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Who has the master bedroom in your house ?

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Whattheactual20201 · 02/02/2021 13:01

We were just discussing this with a friend and she thought it was odd that we have the smallest room in the house.

My dc 14 and 7. Ds originally had main bedroom and DD middle bedroom.
This then switched 2 years ago as their needs changed.
I have always had the smaller bedroom. I have my double bed and no floor space etc but I find that I only really sleep in their so it’s never bothered me.
We are planning on moving soon and I think it will be a similar set up.

How do you work out who gets what room ?

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Stompythedinosaur · 02/02/2021 13:24

Our dds (age 9 and 7) share the biggest room, dp and I have the next room, which is still a decent size double and has an entrance suite. There's a smaller third bedroom that is currently used for storage and workspace, but I imagine at one point one the the dds will move into.

I think you have to do whatever works for your own set up.

Kljnmw3459 · 02/02/2021 13:24

We're in the smaller bedroom as our dc share their room and are more likely to use it for playing etc. But both rooms are decently sized so it makes no big difference.

Ragwort · 02/02/2021 13:26

I do (on my own - DH has the guest room - comfortable double bed Grin), DS has the top floor to himself - double bedroom, large study bedroom & shower room - and he's away at Uni ! But we are fortunate to have a five bed house for three of us Blush.

MizMoonshine · 02/02/2021 13:26

We're moving shortly and are in discussions about who gets the master bedroom. DD is 5m so doesn't need any space yet and will have the box room. DS8 a computer, loads of toys etc but there are two of us and not an unsubstantial amount of stuff so we'll be assessing who actually needs the bigger room once we're in.

donewithitalltodayandxmas · 02/02/2021 13:26

We have larger one now as both da have their own room
When we had 2 bedrooms we had the smaller double and the kids had largest as they had separate beds , toys etc so made sense
We had room for double , fitted wardrobes and cheat of drawers so
What else did we need
They were young and had lots of toys , 2 beds in room , storage needed for clothes and room to play

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 02/02/2021 13:26

Dh and I. We pay the bills.

Everyone in the house has the same needs - a warm comfortable bed to sleep in.

The rest are wants. DH and I pay so our wants take precedence. Also our lovely ensuite would be wasted on the children who couldnt care less.

That said I think house size plays a part. We have enough room for a downstairs play room so the childrens toys aren't in our living room and they rarely play in their bedrooms. Also the children each have a reasonable sized room of their own. DH and I might be more keen to put children in the biggest room if the alternatives were inadequate or meant having huge amounts of toys everywhere else in the house.

supersonicginandtonic · 02/02/2021 13:27

We've got two bedrooms that have en-suites. We have the second biggest as dd and dad share the biggest. Work is due to start next week to partition their bedroom into two rooms and have the bathroom between them. They are on the top floor. Thanks

dillusional · 02/02/2021 13:27

Well me and my sister always shared so we got the master bedroom because we spent more time there playing there when we were young and later studying there when we're older. My parents always had the second biggest room and my brother always had the single room. Whichever works best for you, there's no rules I believe.

lazylinguist · 02/02/2021 13:28

Confused I know nobody who gives the children the master bedroom. Surely the main reason that parents usually have the master bedroom is that they are two people, they have a double (or even kingsize) bed, and they need more wardrobe space for a full collection of adult-sized clothes.

They have the entire house and can send the kids in their bedroom to have peace and quiet.

I find that an odd way of looking at it. The entire house is for our dc as much as it is for us. Their bedrooms are not for the purpose of getting them out of our way. They can hang out in any area of the house, just like we can.

yahyahs22 · 02/02/2021 13:28

My 9 month old had the biggest bedroom but ours isn't exactly small. But like you, I don't go in there other than to sleep really, DS will be using his to play etc.

shouldistop · 02/02/2021 13:29

My husband and I have the biggest bedroom but we also have a playroom so no worries about toy space in dc rooms.

Indecisive12 · 02/02/2021 13:30

We have the smallest room because it’s the only one with a walk in wardrobe, has the nicest window, is in the quietest position and still fits a king size bed, bedside tables and a chest of drawers (or Chester draws).

Bluegrass · 02/02/2021 13:31

Our kids share the biggest bedroom. I’m not sure why bigger necessarily means better. I don’t need loads of space to wander around in when I’m in there, whereas the kids cover their floor in Lego - they make more use of space than I would.

