To tuck my 10.5 year old in to bed every night?

[Sethy38]

I’m not! I know that obviously because he wants me to (or rather he doesn’t NOT want me to.... not as though he’d shed a tear or anything if I didn’t but he just sees it as bedtime and I like it.

Just wondering when people stopped doing this and What precipitated the change and was it sudden or drawn out?

He goes to bed, reads his book, I come in, we have a quick chat, I sometimes get to kiss his forehead if I’m lucky, and that’s the process.

@Bunnybigears

What actually is 'tucking in?

Have you never been tucked in, Bunny?

When someone tucks the covers all round you tightly, so that the edge folds under your sides and feet?

It’s very, very comforting.

I’d like to be small and tucked in again.

Like a few others I now go to bed before my two (15 and almost 19) but they both come to me.
They lie on my bed for a bit and have a wee chat and I always get a hug. I love our wee nighttime chats - all sorts of problems get sorted!
I do sometimes look at them and wonder how the years have gone so quickly.

We tuck both ours in.

DS, nearly 10, has to be carried to bed anyway because he can’t walk. We tuck him in (and then often do it again once he’s asleep!) Kisses on cheek, stroke of his forehead. I love yous. He can’t talk so he says it with his eyes.

Still tuck in 12 yr old DD. Snuggle her down with her blankets, we have a little chat, a hug and then she usually goes off to sleep about the same time as us.

I can’t imagine it being any different although one day I’m sure it will.

Sometimes, when DH knows I'm feeling under the weather, he will tuck me in for a nap, and will often bring some food and a drink for when I wake up. I hope my children ask to be tucked in for many years to come

Still read to DD15 - then she reads or draws in bed while I go to bed, so no tucking in.

@Bunnybigears in the old days when we had sheets and eiderdowns, you’d tuck the sheets in between the mattress and the divan to make you all cosy. Doesn’t happen with duvets though, but the sentiment‘s the same. My daughter asks me to ‘tuck me up’ which basically means scrunching the duvet around her so she’s nice and cosy!

I’ve never not tucked the kids into bed and they’re 11 and 13 now.

Even when 11 year old was positive Covid I still said my goodnights round the bedroom door to him. He’s a very cuddly boy anyway.

My 13 year old daughter still likes her goodnights, but to be honest lately she’s such a faffer at bedtime I regularly find myself wondering if I shouldn’t just say my goodnights downstairs then send her up.

It’s a very habitual thing, and who knows it must be comforting for them as they sure notice if anyone is about to forget!

I’ll tuck mine in as long as they want me to (currently 10 and 8) - nothing wrong with at all OP.

I remember when in my teens my mum actually stopped doing it and whenever I asked would seem annoyed by it - it ended up really upsetting me. I think in a very busy world (usually) it’s a nice constant to have.

It all sounds very infantilising, and some weird kind of attempt to keep them young.

My 13 year old ds shouts down every night "will you come and turn my light off". We have a chat and I kiss him goodnight and say I love you. Will be so upset when he stops wanting me to!

I have 2 boys, 10 and 13. I go in to say goodnight most nights and will do until they don't want me to, which had better be never! I love that they still want a hug.

@Daphnise

It all sounds very infantilising, and some weird kind of attempt to keep them young.

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When mine are home (late 20's early 30s) I tuck them in! They're precious. They love it

"It all sounds very infantilising, and some weird kind of attempt to keep them young."
Absolutely! I've told my ds he's not allowed to grow up and leave home! He's our last one!

I still say goodnight to my adult son at his bedroom door (asd) and he bends down to allow me to kiss the top of his head. I then go and tuck dd 17 in and say goodnight to her before going to bed myself. Both of them will be awake long after me but they like the routine and so it continues.

@Daphnise

It all sounds very infantilising, and some weird kind of attempt to keep them young.

Mine are adults they smell they smoke they drink they still love to be loved

@Daphnise

It all sounds very infantilising, and some weird kind of attempt to keep them young.

Spot the person who doesn't do it and is jealous

Before my darling mum died I used to have night time milk with her and have our first cup of tea together in the morning from her teasmaid whilst sat on the end of her bed. I now have evening milk on my own and a morning cup of tea in bed from my tea kettle. Ten years on I still miss her. I am in my fifties.

My 17 year old still asks me to tuck her in most nights. Although now I do sometimes go to bed before her! Nice opportunity to have an end of day catch up.

Mine aren't that old yet, but I remember how sad I was when my dad stopped kissing me goodnight when I was a teenager. He probably thought it was inappropriate, but I still remember it now. I miss him so much. I think you should do it for as long as they want.

Ah , no because mine go to sleep later than me but I do check on DS if his light is on (make sure he hasn't nodded off with his TV and light blaring) as I walk by .
(DS is 21 , DD is 18)
I bought DD a weighted blanket , so that's like being swaddled and tucked in all in one

DS sits on my lap sometimes , skinny bony arsed little varmint that he is , not pleasant

10.5? Don’t you stop using the half at 2 or 3?

Naturally stopped for mine as I go to bed earlier than them! It’s reversed as they both come into my room in the evening but to see the dog mainly!

Don't stop!

I don't do the night times, that's a quick kiss and a good night, but weekend mornings both of my teen DS pile into bed for coffee and a chat and we just talk and rest up until we cook some breakfast. That's my lovely time with them.