Would you date someone shorter?

[radiateforme]

I'm going for a socially distanced walk next week with someone I met on tinder and have been chatting to for a short while, (yes it is allowed and he lives round the corner from me!). Problem is I think he might be shorter than me! I'm about 5ft8 so not small. I've always dated tall men. I'm not sure if it will bother me but I'm nervous it'll be awkward! I haven't asked how tall he is as don't want to turn it in to a thing but he looks short in his social media photos. Has anyone here ever been on a date with someone shorter? Am I incredibly shallow to worry about this?

[OldGreyBoots]

I've never been attracted to a man who was taller than me

[50shadesoflunacy]

No I don't Counsellor. He was an arse. Plain and simple. He accused me of not sending him some information. I then forwarded him the email I had sent him with the information. I have come across many short men (my definition of short is around 5'6 and under). I am not attracted to them.

[SusannaSpider]

They often seem to feel emasculated by a taller woman and can generally be a bit arsy and defensive about the whole thing.

Tbf there is this, I'm 6' 1" in my heels , I've had some really shit comments from men - you must be one of them blokes in a dress, and Ooh size 10, is that your shoe size love.
I don't look blokey, I'm just tall. Men can be such dicks, I'd never comment on their height.

[UnGoogled76]

I'm lesbian and on the tall side, if I refused to date women shorter than me I wouldn't have many options at all! My fiancée is 4 inches shorter and she's my perfect tiny woman. I don't feel awkward about it at all.

[skippy67]

I wouldn't, no.

[GreenlandTheMovie]

I find men trying to tell women that they shouldn't have preferences regarding the physical characteristics they are attracted to in men really offensive.

The wotkd is literally filled with with references to what men prefer physically in women, and many of them are not exactly backwards in expressing it.

[hulahooper2]

No I wouldn’t

[Soboredofcorona]

I lived with a guy the same height as me and I could never really get over it........... I wouldn’t again.

[Labobo]

@Soboredofcorona - what do you mean you could never get over it? (Genuinely puzzled what this means)

[Soboredofcorona]

@Labobo I mean it always bothered me, I was always aware of it not ticking a box for me in terms of attraction.

[Labobo]

Ah, OK.

[LittleSilverBird]

No, I never would. I'd find it weird. I'm a lesbian so I guess I ruled a lot of women out! But I'm also only 5"2 so not that many

Would you date someone thinner than you? No.
Or fatter.
Yes
How about someone with a different skin colour? Yes

[SunshineCake]

No one will think he's your son as it is a fact that sons grow taller than their mothers. They will know he's someone else's son.

Dh isn't hugely taller than me but I wouldn't want him shorter than me.

[TheSmallClangerWhistlesAgain]

I've only ever met a few men who were shorter than me as I'm only 5'2". I wasn't attracted to any of them, but it's a tiny sample and I'm happily married so not looking now anyway. The only long-term boyfriend I had before DH wasn't very tall by most people's standards, but he was taller than me.

[Youcunnyfunt]

I'm 5 foot nothing... so probably not, no. I don't think I've ever met a man shorter than me!
Most of my boyfriends have been shorter than average. I don't notice and it doesn't bother me. They're still taller than me even if they're only 5'4"!

[BiBabbles]

I have, quite happily. Most I've dated have been around my height (5'5") with only a few having been significantly taller (5"+) so I guess mostly short-average women and short men. I don't think it's shallow to be nervous if you never have before, but I don't think in most situations it's as awkward as media likes to portray it unless someone makes it a big deal (whether that's either of you or other people).

Heights never been something that's affected my attraction to someone that I've noticed - one was my exes had hGH deficiency who was still undergoing treatment at the time (16 years old), another was a guy with a variant of spina bifida that resulted in his legs not growing properly. Most didn't have conditions but those two had the most people feel like they just had to comment on it (mostly that it was a shame as they'd likely have been taller than me without, but other than health concerns, I didn't see the issue others had with it).

Now width, I've never been attracted to someone whose shoulders were narrower than mine or was overall thinner than me. I joked as a scrawny teenager that someone thinner than me would result in very bony making out. Always preferred more softness and curves.

Yes I've dated people who were a different skin tone to me - but then, so are most people I've met.

[Youcunnyfunt]

^Would you date someone thinner than you?
Or fatter.
How about someone with a different skin colour? ^

Have dated people thinner than me (their frame was smaller - they weren't lighter than me), and have dated people "fatter" than me. Have dated people more athletic than me. Are you ever likely to be a match in terms of size, frame, body fat percentage and muscle?! It makes literally no difference to the relationship!
If you asked me, would I date anyone unhealthy or obese, it would be a different answer. Because that drastically affects lifestyle which of course would then affect my own lifestyle.
Different skin colour - again, it makes no difference to me. Yes I would date different ethnicities (and have... as a result of me living in the UK... none of my British boyfriends have had the same skin colour as me.).

[Jellykat]

I'm 5ft 11" and tried dating a guy shorter then me in the past. I couldn't get my head around it, and not only did i find myself stooping a lot, it made me feel too large, so no i wouldn't again!

[Happyone8]

I went out with someone quite a bit shorter than me and I could actually see people laughing at our height difference . I found it all awkward after a while , I was constantly slouching and wearing flats and didn’t feel very feminine tbh . I like to be with someone at least the same height .

[Purplealienpuke]

I have. And taller. 6'7 the tallest, I'm 5'6.
I've dated big guys and slim guys, bald guys and guys who have long hair and beards! Black guys and white guys....
Its about personality and whether you're compatible IMO anyway.
Go and meet him... he may be just who you're looking for!

[LApprentiSorcier]

Yes, it wouldn't bother me at all. I've dated men the same height as me (5' 4 so short by male standards). My husband is about 5'8 - we are the same height on the increasingly rare occasions I venture into heels!

[Mummadeze]

I am 5 foot 7 and I dated some people shorter than me in the past. My current partner is 5 foot 8. I didn’t mind at all. Weirdly however I am not attracted to anyone really tall, so anyone above 5 foot 11 ish would probably just not appeal. It is hard to change your mindset around this, but I would try if they were right in every other way.

[Kiehl]

I really don't like tall men. I mean those that are above average. I find it so unattractive.
Im 5'4 and would date someone my height or a bit taller. My husband is just under 6 foot but any taller and id be put off.