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Who has the master bedroom in your house ?

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Whattheactual20201 · 02/02/2021 13:01

We were just discussing this with a friend and she thought it was odd that we have the smallest room in the house.

My dc 14 and 7. Ds originally had main bedroom and DD middle bedroom.
This then switched 2 years ago as their needs changed.
I have always had the smaller bedroom. I have my double bed and no floor space etc but I find that I only really sleep in their so it’s never bothered me.
We are planning on moving soon and I think it will be a similar set up.

How do you work out who gets what room ?

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PhantomErik · 02/02/2021 13:58

We're in the process of taking the wall down between the master bedroom & box room & rebuilding it to make the rooms a fairly even size. DS1 & DS2 will have one each. DD is in a double room on her own & DH & I have a bigger room downstairs that was our dining room. Still have a kitchen diner so it works fine for us.

In some ways I'd rather be upstairs with the DC but I can still hear them if they need us.

I'd happily take a smaller room to give dc more space, their bedroom is the one place in the house that's their own space & even more important at the moment.

Disfordarkchocolate · 02/02/2021 14:00

We don't have a 'master' bedroom bec2i hate the term.

My son has the largest one (not by much) because we prefer to have a room at the back of the house. It was also decorated for a teen boy. I've gone for quieter room in 2 other houses too.

Crappyfridays7 · 02/02/2021 14:05

We are in temp accommodation so my 3 youngest share biggest bedroom
I’m in a single and eldest is in the box room.

My 15 year old is mot impressed by this & sharing with 9/10 year olds who nip his head. We didn’t think we’d be here so long mind you - 3 years this month. Eldest been talking about moving out but is at college so not much chance of that & I’m not sure he really wants to. Just making the best of what we have.

Lexilooo · 02/02/2021 14:07

Parents because they have a double bed, and need to be able to get right round it plus two wardrobes etc. The kids only need space for a single, which could be against a wall, one wardrobe one person etc.

The answer might change if two kids have to share a room, if it is a single parent or if there are two or more decent sized double rooms.

MedusasBadHairDay · 02/02/2021 14:09

The kids have the master at the moment, it makes sense as they have to share the room, so gives them a little more floor space for both their toys. We only sleep in our room, so don't need the floor space.

Once we move and they get their own rooms though we're definitely getting the master bedroom.

Tumbleweed101 · 02/02/2021 14:09

Our biggest bedroom now has a dividing wall and my two eldest daughters currently have half each. My youngest has the tiny room and I have the middle room. At one point my eldest two had the room with dividing wall until my son moved out and my two youngest shared the middle room and I had the smallest.

When my eldest moves out I'm tempted to then take down the dividing wall and have the big bedroom back but will see when we get to that point. My youngest may want to move into one of the divided sections as they are slightly bigger than the smallest room.

BidensWingWoman · 02/02/2021 14:10

Nobody 😂

It's the spare room. I know that sounds odd, but it makes sense for me.

HazelWong · 02/02/2021 14:10

There are two of us - so two people's worth of clothing and other personal things - and a king size bed. So we need a larger bedroom than our children who currently have a cot/toddler bed each and will then go into single beds. They also don't have as much clothing and it takes up less space as it's smaller.

IncludeWomenInTheSequel · 02/02/2021 14:13

We have the smallest room as it's downstairs. I didn't want to leave one child sleeping downstairs by themselves.

BringPizza · 02/02/2021 14:14

We've got 2 bedrooms upstairs and one downstairs so we've played musical bedrooms over the years. It was mine and DH's room, then the DCs shared bedroom, then DS' room, now it's mine and DH's again and will remain so.

notalwaysalondoner · 02/02/2021 14:14

I never really thought about it before, just assumed parents would get master as they get the most enjoyment out of a nice bedroom plus work hard to pay the mortgage... although my parents moved from the master to the second bedroom as the master was too far from the kids bedrooms in the layout of our house. The master was the spare room for years until my little brother upgraded to it when he was about 15.

In our current house we plan to keep them in the 2 small bedrooms when they are very little then probably the bigger spare bedroom will become one of their bedrooms when we need more space. We'll definitely keep the master as it has an en suite and a walk in wardrobe and our house has very limited places to put wardrobes due to being built in the eaves of a cottage.

MotherWol · 02/02/2021 14:15

I'd rather have a smaller bedroom and DC have rooms big enough to keep their toys in their rooms/have space for playdates than sacrifice a reception room as a playroom or have toys scattered all over the house.

