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Who has the master bedroom in your house ?

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Whattheactual20201 · 02/02/2021 13:01

We were just discussing this with a friend and she thought it was odd that we have the smallest room in the house.

My dc 14 and 7. Ds originally had main bedroom and DD middle bedroom.
This then switched 2 years ago as their needs changed.
I have always had the smaller bedroom. I have my double bed and no floor space etc but I find that I only really sleep in their so it’s never bothered me.
We are planning on moving soon and I think it will be a similar set up.

How do you work out who gets what room ?

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DeeThree · 02/02/2021 13:03

Parents, who own and pay the mortgage, get the biggest bedroom. Why wouldn't they?

Oldraver · 02/02/2021 13:04

We (I) have the main bedroom but the other rooms are a decent size for teen DS with a seperate bathroom for him

I can understand giving a bigger room as they get older if their rooms are small

LaceyBetty · 02/02/2021 13:04

Parents have the master. I actually don't know anyone who does it differently.

lazylump72 · 02/02/2021 13:05

my dd is 9 she has our master ...to be fair the other room isnt that much smaller but made sense to us as we only sleep in ours too and she has all her toys and her desk and dressing table! She needed the space more so it made sense.

NoImagination90210 · 02/02/2021 13:06

It works for you so who cares? Makes sense if your stuff is all over the house and they only have their bedrooms.

Iknowwhatudidlastsummer · 02/02/2021 13:06

I always thought it made more sense to put the children in the biggest bedrooms but apparently it's not a popular idea.

I only ever go in my bedroom to sleep, and put the laundry away. I really do not need the biggest bedroom.

My youngest have the biggest toys and biggest mess, they need more space.

My eldest like their privacy and spend more time in their own bedrooms.

I genuinely don't understand the people who believe that "biggest room to whoever pays bills/mortgage" when in practice it makes everybody's life more difficult.

It's even worst when children share bedrooms, it would make so much more sense to put 2 or 3 children in the same room, than keeping it for 1 adult who is never in it.

Angel2702 · 02/02/2021 13:07

My two boys have the master bedroom, we have the middle bedroom and my daughter has the small room.

Ohalrightthen · 02/02/2021 13:07

I'm the master of the house, so i get the master bedroom

corythatwas · 02/02/2021 13:07

Parents because there's two of us. In our house we run things to maximise family wellbeing, not as a reward for earning more money: otherwise, I'd be sleeping in the shed.

Iknowwhatudidlastsummer · 02/02/2021 13:07

@DeeThree

Parents, who own and pay the mortgage, get the biggest bedroom. Why wouldn't they?

what a weird way to think

Respectabitch · 02/02/2021 13:07

For me it's a no brainer that parents get the master, unless you're balancing it up with e.g. it doesn't have an en suite and another bedroom does or something. When I was growing up a teenage friend had the master and her parents were cramming themselves into a much smaller bedroom and I just found it really weird and self effacing of them. If you're a single parent then I guess it's less weird but if you're the one paying for the house then yes you should get the biggest/best bedroom.

Ohalrightthen · 02/02/2021 13:07

I let DH sleep there too...

FallenSkies · 02/02/2021 13:07

My 2 DC share the master as they have more stuff to fit in their room. DH and I share the smaller bedroom.

It works for us and means less toys etc in the living room.

IncyWincyGrownUp · 02/02/2021 13:08

I have the box room, eldest the middle room, and two boys the larger room. I don’t subscribe to the need to make my children suffer just because I’m an adult. They need the space, I just need a bed.

Sammiesnake · 02/02/2021 13:08

We have the middle bedroom. Big bedroom is for one of the DC plus a bit of a play room during the day for both of them. The other DC has the smallest room to sleep in. That way, they don’t keep each other up at night (they’re both toddlers) but they have a big room to play in with all their toys. Eventually they can share the biggest room together if they like and I may have the smallest room as a dressing room - I’m easy it depends what is best for the DC.

Swingometer · 02/02/2021 13:08

We (me & DH) have the biggest room which is significantly larger than the other bedrooms.

There are 2 of us and we have a superking bed which wouldn't fit in any of the smaller bedrooms

Our 2 DC each have their own small bedroom

Moltenpink · 02/02/2021 13:09

The cat

We have the master with en-suite set up as a guest room for when the in-laws stay, but obviously no visits at the moment so the cat has taken over. It’s not a convenient room for us as it was built as an extension away from the other rooms, and we like to be closer to the kids.

Brunt0n · 02/02/2021 13:09

My husband and I have the master, because it has the ensuite and my 2 year old is spoilt enough without having an ensuite 😉
Her bedroom isn’t much smaller than ours though, a good sized double.

tocketytickety · 02/02/2021 13:10

I know it's "normal" for parent(s) to have the master but we've never needed a big bedroom when all we do there is sleep/use the bed and don't spend much time there. So dc always had the biggest room for more running around space.

Now, the rooms are all the same size and spacious enough.

PivotPivotPivottt · 02/02/2021 13:10

My 3 year old has the biggest room, my 9 year old has the second biggest and I have the box room. When I moved in I took the big bedroom and my youngest was still in her cot in my room with me, she was supposed to getting the box room when the time came.

In the end I decided to take the box room because I figured eventually she will have friends over to play, needs somewhere to store all her toys etc. My 9 year old got the offer of swapping to the biggest room and 3 year old could have her room but she wanted to keep the room she was in 🤷🏻‍♀️.I have a king size bed as well so by room is literally just bed with a small set of drawers (that don't open because of the bed) with my TV on top . It doesn't bother me at all I go to my room at bed time to sleep it makes more sense for me children to have the bigger rooms.

Caspianberg · 02/02/2021 13:10

Our are fairly even sizes, ds is still a baby so sharing our atm. But the spare room will be his later in the year and that has the en-suite so the master I guess. Makes sense to me as dh and I use main bathroom so not to disturb each other if one is asleep, but ds will be in the room himself, so he can fill the small en-suite with toddler crap and keep ours lovely and clutter free

Before, it was guest room so made sense the en-suite used for guests

I would give them the larger room I think as long as mine had enough space for super king bed. They have more toys and play on the floor

Katiepoes · 02/02/2021 13:10

The biggest bedroom in our house is a combination study/guest bedroom, it's big enough to be comfortable as both and accommodate two home workers. Our room is smaller but has much nicer light, our daughter has the third, it's bigger than ours but she needs more space. We use our home the way we need to, assuming the 'master' bedroom goes to parents is not necessarily the default.

My parents did not have the biggest room either - two of my brothers shared so had the biggest. It's not that unusual.

Sexnotgender · 02/02/2021 13:11

We do. All rooms are a good size though.

Meruem · 02/02/2021 13:11

I use my bedroom a lot. It is the biggest room and I have a desk under the window as I wfh (did this pre covid). I have an armchair in another corner where I like to sit and read. I probably spend more time here than anywhere else! So I definitely need the biggest room. Although my DC are now adults and both have lived out of home, but at home currently.

I was thinking about use of rooms the other day, as have just made our spare room into a second lounge. I like having a choice of rooms to spend time in, especially during these times. I wonder if the people struggling with cabin fever spend most of their time in 1 room. As I think I would feel the same in that scenario.

AndcalloffChristmas · 02/02/2021 13:11

I do! I rarely put my needs first but I think parents need something for themselves! I do have all the junk that has no where else to go in there though.

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