About friends buying goods during covid?

[MozzchopsThirty]

I've had covid for over a week now, been in with 3 dcs, 2 of whom have also tested positive

A few friends have said 'if you need anything just let me know' and I've asked for a few bits.

My friend bought me £6 worth of stuff and said 'the receipt is in the bag can you put it in my account'
My other friend called over last night and I asked if she could bring some crisps & popcorn and she also said it was about £4 the receipt is in the bag

I'm just wondering AIBU to think that dropping £4-£6 worth of shopping off I wouldn't ask for that back off a friend (and I'm not well off, single parent nhs worker)
If it was a £20 shop upwards that would be different

Maybe I'm wrong, AIBU?

My neighbour is shielding and asks me to pick things up for her, never once offered money. I now look at her and think what a cheeky cow 🙈 although I didn't have the guts to ask for it!

NHS workers are working hard at the moment but they’re not particularly
hard up - they’re one of the groups who have a guaranteed future income. And some of them are on a cosy six figure income.

Quite a bit of hyperbole here, don't you know OP that anyone with covid must exist on bread and water and couldn't possibly ( like everyone else in this country at the moment) be fed up, bored out of their mind, fancying some junk food they can't go out and get. Good Lord.

You would BU to expect others to pay for it but since you didn't say you actually did, what is the issue. I too would never take the money for a friend for the equivalent of this, and would be dropping off or posting various bits, basics and absolutely treats or boredom busters for them anyway if i heard they were stuck at home with the kids with bloody covid 19. I wouldn't expect others to do the same since they may not agree, or may not want to, or may not be able to afford it. It wouldn't be
matter of contention. Hardly a huge deal, any of is it.

Hope you recover well and quickly OP.

Have you form with your friends for not paying your share?

'Of course you should pay'

That's not the point of the thread, I absolutely would offer and pay (which I have done)

My point is I wouldn't ask for £4 from a friend, for anything, a drink, a taxi, popcorn
That's what being a friend is about but obvs I'm in the minority

Pmsl as if your friends should foot the bill

@MozzchopsThirty
Maybe if I've got covid I should only be expecting bread and pasta and not anything that might cheer us up whilst we watch a movie
Not one person has said that you shouldn't have any treats, just that you should pay for them. Stop twisting people's words, you are a CF

But you are completely missing the point that maybe your friends can’t afford to buy you bits and pieces. It doesn’t matter that you can afford it.

@nimbuscloud of course not

@MozzchopsThirty I completely understand what you're saying, I'm with you and wouldn't take money for something under a tenner off a good friend, although I'd always offer what I owed and wouldn't expect anything for nothing. But with good friends, especially people you normally see regularly, it's swings and roundabouts and it usually works out roughly in the end...

I don't think you're being grabby, it would be normal in my friendship group to refuse money for small amounts

YABU and possibly a CF.

Oooh I wonder if I can get my mate to pay for my asda big shop delivery.. now there's a thought

YABU. That seems a bit entitled of you, OP. £5 might be a lot of money for people, especially in the present times, with so many earning less or out of work entirely.
When my friend got £3 worth of shopping recently, I pressed her for bank details until she gave me them and I transferred her the money straight away.

OP friends arent defined by people who will spend money on you. They went to the effort of getting you what you wanted in your time if need. That is a friend. Money isnt measured of how good a friend you or they are.

She never said she hadn't or wouldn't pay.

I agree OP. Friends just picks bits up for each other when out and about and if a small amount I would never ask for it.

I assume these people who do al pay for their own specific items if they go for coffee with a friend as well.

I just say I will get it sometimes, and sometimes they get it. No fuss, no system, swings and roundabouts it just levels out over time.

I can't imagine ever asking a friend for £4, that's less than one drink in the pub

If I ASK someone, as in "Would you mind getting me X and Y at the store?" to bring me something I expect to pay for it.

If someone VOLUNTEERS to shop for me, as in "Do you need anything at the shops?", I still expect to pay for it.

If someone shows up on my doorstep unasked with food or treats I wouldn't expect to pay for it. But I'd probably still offer.

YABU. If someone puts some arbitrary £ amount on what should be a freebie as compared to what should be paid you could get 2 weeks worth of groceries free if you had enough friends and spread it around enough.

I dropped off a big bag of biscuits, crisps, bread, milk, yoghurts and fruit to my friend who isolating a week ago and didn't ask for money as it was my idea. If she'd given me a shopping list for the same then I'd have given her the receipt and let her know my bank details (at certain times of the month).

In conclusion YABU and a CF.

YABU. You want, you pay.

@MozzchopsThirty

'Of course you should pay'

That's not the point of the thread, I absolutely would offer and pay (which I have done)

My point is I wouldn't ask for £4 from a friend, for anything, a drink, a taxi, popcorn
That's what being a friend is about but obvs I'm in the minority

Absolutely with you on this OP. If a friend asked me for a favourite whilst unwell it would be a pretty close friend, and there’s no way I would take money for it. Isolating with covid is bloody miserable and I’d be happy to help out!

YABVU

So it’s just coincidence that 2 different friends have asked you to pay them for the stuff they bought you?

Don't behave like a CF, OP because your friends may not help you anymore.

Why didn’t you offer before they had to ask for it?

I wouldn’t expect free goods if I had given a friend a list of things, however if a friend was isolating I would maybe take a few treats anyway and leave them but that’s different to doing the shop for you.
Yes it’s a bit sad I can see where you might think well it’s only a few bits but you don’t know what their money situation is.

Of course you are unreasonable what makes you think they can afford to feed your family, and crisps and popcorn are hardly essentials, so don’t cry the poverty tale