that it's the employers fault does it?

Yes it does. We're routinely given five minutes between logging out at one house and logging in at the next, with the drive between taking ten minutes if the traffic isn't too bad (never mind time on top of that to say goodbye to clients, lock doors, make your way back to the car avoiding chatty neighbour etc.). No amount of discussion with my employers will change this (I've tried).

It can be a nightmare finding parking when you start with a new client and employers couldn't care less because you're not being paid at this point.

Rhiannon13 · 11/02/2021 09:29

*Entirely his own fault if he did!

Or do you too park on empty driveways because... careworker?*

Where in my post did I say that. Of course he wasn't right to park there. I was pointing out that his error probably made him think twice about doing it again. Who would willingly lose wages when they're already so low?

CuriousaboutSamphire · 11/02/2021 09:45

Apologies @Rhiannon13

I read into your post the ire at OP that so many others have expressed.

Reading it back I can see that isn't what you typed!

YetAnotherSpartacus · 11/02/2021 09:52

Yes it does. We're routinely given five minutes between logging out at one house and logging in at the next, with the drive between taking ten minutes if the traffic isn't too bad (never mind time on top of that to say goodbye to clients, lock doors, make your way back to the car avoiding chatty neighbour etc.). No amount of discussion with my employers will change this (I've tried)

Rhiannon .

Remember that most carers are women. It is a feminised occupation. Many women in the role are older, of (recent) migrant background and/or have few other options. I heard the phrases "I can fit this around my kids" (from single mothers) and/or "I'm hoping to study next year when I've saved up" a lot from the women who cared for my mother.

Earlier posts invoking us to 'be nice' should bear this in mind.

Rhiannon13 · 11/02/2021 10:28

That's ok @CuriousaboutSamphire

Thank you @YetAnotherSpartacus. Most of our carers fall into the categories you've described, which is sad. How different the world would be if caring was a valued profession.

YetAnotherSpartacus · 11/02/2021 10:34

Yes - I totally agree Rhiannon.

2beesornot2beesthatisthehoney · 11/02/2021 10:42

@ILoveFlumps
I haven’t read al the posts ,just yours but can see you have been given a hard timd by others just because he was a carer. For what it’s worth I think you had the perfect response and far better than say lying or going out for a long long time.I hope it had the right effect
👏👏👏👏for you and too for the unkind comments!

Sparklingbrook · 11/02/2021 13:32

Lol at the OP getting a hard time. Never seen so much cheering and Pom Pom waving. 😂

diddl · 11/02/2021 14:35

@Rhiannon13

Him "being in a rush" doesn't mean that it's the employers fault does it?

Yes it does. We're routinely given five minutes between logging out at one house and logging in at the next, with the drive between taking ten minutes if the traffic isn't too bad (never mind time on top of that to say goodbye to clients, lock doors, make your way back to the car avoiding chatty neighbour etc.). No amount of discussion with my employers will change this (I've tried).

It can be a nightmare finding parking when you start with a new client and employers couldn't care less because you're not being paid at this point.

Well we don't know the details in this case.

It could have been his first call of the morning & he didn't leave himself enough time to get there, let alone park.

Obviously 5mins allowance between jobs is ridiculous whenit is necessary to travel from one to another.

No wonder when my Dad had carers they were always leaving before time!

Frazzledbutcalm · 11/02/2021 15:38

But they shouldn’t have left before time diddl ... the client pays for the carer to be at the house for the full time. If bosses aren’t giving carers enough time to get between jobs then that’s for carers/unions to sort that out with bosses. Not for carers to leave early and deny the client their care. It happened to us and it’s not acceptable.

I get that carers are pushed etc, but that doesn’t excuse what this man did. Nothing excuses what he did. A private drive fgs.

I’m loving all the folk who appear to be happy to come home to find some random car parked on their drive 🙄 .. bet they’d all change their minds if it actually happened to them.

diddl · 11/02/2021 15:51

"But they shouldn’t have left before time diddl ... the client pays for the carer to be at the house for the full time."

No I know-in this case it was 6wks free (to us) & my Dad was happy to let them go as they had always done whatever they were supposed to.

It shows how shit the system is, doesn't it.

He is now in a care home as has dementia-fully funded by him as he doesn't meet the criteria for continuing health care.

Dementia obviously not being a health issue!

RunningFromInsanity · 11/02/2021 15:56

Thanks for the thread OP I was unaware that as carer I am allowed to get away with shitty behaviour. Good to know

You handled it perfectly. You didn’t shout, you made him realise what he did was wrong and he won’t be doing it again.

So what if he was a bit embarrassed, he’s a grown ass man!

Sparklingbrook · 11/02/2021 16:53

Nobody has said ‘carers can get away with shitty behaviour’ though. I absolutely think he should have been told not to do it again but not in the way he was. 🤷‍♀️

ZoeTurtle · 11/02/2021 16:56

Nobody has said ‘carers can get away with shitty behaviour’ though
Yes they have

Needsmustnow · 11/02/2021 17:02

Nobody has said ‘carers can get away with shitty behaviour’ though. I absolutely think he should have been told not to do it again but not in the way he was.

This.