Personally I think our bedroom is “better” not because of the size, but because I prefer the artwork, ornaments, lamps, furniture etc in there!

40somethingJBJ · 02/02/2021 13:31

14yo ds has the (slightly) larger bedroom, as he’s got a desk to fit in as well as bed/wardrobe etc. I sleep in my bedroom, and spend most of my time elsewhere in the house, whereas he spends most of his life in his bedroom, so makes sense for him to have a bit more space!

MaskingForIt · 02/02/2021 13:32

We have the medium bedroom, STBbaby will have the smallest room, and the large great room is half guest bedroom and half study/storage room.

If the largest was an en suite we’d have that.

I imagine the posters whose DC have the largest room don’t have en suites.

Norwayreally · 02/02/2021 13:33

We do now but in our previous house DC did because all 3 of them shared for a while when they were small so they needed the biggest bedroom.

CreditCardHelpPlease · 02/02/2021 13:34

DH and I are the only ones who share a room so we have the largest DS actually has the smallest and the middle room is a guest room. We have 3 reception rooms though so plenty of space downstairs and I wouldn't send him upstairs to play anyway, he's only two. The medium term plan is to extend the loft, two rooms for DS bedroom and study/chill out space and a shower room. Which means we have the master bedroom, main bathroom, we get our study back and still retain a guest room. We're lucky that we have a large loft space and plenty of downstairs living space though.

CecilyP · 02/02/2021 13:35

Don’t think we really have a master bedroom - just 3 bedrooms of varying sizes. Gave DS the largest as he had a lot of stuff and would spend an increasing amount of time there and also have friends over. We took the middle room which had the advantage of a fitted wardrobe. There is enough floor space for bed, bedside cabinets and chest of drawers. We used the room to sleep only and entertained our friends in the living room! Probably don’t call it the master bedroom if you don’t want people to query it.

tocketytickety · 02/02/2021 13:35

Surely the main reason that parents usually have the master bedroom is that they are two people, they have a double (or even kingsize) bed, and they need more wardrobe space for a full collection of adult-sized clothes

Depends on the size of the non-master bedrooms. Ours in our former house was still enough for all our bedroom and storage needs.

Now, we don't need to share a room, each bedroom has what it needs, there's also rooms enough in the house for anybody's needs and wants so there's no "master room/living space". Just spaces and rooms based on functionality.

InvisibleToEveryone · 02/02/2021 13:35

DD (16) is in the box room.

DS (13) is in the "master" room.

And us in the middle room.

To be honest the two larger rooms aren't that different in size, maybe a foot or so?

Kids can swap around if they want, rooms decorated neutrally for this reason.

Cheator · 02/02/2021 13:35

We put a stud wall in the master bedroom so that the children could all have a room each.

My room which was the middle room is about the size of a new build master bedroom.

Ds1 and DD each have a double bedroom and DS2 has a small box room size with room for his cabin bed and a wardrobe with draws under the bed. Not very big but it's his own space so he's happy.

We couldn't split the room down the middle because of where the windows and doors were.

canigooutyet · 02/02/2021 13:37

No idea which is the master bedroom here. When we all lived here, room allocation was based on occupants. Why would I have a big room and squash two into a small space just because they happen to be children?

TotallyKerplunked · 02/02/2021 13:39

DS1&2 share the master room, DD has the middle and I have the smallest. I can just about squeeze a double bed in. It didn't feel right for me to have the master while the boys shared a small room, this way they share but have enough space for their own things and I only sleep in mine. Can't understand parents squishing kids and their stuff into tiny rooms while the parents have a whole house for their things and insist on a huge room they are rarely in for sleeping.

DisneyMillie · 02/02/2021 13:40

I’m not sure if our room or dd11 room is bigger - hers might be slightly - but ours has an en-suite so that’s why it’s ours.

Dd4 has a slightly (but not by much) smaller room and shares the main bathroom with dd11.

The last bedroom is a smaller double with en-suite which is the guest room.

In theory I just assume we’d take the “best” room in a house but I’m not sure what we’d actually do if we had any single rooms rather than all doubles as you’re right, the kids have more stuff.

NerdyBird · 02/02/2021 13:41

We have the master and ensuite because we are the ones sharing. DC have their own rooms. Two are double size and the other is box roomish. We have a playroom too, and another bathroom. In our old house dc had the bigger room as they were sharing. That house was too small overall though, we needed bigger living space as well as extra bedroom space.
We'll rejig things as dc get older and/or move out.