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Who has the master bedroom in your house ?

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Whattheactual20201 · 02/02/2021 13:01

We were just discussing this with a friend and she thought it was odd that we have the smallest room in the house.

My dc 14 and 7. Ds originally had main bedroom and DD middle bedroom.
This then switched 2 years ago as their needs changed.
I have always had the smaller bedroom. I have my double bed and no floor space etc but I find that I only really sleep in their so it’s never bothered me.
We are planning on moving soon and I think it will be a similar set up.

How do you work out who gets what room ?

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GrumpyHoonMain · 02/02/2021 14:32

@LucilleTheVampireBat

My stepson has the master bedroom. He's 30, has a child of his own and lives 300 miles away but it is disgusting to expect him to stay on the sofa when he visits once a year, so obviously we have given him our room and we sleep in the shed on a blow-up mattress, as all decent loving parents should do. Why would you even bother having children/marrying a man with children if you aren't prepared to sacrifice for them?
Grin
catlady3 · 02/02/2021 14:32

Our master bedroom with the ensuite is our home office. A decision many seem to find odd, but really paid off during the pandemic. Child is young and has small bedroom, but also owns the lounge for the time being. Will get a larger bedroom when they spend more time there.

Ileflottante · 02/02/2021 14:32

First come, first served. I bought the house, I get the big room. Kid came next, they get the second room, any future kids... well, you get the idea.

BlueTimes · 02/02/2021 14:32

DD2 has the biggest room. It’s not much bigger than our room but our room looks out over the fields and we much prefer the view.

RosesforMama · 02/02/2021 14:33

My DD has the biggest room, but we are at the back of the house (quieter) and next to the bathroom.

Happycat1212 · 02/02/2021 14:34

My dd who is 9 does, I didn’t actually like the lay out of the biggest room so I have the smaller one but it’s still a good size (not a box room)

Katela18 · 02/02/2021 14:35

My DP and I have the master, we have a superking bed and it wouldn't fit in the other rooms. DD has the middle bedroom which is actually pretty much the same but just doesn't work for our bed in terms of layout.

Growing up, my two younger brothers shared a room and had the master while my parents had the second. Think it just depends on individual needs.

MondeoFan · 02/02/2021 14:37

My 2 DD's share the master plus it's at the back of the house which I feel is safer as it's a bungalow. My bedroom is at the front of the house next to the front door

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Whattheactual20201 · 02/02/2021 14:41

Lucille is there any need to be like that is there. No one has actually been unkind to anyone about what they choose to do.
We also are obviously talking about young children so your sarcasm is irrelevant

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TrialOfStyle · 02/02/2021 14:44

The master and the second room are the same size (though my room has better light). DS is actually in the smallest box room right now with plans to move him into the second room when he goes to school. No need before as all his toy playing has been wherever I am.

cliffdiver · 02/02/2021 14:46

It's the playroom.

Bluntness100 · 02/02/2021 14:47

We have the master, there is two of us and one of our daughter in her own room,

Idontknowausername · 02/02/2021 14:47

We live in a 2 bedroom flat. Kids are 20 months & 3.5yrs. They share a room so obviously they have the biggest room. My mum did the same thing for me and my sister, we had the biggest room, mum had the medium size room and my brother had the box room. At one point my mum even turned the living room into her bedroom so that we all had our own space. In my opinion the kids should come first, and having their own space is part of putting them first. How is it fair that parents get to do whatever they want with the entire house (living room, biggest bedroom, dining room, etc) and then the kids get shoved in the smallest bedroom in the house? Regardless of the whole “we pay the rent/mortgage” well yes but you CHOSE to have children, they didn’t ask to be here did they? Why punish them just for existing because they’re too young to pay your fucking mortgage? You’ll have the whole damn house when they grow up. Can’t imagine resenting my kids as much as some mums on here do.

Floobydo · 02/02/2021 14:54

DH and I do. There’s 2 of us sharing, it has the en-suite and dc have plenty of space in their rooms anyway to fit all their stuff.

ToesAndFingersCrossed · 02/02/2021 15:06

Our bedroom is considered the Master because it has an en suite but the kids share the biggest bedroom. Although come to think about it they would probably benefit from being in our room as the en suite has the only bath and they're the only ones who use it, we use the shower across the hall.

