AIBU to expect heating to be on?

[Glitterinthegrey]

Me & DD's are spending our days at my FIL house for the next couple of weeks while some work is being done on our house.

We're having meals here, but I brought all the food with us, and I'm doing him dinner every day too.

It's absolutely freezing in his house! Youngest DD is sitting under a duvet in the spare room, and oldest is wearing her gloves to do her homework. There is snow on the ground outside. I asked him (politely) if we could put the heating on - he says it'll come on automatically if it goes below 16.5 degrees!

AIBU to think this is too bloody cold? He just shrugged and said that we should wear more clothes!

Too cold to be in rooms ideally below 17/18 at the moment. We’re in a Victorian end terrace with no insulation, so we’ve got the heating on and off throughout the day, and all have extra layers on/extra thick sleeping bag for DS, all doors shut etc.

Offer him some money to cover costs then ask to have the heating on, even intermittently, throughout the day and in the morning/bedtime.

@veeeeh

Tightness is endemic AFAIS. Save money any way you can.

Be miserable, be cold, use blankets, we know this, but honestly why?

People are comfortable at different temperatures. We are not miserable, we are comfortable in our house and uncomfortable in warmer houses. I like a blanket on the sofa, even in summer if it is not too hot. I don't like having to remove and put on multiple layers to go in and out, just coat and boots.

If it were me, OP, I’d buy a couple of fan heaters and bung him the money for the extra electricity.

Christmasfairy2020

God mine is on 25!!

Really? Crikey, I think I’d pass out.

Everyone gets so hung up on saying “14 is fine” or “22 is too hot”. The temp will only ever be the temp in the specific spot where the thermostat is. Loads of things can impact it so when you see it says 14 the room you’re in may be different, same if it says 22.

Yes people like to be warmer or cooler, but don’t get all argumentative about the numbers on a thermostat.

@HelloMrBond

16.5’ is perfectly acceptable. Does your daughter wear gloves when it’s 16.5 degrees in spring / summer?

What a silly answer.

16.5 in the spring is a lot different to it being minus 2 outside and snow on the ground.

Noooooooo 16.5 is way way too cold. Mine is 20. Can you heat up one room? Now me and the kids are home we shut the door and have the radiator up high in our main room. Then radiators turned down elsewhere (bedrooms are on a different circuit anyway).
Ugh I couldn't back that honestly I get so down when it's cold.

Mine is set to 20 in the day and 17 at night but hasn't actually managed to reach 20 today. Our house is old and has fuck all insulation and no double glazing. I'm wearing three jumpers and two pairs of socks and drinking warm milk with gunpowder proof rum right now. And I have my oil filled radiator on.

@Glitterinthegrey
My mum used to have thermostat set to THIRTEEN degs C

Breath plumingly cold.

I refuse to be that cold now.
18 degs.
Offer money??

I'm getting a bit of a tight vibe here that I notice from many, even pre Covid.

Well, ok, be miserable and cold in layers under multiple blankets and layers.

It’s his house, so if he likes it that temperature I think it’s rude to keep asking to turn it up. Why don’t you and DDs order some thermal base layers to go under warm fleece/wool layers? Thick wool hiking socks, heavy loose fitting jumpers to trap body heat etc. Places like Next and M&S do next day delivery.

You nesh lot with 20😂

That is too hot.

Maybe it’s what you are used to as a kid?

On my zoom meetings work colleagues are always discussing if they have heating on. Mines on in the winter, don't get why it wouldn't be ! Today they all had heating on apparently ! I was
Set at 18 but thermostat in hall where it's quite cold. Depends on the house tho, we're in a small cottage so it's quite warm at 18. I wear a jumper and a fleece as well sometimes. My DF has a freezing house though and I always swore I'd not be that cold in my own.

Although I can't stand overheated houses either .

Good Lord, typical tightness.

Better put on twenty layers than pay the heat company and be comfortable along with your family.

@veeeeh

I'm getting a bit of a tight vibe here that I notice from many, even pre Covid.

Well, ok, be miserable and cold in layers under multiple blankets and layers.

Are you not reading people's posts? A thermostat set to a lower temperature than you are comfortable at doesn't mean that someone else is not comfortable at that temperature. If I was miserable and cold I would set the thermostat higher.

It’s bloody Bawtic out now.. that NE wind Is like a razor .

@covetingthepreciousthings

Good grief! The minimum working temperature in the UK is 16 degree

I didn't think there was a minimum working temperature..?
I think it's generally expected it should be 16 for staff to be comfortable but I don't think it's enforceable or enforced.

There's a legal and enforceable minimum workplace temperature which is 16 degrees for largely sedentary staff, e.g office workers and 13 degrees for non-sedentary staff, e.g warehouse workers. There is no maximum workplace temperature.

We'd have to send the children home if our school was that cold inside.

FFS.

Claim a room or two and buy a couple of electric space heaters. Tell him you're shutting the doors and using them so you can all function.

@Sweet666

What are you and your daughters wearing? If you're not wearing warm clothes and layers then I don't think you can complain. It's winter so can't expect to wear one layer... I am wearing leggings with trousers and fluffy socks, 2 tops and dressing gown when I want to be warm, when you are busy you warm up too, go for a fast walk and you will be warm when you get home

This just sucks the joy out of life. I can’t imagine wearing all those clothes rather than put the heating on. Different if you can’t afford it

I would imagine a thermostat at picture rail height is several degrees above the temperature at homework level.

My grandparents had an open fire. That was bloody warm

@HikeForward

It’s his house, so if he likes it that temperature I think it’s rude to keep asking to turn it up. Why don’t you and DDs order some thermal base layers to go under warm fleece/wool layers? Thick wool hiking socks, heavy loose fitting jumpers to trap body heat etc. Places like Next and M&S do next day delivery.

Possibly because they have no need for clothes like that, given that they keep their house warm.

I have a good cold threshold, but I will not be miserable for a few sheckels either. Crank it up for an hour or two or more. Comfort is great in Winter especially.

We are all different and have different comfort thresholds. But it should never be from tightness, bills will be spread out if in difficulty.