"What? You?!" Sneery Teen

[PyongyangKipperbang]

He is 15 and literally NOTHING existed in the world until he heard of it, which I am sure he is not alone in.

He is into musical theatre. Goes on and on about various musicals he has found and likes. Ok, no problem there except he does it in a very sneery way as if I coudlnt possibly know about these things but I generally let it go.

When I was younger I planned to go into acting and part of my unofficial training when I was waiting to go to drama school was being trained in theatre production. There is a really good theatre nearish to me and I did some am-dram and got a lot of training in sound for stage productions and I really loved it. I decided that I would rather do sound than acting. Then life happened and I didnt go to school and blah blah but I did still do sound for am dram for a few years.

Last night I get "You probably wont have heard of it but there is this great musical called Blood Brothers which has great songs" and I said "yeah I know, they are good". "Oh you've heard of it?" and it just put my back up. So I said "Of course. Its been around for years and is very well known. I did the sound on it when it was on at X theatre about 20 years ago"

That was when I got "What? You?!" in an incredulous disbelieving sneery way. "You dont seem to me to be someone who could do that" And I got really annoyed and did shout that yes believe it or not I do actually know things, that I did have a life that didnt involve being a mother and to not look down his fucking nose at me. Oh and by the way, no he doesnt fucking know it all. I then asked him a few technical questions "do you know how to....." which he didnt and I could say "Well I do, so...." and he bogged off upstairs!

AIBU to think that sometimes it is justified to give them a smack round the earhole, because I have had the most incredible urge to do just that ever since.

Well justified , teens think they know it all. According to mine I can’t drive, I can’t cook and I should cook how they do on tik tok. I am always wrong when I say something stupid like I remember this song first time around. AND have to prove I am right by using Spotify. I don’t know anything about films, in fact according to my 3 my mind is an empty void. They really piss me off ! But I love them because no one else would 😂🤣😂

I teach kids who can't work out how I know who Blur and Oasis songs and that I know the lyrics. They also don't believe that I've met Michael Schumacher. Just enjoy it and don't try to one up. Just be blithe about things. Yes you know BB and your favourite song is...what's his? That way you can share stuff without competing.

@PyongyangKipperbang .say what? ....say this-
the update op post grumbled that it was a self motivated reason=dinner.i realise i might be wrong but i think ops putting alot of expectations on her son, right from original post-how would he know her history if she hasnt said.?
pretty much says swearing is accepted,but expects him to determine when.appropriate ..and is aware that insults,personal remarks arent ok.but ....uses crap excuses,or throws others actions in,rather than adress-what allow will continue..
then makes out hes disapointed she didnt react when came out...or,not response he wanted.
people are infuriationg,own kids have natural button pusher tendencies.
i just feel op is..aware hes antagonistic\reactive...but meeting him with-the same. therefore both,get nowhere in it stopping.shes the adult hes the child..say that

So l was on our local fb selling site, someone was selling some new ugg boots which l wanted, in order to talk to this person she had to accept me as a friend and we stayed friends afterwards. So l overheard a conversation that my 15yr ds was having with some friends, turns out this girl who sold me the boots is the most iconic girl at school that everyone wants to be friends with. So l casually said oh yes l know her l"m friends with her on fb!! Well you should of seen his face!! I was a the queen in all of his friends and his eyes!! So sometimes it works the other way round 🤣🤣

Sometimes even old people like me can be cool.
I introduced ds2 to a hip hop underground artist. Ds2 loved him sa we went to gigs together. One time I dragged dh along and after watds the artist was mingling wuth the crowd. I had met the artist before and introduced him to son and husband. Artist says " wow! A hip hop family. How cool is that!
Ds was about 16 at the time and was so made up with this!
For once I wasn't so bad!
😂😂

Cool mum!

My mum liked Johnny Mathis and dad was a classical/opera buff (although I do like going to opera and classical concerts)...

That was when I got "What? You?!" in an incredulous disbelieving sneery way. "You dont seem to me to be someone who could do that" from OP.

No one likes to be treated with sneering contempt and be regarded as incapable. So, I understand why you were upset.

Sneering at someone and treating them with contempt or disdain goes beyond merely thinking they are out of touch. Does anyone really deserve to be treated like that? As if they had little or no value as a human being.
It’s awful when it’s someone you love treating you like this. I hope the OP can get to the bottom of this and her son re-evaluates his attitude.

Actually DH is a bit like that. I have seen some half decent bands (The cult, the cure...) in my day and he is often surprised that I have actually gone to gigs in ye olden days!

DS isn't to bad now. Although when he and DDIL had DGD, he said to me. 'Please don't tell DDIL how to do things. Everything has changed since you had kids."

I nodded and agreed, just as DDIL walked him.and looked at him aghast.

" I dont belive you said that." She said.

" No he is right " I replied. "She is your baby"

" MOTHER" DDIL exclaimed. "My Mum is 6000 miles away. You not only brought up DH, BUT ALSO HIS ELDER DAUGHTER. AND YOU HAVE BEEN IN CHILDCARE FOR 40 YEARS!"

I high fived DDIL as DS slunk out if the room.

Then when lockdown happened. DS was furloughed so was on childcare duties. Great with the actual looking after (does as much as DDIL, ) but keeping a 4 year old entertained allllllll day was a different matter.

Finally phoned his Mum.

Oh according to my son I’m 2 million years old lol