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Best CF stories part 2

657 replies

HepLaurenceLB · 30/01/2021 11:01

First thread
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3905995-Best-CF-Stories

OP posts:
GabsAlot · 07/02/2021 19:56

i thought u couldnt use an amazon account in anothe rhouse so they stop you sharing

sueelleker · 07/02/2021 20:03

@ElliFAntspoo

We decided to install a CF in our back door, and got one with a little radio transmitter thing that you attach to your cat's collar so it only unlocks for him. Only it turns out another cat in the neighbourhood has a similar collar that opens out cat flap, so we now get uninvited visits from this strange moggy, and we don't know whether ours has discovered he can go into another stranger's house.
You can get flaps that work off your cat's microchip; so totally unique.
petridishmystery · 07/02/2021 20:08

@GabsAlot

i thought u couldnt use an amazon account in anothe rhouse so they stop you sharing
Apparently you can! His TV was registered as a device to my account back when he lived in the same city as me and at some point he’d set up his own profile, he moved back to his home country (still in the UK) in November 2019 and has definitely used it at least five times, probably more if I’d thought to check the profile watch history today before deleting.
fistasledge · 07/02/2021 20:23

Not sure if mine is CFuckery or just plain ineptitude!

Years ago we lived in a two bedroom flat and as were pre children had enough money to get a cleaner (oh how those days have gone). Went with someone a few people we knew had used and recommended.

Should have known it wasn't going well after the first clean...
... we were both at work when she did the flat and she called me up in a panic two hours after she's left the flat. Apparently she had lost our keys after locking the flat up. She used public transport so the key could have been dropped anywhere on her route. Ok, I sighed and thought, annoying to have to recut keys but not the end of the world. It gets worse... she had added a key ring label and added our FULL address to the key so anyone who picked them up would be in no doubt what flat number, road and postcode it was for.

I asked why she had felt the need to add a full address label and not just our names and she was a bit confused at the question as wondered how else she'd remember the address. She did this for all her clients apparently and had only just realised it may be an issue. Anyway, she'd been back and forward over the route twice, rung tfl and logged it but they weren't anywhere.

At this point I thought anyone who found them and was that way inclined would probably use them sooner rather than later so I rushed to work from home so someone was in (DH up in Scotland with work at the time). I didn't feel safe being home alone for another two days so asked several times that she was sure she'd dropped them somewhere public..,yes.

I got quotes to change the locks and found cheapest £90. She didn't offer to pay but I did press that this was her mistake so we came up with a plan to take it out of what we pay her over 6 months.

Two days later she rings and says she's found the keys in the back pocket of the jeans she was wearing 🤦🏻‍♀️. Then says as she didn't actually lose the keys, she obviously now didn't have to pay for the changed locks... erm...no

About a year later I came home unexpectedly to find two young boys playing with DH's Xbox (maybe 8 and 10) and eating the rest of the cake that was in the fridge (which, in fairness I'd said she could help herself to a slice of) and cleaner having a cup of tea in the kitchen. Apparently they were both off sick and she couldn't leave them at home. I get that...and I probably would have said it was ok if only she'd asked.

The final straw (can't believe there needed to be one after the above!) was about a year after that. We'd had new carpets fitted about a month earlier... we'd fallen into a habit of paying a month upfront as finances were tight for her. It was about the 20th of the month and she'd been to ours and clean while we were at work. She text and said she's about to book a holiday and would it be possible to pay the following month already as she'd really appreciate it for booking her deposit. I didn't see the issue and said fine and transferred.

Got home to find the beige new carpet absolutely covered in black marks. Every single room was covered. We immediately text her and she feigned surprise and suggested that as we opened our front door, maybe a stray dog had got into the flat with dirty paws and left the black marks on the carpet and then snuck out (!!) We didn't tell her what the marks were, just that the carpet was dirty so we knew she'd done it.

We later discovered a box of black hair dye in a bin she'd forgotten to empty (she'd dyed her hair in our bathroom???) and some of this dye was rubbed on the hoover brush and then used in every single room! Surely the moment you saw the hoover make that mark, you'd stop!?

Anyway, she blocked us, kept the money we paid upfront and stuck our keys through the door one day. It took three years of vanish every time we hoovered to get the marks to fade enough you couldn't see them.

Lesson learnt, one strike is enough!!

RuledbyASD · 07/02/2021 20:33

@jigglybits

Came out of my flat one sunny day to find my upstairs neighbour and her friends all sitting on blankets in my garden enjoying the sun. Same neighbour who just left a washing machine in my garden. 🤦🏼‍♀️ She knew it was my garden, didn't occur to her to ask first🤷‍♀️
Did you not confront them and order them to leave????
RuledbyASD · 07/02/2021 20:54

@myneighbourisaCF

my neighbour complained that the lights in my kitchen are too bright for her dog (we share a closed alleyway and we both have side doors from our kitchen that lead into the alleyway - both doors have frosted glass and are directly opposite each other so she can see the light on in my kitchen and vice versa) She wants me to do one of the following 1) replace glass door with door that has no glass 2) stop putting the lights on late at night or first thing in the morning 3) put a blackout curtain/blind up that fixes to the glass part so no light can leak out 4) change the lights for dimmable ones

WE have to do all of this and WE have to pay for it because its inconveniencing her dog and as she's lived there longer she has the right to leave her house as it is as we are causing the problem

As we have a shared alleyway - the alleyway leads directly into our garden, we have recently built a wall and plan to put a gate up ASAP so that it's not opening up directly from the end of the alleyway.
I mentioned it in passing and CF neighbour went nuts saying her dog likes to roam around our garden like she did before we moved in as previous owner used to let her do it, we are depriving her dog the right to exercise and she may need access to her back wall!
Just to add she has no rights over our garden by the way shes just a CF who likes wandering in our garden and doesn't like us having any privacy.

