Do you cook all adult DC's meals?

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If they live at home, obviously.

DD is 24 and I cook all her meals - she likes different food to the stuff DH and I eat and we eat dinner later than she does so I usually cook her meal separately in the evening. She doesn't cook herself but makes herself a sandwich for lunch sometimes.

She pays board so I always considered this to be fair enough, until I saw someone on here mention that they don't cook for their adult DC.

Do you cook for yours? Do they cook for you? fantasises about someone else making my dinner for a change

On MN your children should be doing all their own washing, ironing and cooking three course meals for the whole family by the time they're out of nappies.

Nope if they are eating different things that what I am doing for tea then they will sort themselves out. Tbh just before dd (22) moved out recently she either ate what what we did or bought herself something. She paid board too. No way would I be cooking different food for an adult

She should be preparing a meal and clearing up at least once a week.

My dd, 17, often cooks for herself if she doesnt fancy what I'm making. Nothing fancy, just tinned soup, or pasta with pesto, or jacket potatoes.

She always does her own lunch during the week cos I'm out at work and she is at home.

I cook one meal, if they want something different, they cook (and clean up) themselves.

I don't imagine I'd be cooking a separate meal; 1-2 more meals extra amount on the same menu (for 4 persons) we are already preparing is fine. Sometimes DS wants a take-away instead -- he lets us know.

Fine if you enjoy it. Fine not to if it's a chore.

Mine have cooked for themselves from about 14, if they don’t like what we’re having.

I cook them a portion of what we are having, but I wouldn't cook them a sepymeal. Same goes for anyone else in the house tbh.

Mine are 15 & 18 (yr 13) and I don't cook all their meals.
Sometimes I'm having a low cal day and I tell them to sort themselves out.
Sometimes I fancy something they don't, and vis versa.
Sometimes ds2 wants to cook (ds1 only volunteers if he is getting and I haven't started).

I am the main cook but I only cook once! Eat it or leave it unless I choose to eat something ds really doesn't like. He would then have pasta or something else from the freezer. He's only a young teen but I would expect an adult to eat what we were eating or cook for themselves

My 21 year old daughter is welcome to have dinner with us, but if she wants something different she will cook for herself. She also cooks for us about once a week if her schedule permits, and she always makes her own breakfast and lunch. At 24, your daughter really should be more self-sufficient. You always cooking a separate meal for a 24 year old is absurd. You're not her skivvy.

She's still living the all inclusive experience at 24?! Lucky her!!

Can she not cook? Has she ever lived away from home before? Has she never ever offered to cook for you all? Personally I find it very odd for a 24 year old to wait around for her mum to cook her dinner separately. And a little bit lazy/cheeky tbh, does she never offer?

Not me but I know someone who is still early twenties and when they visit/stay at their mother's, she cooks their meals. She likes to, so why not?

He does have his own place though so obviously, he normally sorts himself out.

I cook one meal for the family - I wouldn't cook separate meals for them.

Certain days are DIY Dinner Days as we all need to eat at separate times though. Occasionally the adult SmallDragons will cook the whole family meal or we will have a joint effort where we each do part of it.

It wouldn't make sense to cook separate meals as a rule.

During the last lockdown I was home with my 12yo a fair bit and she used to cook me lunch as I was in calls and she had usually finished her work by lunchtime...

Same as others above, I cook one meal and if they don't want it, they can make something else themselves.

I think visiting adult children is a different thing, of course I'd cook for visitors not expect them to do so.

My DS, 23, cooks his own food during the week. At weekends we all eat food that I’ve cooked or a takeaway together. Fortunately we’ve got similar tastes. I wouldn’t be cooking anything different for him.

Dd moved out when she was 17 because I made her but I cooked for us, she was expected to eat whatever the meal was.

I love cooking, I struggle to let them in "my" kitchen.
We have a 23 yr old and an 18yr old home for lockdown (20yr old still away at uni).
I cook the eve meal but it's just once and we all eat the same meal (or a variant of it as DH is vegetarian). If they want stuff after that they cook it themselves. They also do lunches for everyone.

My dc are 12 and take a share( a small share to be fair) of family cooking.
I wouldn't cook them a separate meal if they didn't like the main one.
They often fry an egg or make noodles for their lunch.
Can your dc cook?

Lunch and breakfast are DIY meals.

Yes.
My adult son is not able, my mother who lives with me is elderly but can't be arsed.
Fucke me off.

Nope we don't cook separate meals for DS17. If he doesn't want what we are having, he sorts himself out. But I do try to plan meals he does like 4-5 times a week, as his choices are usually nutritionally dubious.

I don't think I'll be feeling that sense of responsibility when he's 24 though.

If she wants separate food then she can cook it herself, are you running a hotel??

BraxtonChic nutritionally dubious oh that's so my ds1. Gave me a laugh.