About friends buying goods during covid?

[MozzchopsThirty]

I've had covid for over a week now, been in with 3 dcs, 2 of whom have also tested positive

A few friends have said 'if you need anything just let me know' and I've asked for a few bits.

My friend bought me £6 worth of stuff and said 'the receipt is in the bag can you put it in my account'
My other friend called over last night and I asked if she could bring some crisps & popcorn and she also said it was about £4 the receipt is in the bag

I'm just wondering AIBU to think that dropping £4-£6 worth of shopping off I wouldn't ask for that back off a friend (and I'm not well off, single parent nhs worker)
If it was a £20 shop upwards that would be different

Maybe I'm wrong, AIBU?

[traditionallife]

YABU, if they've taken time to go and get the items and bring them to you. The least you can do is pay for the items.

[cheeseandworcestershireontoast]

Everyone saying they wouldn’t accept money for it - that’s different, that’d be if someone had offered to pay you and you then (if you want to) say no. OP as far as I can tell didn’t even offer - which is probably standard behaviour given that her mates have had to ask and point out that the receipt is in the bag!

[HibernatingTill2030]

@MozzchopsThirty

'Of course you should pay'

That's not the point of the thread, I absolutely would offer and pay (which I have done)

My point is I wouldn't ask for £4 from a friend, for anything, a drink, a taxi, popcorn
That's what being a friend is about but obvs I'm in the minority

Yes, you are.
If I'm out with friends and they offer to pay for my coffee, fine. If we're sharing a taxi and they won't take my money, fine. It all works out in the end.
If I ASK them to bring me specific things, to my house, then I expect to pay for them.

[Fufumuji]

That's not the point of the thread, I absolutely would offer and pay (which I have done)

Nobodies buying it OP. Your post was very clear

[Silvercatowner]

At no point have I said I expect shopping for free

But that's exactly what you are expecting...

[redcarbluecar]

Paying people back, even small amounts, keeps things on a level and makes it less awkward if you need to ask again. I’ve dropped things to friends during Covid and in my experience people want to pay, so I’ve never tried to persuade them otherwise.

[HereWeGoAgainhaha]

You are being very cheeky expecting your friends to pay for your shopping.

If they came to your house with shopping - thats called a gift.
If you ask them - that's called a favour and you'll be paying for that favour.

This has made me question doing favours for any friends in the future.

[BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz]

Maybe if I've got covid I should only be expecting bread and pasta and not anything that might cheer us up whilst we watch a movie

Have whatever treats you want - but don't ask people to go out and get them for you! And then grumble that you have to pay for them.

We locked down last month. When people asked if they could help we only asked them for essentials and only when we couldn't get a delivery. I wouldn't ask others to go out for me for treats.

[ILovesPeanuts]

I might not ask for it back but it would depend on the friendship - if you're always buying them stuff then YANBU. I have friends where the money is very easy between us - never an issue, someone pays first round or for a treat, always evens out, always fair, no one keeps count, always bring goodies when visiting.
Otherwise, if it's a situation where you don't do that and don't mingle finances/spending when you're together, YABU and should cough up without a thought.

[AdelaideK]

I see what you mean. I wouldn't want the money back but I wouldn't keep on buying. So if you have asked me before to get stuff for you and you didn't pay me back I'd ask for the money the second time.

For a one off I'd like the money to be offered but I'd say not to worry about it.

[LittleRa]

[quote Fuckingcrustybread]@MozzchopsThirty
Maybe if I've got covid I should only be expecting bread and pasta and not anything that might cheer us up whilst we watch a movie
Not one person has said that you shouldn't have any treats, just that you should pay for them. Stop twisting people's words, you are a CF[/quote]
Actually @BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz said

Who asks for crisps and popcorn? Bread/milk/pasta/fruit sure but crisps and popcorn?

[PurpleDaisies]

“Offering to pay” for your own shopping kind of gives away your attitude here.

You should expect to pay. It’s your shopping.

[FreshFancyFrogglette]

Yabu. Thats a lot of money to ppl atm. £5.70 was my weekly food budget for me and 1dc this week. The difference between having electric or not, having their own food or not. I dont know many ppl who woudnt miss it!

[Indecisive12]

YABVU

[MrsFogi]

YABU to expect people to subsidise you when you take them up on their kind offer to help. And if they hadn't said that you should have asked how much you owed them (not to mention paid promptly in both cases).

[Henio]

I can see why people are saying yabu, but I wouldn't have asked for £6 or £4 back from you, thats just me personally though

[truthisalie]

I think, You are winding everyone up. I can't believe it. If it is indeed true then order online, e.g. using Iceland. It's quick and delivery is free if your order is more than £30.

[GrallaceandWomit]

YABVU that’s incredibly entitled of you!

[LittleRa]

@Fuckingcrustybread and others have commented on it being unnecessary snack food too.
Fwiw I of course agree the OP should pay, but it’s not fair to say “not one person has said you shouldn’t have any treats” when a few people’s comments have been about that.

[CleverCatty]

Definitely pay them back. The cost of my food bill (and that's for a single person) has risen recently.

[TwigTheWonderKid]

If I dropped off £6 or £10 worth of shopping of for a frend I certainly wouldn't expect to be paid back. When we had Covid I asked my neighbour to get me some fruit and she wouldn't let me pay for it. However, I can't and don't judge everyone by my standards, we all have different attitudes towards so many things, don't we?

Also, in my experience there is not always a corelation between income and generosity. I know a couple of my quite wealthy friends who would probably expect reimbursement.

[SpongeBobJudgeyPants]

Depends. Generally I wouldn't want it back from a friend. I can afford it, and they're friends. If however, it might be a regular thing, I wouldn't want to set a precedent, and I'm in my 50's, have had people take the piss out of my generosity, so yes, I'm more careful now. Friends it wouldn't be a problem, and I would say don't worry about it. Doing a favour for someone who I didn't know if they had the tendency to take the wee wee, I would leave them the receipt.

[MissBaskinIfYoureNasty]

🤣 so entitled! I'm aghast!

[Lovely1a2b3c]

I'm the same as you OP- anything under £10 I wouldn't even think about asking for; anything over £20 I might.

If they had to travel a long way or weren't already going to the supermarket for their own things then I can see why they might fuss about £4 or if they're living on the bread-line but I think YANBU.

[CuntyMcBollocks]

So you want your friends to go out of their way to get you stuff that you don't necessarily need, and you expect them to pay for it too? I'm glad I'm not your friend. If its essentials then you should pay for it, but you can't expect people to just buy you whatever you fancy all of the time. They might need the money too.