To tuck my 10.5 year old in to bed every night?

[Sethy38]

I’m not! I know that obviously because he wants me to (or rather he doesn’t NOT want me to.... not as though he’d shed a tear or anything if I didn’t but he just sees it as bedtime and I like it.

Just wondering when people stopped doing this and What precipitated the change and was it sudden or drawn out?

He goes to bed, reads his book, I come in, we have a quick chat, I sometimes get to kiss his forehead if I’m lucky, and that’s the process.

I sit with my DS until he goes to sleep. He’s never been the best sleeper and we’d spend hours trying to get him to sleep so we ended up sitting with him while he dozed off, and still do. He’s 12 now. I’m sure they’ll be a time when he doesn’t want us to.

Also, I think we all need to acknowledge that one day our kids will look right through us and we will become increasingly irrelevant, let's enjoy the bedtime stories, songs, tucking ins, and cuddles while they think we are the sun and moon. We will miss it one day and will be fools to end the adoration before we have to.

1am. Do you just go to bed anyway? If we do he's usually in and out wanting another story/water/chat
Yes. Set new rules give him drink snack kiss the head at 10.30 and if he wants to stay up late he'll have to do it quietly. It'll get later and later might as well give him the tools. Only wake for emergency.

Mine are almost 18 and almost 15 year old boys. They come and find both me and Dh to give us a kiss and a hug goodnight. They go up about 30 minutes to 1 hour before us.

Also in the morning they come and see us (weekdays) we are in bed reading the news and they come in, say good morning, kiss and hug and then go and get showered and dressed. It is completely lovely.

Weekends they don't lie in unless you call 8am a lie in, they take themselves off downstairs, then when we wake we text them and they bring us cups of tea! I love having older children

Yeah i did with mine until about aged12ish..our ritual shifted as they just got really into reading their own favourite stuff(one loves scifi/dystopian the other reads factual texts&natural history)so we do a dinner/netflix ritual followed by teeth&reading..im always asleep before them as i usually have early shifts..they still trot into my room for kiss/hug though&sometimes perch on my bed for chat..its always been pretty calm/low key but got books to thank for that🙂

My DS is 11 next month. I still read him a story, tuck him in and kiss him on the forehead before bed. Although I'm not reading whole chapters ATM because I gave myself a horrendous sore throat doing Gandalf on Monday and it's only just getting better! That wizard talks forever in chapter 2...

DS also likes to jump into my bed for a snuggle some mornings and I get occasionally get a request for a bedtime lullaby or a nursery rhyme. We did round and round the garden like a teddy bear 3 times yesterday. I reckon we have a while yet.

I kiss my older teens goodnight in their beds every night on my way to bed.

I only have the one ds he's almost 9 I still tuck him in (he won't give me a kiss goodnight though! 🙄) I also sit In his room until he goes to sleep as he can't without me there

@Casade

My son is 9 and still loves me laying with him until he falls asleep. We normally have a cuddle, chat about life and he likes his Moshi music on to go to sleep 😂 I try my hardest not to fall asleep!

Snap! 🤣 it's either story or Moshi app for ds he's nearly 9 too! I had the free version for ages and I'm sure I can recite close your eyes sleepy paws in my sleep 😂

I'd tuck my teens in if they didn't stay up later than me

Still do this with a nearly 14 year old boy.

Ds1 had a story and was tucked in till about 11. Ds2 actively asks to be accompanied upstairs and for a chapter and a kiss. He then reads for a bit. I'm going to keep doin git until he stops wanting me to!

I always remember my mum and dad would pop their heads in and say goodnight and tell me to switch my light off every evening. As an adult it went the other way-every single time I came home from a night out if I could see my mum’s light still on under the crack in the door (she was a night owl and a really late reader) I would make us both a cup of tea and go and sit on the end of their bed and fill her in on all the gossip whilst my dad snoozed away and slept through it weekend mornings I’d make them tea and go and sit on the end of their bed. Happy memories 🥰

DS is also 10.5. He has a chapter or two of a novel with DH whilst I read with DD (7). We then talk about their days, they choose a favourite thing to say thank you for and we sing. This has been the same since they were tiny and can’t see it changing any time soon.

I “tuck in” my 14 year old DD just about every night. We might read together or just watch something on the IPad. Mostly we have our little mantra, a hug and an “I love you”. You are never too old to be made to feel even more secure in your parents love and consistent routine helps with that. We have had a really difficult time over the past couple of years (not just because of COVID) and bedtimes are often when the real, deeply held worries are shared. Without this routine DD would probably not have shared these worries and that could have been really damaging. Also, I just checked with DD, she absolutely does not want me to stop tucking her in and I don’t want to stop either.

my dad passed when i was 22,up until then-he wouldnt have came in bedroom i guess-but stood up n kissed me goodnight-shouted me back if-and i regularly did-stopm past mum,he took hand to cross road,caught self do this to mum since,,cut my sandwhichess in quarters...all the wee little things that are sorely missed. my 24 yr old haas been known to lay at bottom of my bed and read aloud to me and his little bro whos ten before wishing us goodnight.being a parent is a lifelong thing.=answer to nobody,unless your doing it utterly wrong.x

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DS is nearly 17 and I still tuck him in, or he tucks me in, every night.

He will often sit sprawl on my bed and chatter away about anything and everything. He will also come and jump in next to me on a Sunday morning and we will watch the news and put the world to rights!

My parents always did the same. I would jump in between them on a Sunday morning and chat away - even when I used to come back from university

I don't tuck my 17 yr old in but she still likes a big cuddle before she goes to bed.I like it too!

I love this thread so much. Especially the poster who says she checks on her 21 year old. So nice.

I think this is lovely :)

I do tuck DS11 in, but it's always a bit more fraught than I would like, as most evenings it follows me catching him having one last rearrange of his Lego/toys/Beanos, or whatever other last minute thing he is doing to avoid getting into bed! I sometimes squish in for a cuddle if there's time, but it's the wake up cuddles I love most. In the morning the bed is warm, and we're both still dozy - every day starts with him getting into mine for snoozy hugs. I will miss it terribly when he no longer wants to do so.

@Allispretty😂😂 close your eyes sleepy on repeat! He only likes two songs from the Moshi app! Gets a bit much 😂

Still kiss my 11 year old DS goodnight. He wants and expects me to tuck him in.

The other night I gave a cheery 'love you' before leaving followed by silence which I have to admit nipped a little bit. Later when I walked past his bedroom to mine he'd passed a note underneath the door with a 'LOVE YOU TOO!!' now I'm not sure of the tone but hoping it was cheery like mine.

Aww my 7 year old doesn't want hugs or kisses any more but I'm still allowed to tuck him in and read him a story. "I love you" is recently met with "I know, you don't have to always tell me that.."