I'm going for a socially distanced walk next week with someone I met on tinder and have been chatting to for a short while, (yes it is allowed and he lives round the corner from me!). Problem is I think he might be shorter than me! I'm about 5ft8 so not small. I've always dated tall men. I'm not sure if it will bother me but I'm nervous it'll be awkward! I haven't asked how tall he is as don't want to turn it in to a thing but he looks short in his social media photos. Has anyone here ever been on a date with someone shorter? Am I incredibly shallow to worry about this?
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50shadesoflunacy ·
01/02/2021 15:23
No I haven't Counsellor. I also used to work in an Events Management firm where the MD was about 5'2. He was an arse as well. I have met plenty of short men who are arses. In my experience, a fair few short men have chips on their shoulders re height. This is not attractive to me. FWIW, my DP is 6'1 
CounsellorTroi ·
01/02/2021 15:29
@50shadesoflunacy
No I haven't Counsellor. I also used to work in an Events Management firm where the MD was about 5'2. He was an arse as well. I have met plenty of short men who are arses. In my experience, a fair few short men have chips on their shoulders re height. This is not attractive to me. FWIW, my DP is 6'1
Do you not think that might be as a result of the way they're generally perceived/treated, rather than the cause!
Shantotto ·
01/02/2021 15:33
@Flatcokeisnojoke
I would
Or else, at 6ft1, I’d never date anyone
Love hoe people compare men being short to women being fat. It’s not the same thing
The equivalent would be to ask men if they’d date taller women . Most won’t ...
Or else, at 6ft1, I’d never date anyone
Love hoe people compare men being short to women being fat. It’s not the same thing
The equivalent would be to ask men if they’d date taller women . Most won’t ...
This is also very true! I’m 6ft and when I was online dating I had a couple of guys cancel our meet ups and instead of making something up to spare my feelings they told me I was too tall! Thanks mate! 😂
littlepattilou ·
01/02/2021 15:44
I am 5 ft 5 so most men are taller than me anyway. DH is about 6 inches taller than me. I dated 5 or 6 blokes before him, and they were all 5 to 7 inches taller than me, but I never consciously looked for or sought out anyone taller; it just happened. I can't say for sure if I would date a man who was shorter than me, but I don't think it would be a dealbreaker.
For me, a dealbreaker (physically,) would be bad teeth/halitosis, bad hygiene, and lots of dark and prominent moles (particularly if they were on his face or neck.) May sound shallow, but no more shallow than many other comments on here, like they'd never date anyone shorter, or who had smaller hands, or who had a small penis, or who was overweight.
I would also never date a smoker or a vegan or someone who was obsessed with exercise and the gym (or if they were an obsessive runner or cyclist...) As several posters have said, we are all entitled to find certain things unappealing, and to say we are not attracted to that person because of it...
As for the comments by @CorianderBlues there have been plenty of tales on here of women who have had men who have slagged them off for gaining weight/being too fat. You're deluded if you think this never happens.
As for saying you still fit in your school uniform? WTAF? 
How can you possibly say this? Every woman I know has a different figure in her early to mid teens to what she has 21+. Your hips grow, and your waist slims down, and your thighs will get bigger. A grown woman (past 21) will NOT be able to fit in the uniform she wore at school in her mid teens. What a load of tosh you speak!
PrawnCorset ·
01/02/2021 15:49
@Bluntness100
As for saying you still fit in your school uniform? WTAF? confused How can you possibly say this
Obviously the poster still wears it. In some instances it’s really best not to ask..
Obviously the poster still wears it. In some instances it’s really best not to ask..
I'm pretty sure I'd still fit in mine, if I hadn't burnt it the day I left school.
And that is not a boast about me being as lissom as I was at eighteen, as the garment in question was a royal blue gabardine pinafore that looked like a hot water tank lagging jacket with flap pockets.
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OhCaptain ·
01/02/2021 15:58
@Glenchase
Height wouldn’t bother me as long as he was hot. A micro penis is a bigger problem imo, and that can happen to men of any height.
Well, a smaller problem.
littlepattilou ·
01/02/2021 16:05
@PrawnCorset
I'm pretty sure I'd still fit in mine, if I hadn't burnt it the day I left school.
And that is not a boast about me being as lissom as I was at eighteen, as the garment in question was a royal blue gabardine pinafore that looked like a hot water tank lagging jacket with flap pockets.
😂
@bluebluezoo
But rejecting someone you otherwise find attractive because of height seems a bit daft.
But it's still a valid reason to not want to be with someone. As @Bluntless100 said, no-one is owed a relationship, and no-one should feel obliged to date someone they're not attracted to, even of the reason IS his height...
And as for the suggestion that women are to blame for the suicide rates in shorter men?! Words fail me!
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