CF neighbour also asked if DP could leave for work later as starting the car up wakes her (retired) husband up and she wants him to sleep as long as possible so he's not under her feet first thing in the morning Grin

This one wasn't me but woman 3 doors down recently moved in and is apparently allergic to animals. CF neighbour went over to introduce herself and then new neighbour invited CF neighbour in for a cup of tea and asked if it was ok if she brought her husband? New neighbour said yes, CF neighbour went back and left the husband but took the dog and was massively offended when new neighbour said CF couldn't bring her dog in her house Grin

I could write a CF book filled with things my neighbour has demanded!

Please tell us more!!
BloodyDarrener · 07/02/2021 21:21

I had to change my internet password when I discovered my DD's friend had given her cousin it. The cousin lived next door and now didn't need her own internet! That was years ago but I'm a regular WiFi password changer now.

lighteincastlewindow · 08/02/2021 01:27

@popNlock You really just made everyone pissed off at you.

Cadent · 08/02/2021 21:12

@NothingIcando

So I wont be picking anything up or 'catching on' to her hints. You want somthing now..you ask me.

Good you didn't offer! But she sounds like a CF, even if she asks , say no.

RuledbyASD · 08/02/2021 21:51

@Puzzledandpissedoff

I know someone who when new neighbour's moved into THEIR close would take a set of rules to sign on the day of their arrival

Guess they're having a lot of fun during Covid Grin

Your post reminded me of a pal whose new friend was putting down a separate concrete pad for her car. This excited the attention of the very exclusive area's busybody, who constantly stopped by with "the village wondered ..." or "the village wanted to know ..."

He finally had enough and told her "yeah, I run a mobile fish and chip business and that's where the van's going to go"

Chaos ensued ...

😆😆😆

Pleeeease detail the chaos that ensued! 👀

RuledbyASD · 08/02/2021 22:05

@Rainbowandscarlett

I used to work in a well known fast food restaurant As it was I was moving 136 miles away so handed in my notice with plenty of time and I’d told everyone I was packing up the house on the Friday-ready to leave on the Saturday All good They only put me down to work the Thursday,Friday and the Saturday! I told the boss I’d handed my notice letter in to and told her that as from the Thursday I didn’t work there anymore-I was moving house-and area so couldn’t do it She had the nerve to get really funny with me-and cancelled all my shifts that week in revenge I didn’t care-I had an extra few days to pack-moved-and found another job within the week

My mother is the biggest cf
She once took me to Tesco (struggling single mum who didn’t have much money)
She wanted £10 for petrol (fair enough-a taxi would have cost me that)
We pulled up in the car park and at the time they had fellas who would wash your car while you shopped
She demanded I pay £7 to have her car washed
then added her shopping (about £20) to mine and demanded a cup of tea and cake in the cafe-while swiping her club card so I wouldn’t get the points for that shop
I just paid up-she’s my mother-and the following week she wanted to run me back-I told her that I’d get a taxi-it was much cheaper
She hit the roof but she never gave me a lift again-but bad mouthed me to everyone about how unreasonable I am (turned out her shopping was for my well off brother-I’d paid for it and he never paid either of us back,plus she’d taken me on works time so was getting paid to take me)

Many many more but we are now nc

My god Shock She treated you like an acquaintance not a daughter! As if you'd expect so much as "Thanks Mum" for giving your own child a lift, let alone all that but the slagging you off to everyone? Your own Mum? I'm stunned
Puzzledandpissedoff · 08/02/2021 22:11

RuledbyASD Panic from the neighbourhood busybody, several calls from her husband - apparently the news was affecting her mental health - letters from the parish council, a visit from the vicar to offer to mediate and sundry other arseholery

Since they were all enjoying them so much the new friend dragged it out a bit so as not to spoil their fun, but he eventually let them off with "I've sold the fish and chip van and am going to get a caravan instead"

Not sure it's very much better TBH Grin

RuledbyASD · 08/02/2021 22:22

[quote DdraigGoch]@RuledbyASD no, he told him where to go because he'd evidently used a cowboy to save some money. If someone does a shoddy job then you call them back to fix it.[/quote]
No! You really don't! If I've had a cowboy bodge some work up in my home then I'm not going to ask them to come back and bodge more up, am I?! Hmm Cowboys are as such, because they're not actually qualified to do what they're claiming they can do! If this has become evident by way of crap workmanship then they're clearly incapable of working to an acceptable standard! Hmm🤦🏼‍♀️

popNlock · 08/02/2021 22:26

lighteincastlewindow

popNlock You really just made everyone pissed off at you

?? No I didn't Grin My friend called me after to apologise and nobody else minded. They said they'd have done the same.
Unless...you were one of the dancers and you know something I don't?!