HintOfVintagePink · 02/02/2021 15:11

We do now as the master is loft conversion on its own floor.

The DC have big double rooms each below. We would have considered them sharing had they both been a DS and putting them in the loft, just so we could have a spare bedroom.

Ileflottante · 02/02/2021 15:16

@Idontknowausername

We live in a 2 bedroom flat. Kids are 20 months & 3.5yrs. They share a room so obviously they have the biggest room. My mum did the same thing for me and my sister, we had the biggest room, mum had the medium size room and my brother had the box room. At one point my mum even turned the living room into her bedroom so that we all had our own space. In my opinion the kids should come first, and having their own space is part of putting them first. How is it fair that parents get to do whatever they want with the entire house (living room, biggest bedroom, dining room, etc) and then the kids get shoved in the smallest bedroom in the house? Regardless of the whole “we pay the rent/mortgage” well yes but you CHOSE to have children, they didn’t ask to be here did they? Why punish them just for existing because they’re too young to pay your fucking mortgage? You’ll have the whole damn house when they grow up. Can’t imagine resenting my kids as much as some mums on here do.
I don’t ‘resent’ my child. What a strange thing to say. I’m just not raising him to think he’s the centre of the universe.
NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 02/02/2021 15:26

Lucille Grin

JaninaDuszejko · 02/02/2021 15:31

We did give the DDs (who share) the option of the largest bedroom when we bought this house but they wanted the one with the bay window overlooking the garden so we have the biggest bedroom. Second biggest bedroom is the guest room/home office with ensuite. DS is the youngest and has the smallest room. But we have two sitting rooms of equal size, one of which is the playroom with all the kid's toys and art materials and books so DS doesn't spend a lot of time in his room.

CookieSue222 · 02/02/2021 15:35

DD had the main bedroom from being an older teenager (so many clothes and crap!), darling Son, had the smallest room (despite being physically the biggest family member) - he now shares an outrageously expensive tiny flat in 'that London', so it was good practise for him. DH had the middle room, and I had the downstairs garage conversion, as I wake constantly in the night due to inflammatory arthritis. Both kids now gone, but me and DH stick to our original rooms - you just do what's right for your family, simple really.

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 02/02/2021 15:35

Idontknowausername

My DC each have a double bedroom with plenty of storage.

They also get a lovely playroom downstairs with a wall of built in cupboards for toy storage. Plus my garden is currently occupied with a bloody huge wooden playset.

I can assure you I dont resent them Hmm

They dont need to be given the 25sqm master bedroom with 4 double wardrobes and a large ensuite, to have their needs put first.

Iknowwhatudidlastsummer · 02/02/2021 15:39

I’m just not raising him to think he’s the centre of the universe.

it that's based on the size of the bedroom, you are raising him in wrong!

Iknowwhatudidlastsummer · 02/02/2021 15:41

They dont need to be given the 25sqm master bedroom with 4 double wardrobes and a large ensuite

you have a big house, we got it, good for you Grin

BogRollBOGOF · 02/02/2021 15:44

We have the master bedroom, painstakingly remodeled over about 3 years worth of weekends.
I finally got my clothes into my own bedroom after nearly 20 years of two "double" bedrooms not designed for two peoples' clothes.

DS1 has a box room with "floating" bed. He likes it being small and cosy. We have a playroom, so ot's only his clothes and more personal items to go in there.

DS2 has a double room which was originally shared with DS1.

We've freed up the old master bedroom which was a spare bedroom for 2.5 months before a huge desk came home from the office in early March...

Iknowwhatudidlastsummer · 02/02/2021 15:48

It's amazing how any thread can manage to offend people
😂

It's possible for other people to make different choices without them being a personal attack.

Size of rooms is not the priority for everyone, so what. It makes no sense to me to put the kids in the smallest bedroom as a rule and in many house the "master bedroom" is not the biggest. You probably don't even notice it when you don't think about it, because they are furnished and decorated differently.

I chose my bedroom based on the layout of the house, and what was convenient for us.

None of the kids would ever think they are in charge just because they happened to have a bigger bedroom, how ridiculous.

If the Brits stopped this ridiculous habit of describing a house based on the number of "bedrooms" but stuck with rooms and size, it would make life easier.

It makes no difference if you use your dining room as a home office, a bedroom, or a gym does it.