Annebronte · 02/02/2021 14:17

I guess it depends whether you also have a playroom. If children have a playroom, they don’t need bedroom toy storage.

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Whattheactual20201 · 02/02/2021 14:20

I don’t think it matters just curious after we were discussing new beds and the room situation came up.

DD has way more stuff as she also has medical machines etc in there so that made sense. Ds was previously in big room is now in middle but he has
A double bed / gaming desk / wardrobe / and floor space.
We have a double bed and wardrobe with no floor space but we don’t own that many clothes.

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Cornetttttto · 02/02/2021 14:20

Bedroom is a private sanctuary for us so yes, we get the largest one.

BorderlineHappy · 02/02/2021 14:24

My kids have the biggest room,always have.They have more stuff,plus it gives them somewhere decent to go if they need space.

hiredandsqueak · 02/02/2021 14:25

I have the second smallest bedroom. Both ds and dd have the biggest bedrooms and the smallest bedroom is a spare room. Ds and dd use their bedrooms far more than I do so made sense that they had the largest rooms.

SamLovesLembasBread · 02/02/2021 14:27

Obviously people should do what works for them, but it does seem slightly strange to me when the parent(s) give their children the largest room. It depends on how big the rooms are, I suppose, and whether or not a particular child has a legitimate need for more space than his or her parents.

RandomMess · 02/02/2021 14:27

In old house the DC as we had 3 house.

This house we've all moved around a bit. We have the bedrooms best suited to needs.

DD1 has moved out
DD2 the largest room (is really the lounge but it's a very weird layout house)
DD3 always had the quirky room but has acquired by stealth the guest room with en-suite/music/my exercise room/lounge as well but obviously it gets used by others too
DD4 had the room with en-suite, then other quirky room, now in DD2 old room

DH & I had the large room that DD2 now has but moved to a smaller room because it's much quieter, we used to use it as the guest room/music room/lounge

DH sleeps in the spare quirky room which is now also my office...

Don't think there will be anymore switching for a while unless DD1 moves back home.

mrstea301 · 02/02/2021 14:27

In my current house, DH and I have the smallest room, the master is used currently as our home office so has much more room to set up two desks etc. Previously it was our kind of hobby room, so sewing machine, gym equipment, spare tv with small couch etc. Also our dog tends to sleep in there at night. The smallest room is the most recently decorated as well.

When I stayed with my mum at first I had the master, then when I moved back after a few years, she had the master and I had the smaller room. It made more sense as my mum used the living room etc, whereas if I had my friends round we'd all be in my room - so that was really my only own space in the house.

My DH grew up in this house and he had the master for his bedroom, pretty much for the same reason!

LucilleTheVampireBat · 02/02/2021 14:28

My stepson has the master bedroom. He's 30, has a child of his own and lives 300 miles away but it is disgusting to expect him to stay on the sofa when he visits once a year, so obviously we have given him our room and we sleep in the shed on a blow-up mattress, as all decent loving parents should do. Why would you even bother having children/marrying a man with children if you aren't prepared to sacrifice for them?

cannaethink · 02/02/2021 14:29

My 2DC share the biggest room, I’ve got the smallest, and the middle sized one is a computer/bike/weights/laundry room. As others have said, all I do is sleep in my room so I have no need for the biggest. The kids have all their toys and stuff in their room so it’s not in the living room. Also, there’s a stripey carpet in the biggest room which I wasn’t in a position to replace when I bought the house, and I’m really not keen on stripey carpets, whereas the kids probably haven’t even noticed it!

GrumpyHoonMain · 02/02/2021 14:31

Parents ie us. We don’t let anyone (including us) chill in bedrooms - it’s antisocial and DN’s behaviour changes when she has too much time alone. She will chill and do homework with me in my office (or wherever I’m sitting! and on the rare occasions when I have meetings at the same time as her lessons she takes the video call in my room.

Every family has a different set up.

Bearnecessity · 02/02/2021 14:31

My ds has the master, he is 6'1 he has the bigger room probably for the same reasons as you Op .All his mates are big too, he has a larger bed and it was easier for him to have a mate or two or three in there. Makes sense....he lives in his room, I just sleep in mine.

Freyaismyname · 02/02/2021 14:31

I'm in the smallest room. It's cosy and the kids fit all their stuff in to the bigger rooms. I haven't got toys to store like they do

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