Lorddenning1 · 09/02/2021 08:42

Anymore?

SunshineCake · 09/02/2021 11:42

@Cindersrellie

My friend was a bridesmaid for a mega-Bridezilla. The bride wrote a letter to each bridesmaid a few months before the wedding telling them that they would be required to take part in a 'water goddess ceremony' on the morning of the wedding. This would involve them all going into the sea (in May, in the UK) and each bridesmaid had to do a performance. It was presented as a requirement. The bridesmaids were also required to each make a wedding cake for the bride (she wanted a table of dozens of wedding cakes). She also threw a wobby because some of the bridesmaids didn't finish work until 5 on the day before the wedding, so couldn't spend the whole day at the venue setting up.
What happened? How many bridesmaids gave in to her?
Rainbowandscarlett · 09/02/2021 13:29

@RuledbyASD
Oh she’s done much worse than that
As a kid she’d charge us for sweets-she’d buy in bulk as dad worked at the chocolate factory-and charge us 10p less than the shops,even tho that price would have been about the same as what she’d paid for the whole lot
I had to buy my own school uniform from about 14 onwards and pay for all my own school trips/books/pens/paper etc
I was a single mum with 3 kids in a two bed house and my brother wanted to move out
So she drove him to my place,moved him in,made it clear he wasn’t to pay rent/bills/food and in return he’d babysit
He never did-I forced him out a month later
She’d throw expensive birthday parties for them,brag about how she’d paid for them-then charge me 3x’s the amount
She’d buy crap from car boots (stuff you’d be ashamed to bin-it would be that tatty) and charge me (say she’d paid £1-she’d charge me a tenner)
My ex left me in debt-about £8,000 and she paid it all off-that’s fine-I was very grateful
She charged me £100 a week for 15 years to pay it back
She bought my son a £50 pushbike-he was to pay it back at £5 a week until it was paid off (she didn’t ask if this was ok-she just arranged it with 12 year old him)
I kept a tally of what had been paid-and sent a copy to a mate each week for safekeeping
She got paid off-then threatened to take me to court as I hadn’t paid a penny apparently and I never physically saw her again when I laughed and told her to jog on
She never did me any favours without a sweetener for herself-I could write a book about the cf stunts she’s pulled
I’m nc with her now (I swear she’s a narcissist) and she’s annoyed she can’t con any money out of me-so she just slags me off to whoever will listen
I ended up moving 136 miles away just to get rid of her-and some of the stunts have now been passed onto another brother who won’t stand up to her

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Rainbowandscarlett · 09/02/2021 14:43

@StamfordHill

£100 a week for 15 years? That works out to almost £80k. Is that what you repaid for an £8k loan?
Yep I had to work god knows how many hours to keep up I’m fully aware how crazy it sounds but it’s true I’d still be paying if I hadn’t snapped over my sons bike-it was a few months shy of 15 years
gerbilfur · 09/02/2021 15:22

Not my story but a close friends.

Close friends df recently died. Friend moved in with her df in his last weeks to care for him at home. She has a sister who has been nc with the df for years due to a falling out over their dms will, who died about 6 years ago.

Once the df died, the sister got in touch with my friend, giving her "notification" that she'd be moving into the dfs house! When my friend quite rightly said not on your life that is my inheritance as well as yours the sister went to the house when my friend wasn't there and took anything of value. Horrible woman!

DWPmisery1972 · 09/02/2021 15:29

@gerbilfur we had a similar situation when my grandmother died; my auntie went into her house and stole (I say stole because it wasn’t hers to take) a Chanel diamond necklace worth about 10k along with a load of other jewellery including her engagement ring. She also took a Cartier watch ... off her dead body in the hospice. Nasty woman.

HeidiHaughton · 09/02/2021 15:32

We had a family member who decided they could move into the family home after the death of a parent as payment for all their 'devotion' during the final illness. They had done nothing but cause upset at the hospice with their histronics. They refused to move out so it could be sold and the money split evenly between siblings. The will was disputed and it was a mess for years.

rawalpindithelabrador · 09/02/2021 15:42

My aunt left me her Cartier stainless steel tank watch in her will. She'd told me she had years before. She was skinny as a rake. Her son's ex-girlfriend tried to tell me she should have it because it was too small for me. Haahaaa! Stupid cow, she'd had the extra links taken out, easily put back on. Yeah, I'm really going to hand some grabby cow a £2500 watch she willed to me that I'll pass on to my own daughter one day.

Flackattack · 09/02/2021 15:56

@StamfordHill £9600 not £80k!!!

TomHardyAndMe · 09/02/2021 16:00

[quote Flackattack]@StamfordHill £9600 not £80k!!![/quote]
£100 x 52 x 15 = £78,000

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