Child in the supermarket?

[Whipituntilitpeaks]

Just curious, do you take your child/children with you when you go food shopping?
I’m currently a Sahm to my toddler Dd and always used go go early on a Monday morning, when barely anyone was there.
During the first lockdown, we stopped going and Dp would go on a Saturday morning.
Dp works Mon-Fri and often was there for hours queuing up etc, but back then he was the only one of us that went out (aside from walks in our field)
When it calmed down a little, I went back to doing it with my Dd, do you take yours?
For us, it helps dp as he obviously doesn’t mind at all, but after a long week at work, it’s not fun to do the big shop. It’s also some kind of normality in mine and DD’s life, but I’ve started to feel a bit worried about it. We’re not in the U.K. but cases are around the same number one more or less and some of my friends don’t take theirs into any shops
Aibu to still take her shopping or should dp or myself go alone on the weekend?

My kids haven’t been to the supermarket since March.
During the first lockdown I saw a couple with their newborn in the car seat on the trolley. Some people are just thick.

@CleverCatty No delivery slots and they don’t do a click and collect service where we are, that would be great!

At the supermarket I work at there are whole family groups treating a trip to the shop as a family day out. Kids running around everywhere, with mum, dad 2+ kids, plus granny.

It just makes my job a whole lot harder tbh as it makes the shop unnecessarily crowded so when I'm picking for the online orders it makes it much harder to navigate the aisles etc because of all the extra bodies.

Kids in trolleys are fine. If you're a single parent and you have to bring your kids - of course that's fine. Family trip out just to get out of the house? Not fine.

Blimey when my kids were little and I was still married I viewed a solo trip to the supermarket as a treat!!

@CleverCatty

Ok, I'll tell my neighbour that then, whose 10 year old has had two separate cases of Covid 19 with children in her class.

Teenagers get it too. An 11 year old boy died alone early in the pandemic here in London.

I refer to my earlier point, has a child ever died in a car crash? So per your point, we shouldn't put them in a car, as there is a
minuscule risk they might die?

Were your neighbour's children very ill with Covid?

@welshladywhois40 Yes, that’s what we did. Dp on the weekend during the start, then I took her early morning during summer onwards.
She sits in the trolley still -2,6 years old.

My 5 year old loves the supermarket, he hasn't been since lockdown. I brought him last Saturday because he has been home with me and his brother since 19th December. He needed something "nice". He is 100% reliable at staying in the trolley. He wears a face mask 😷... mostly correctly. He hand sanitises.

hollyangel - my neighbour's kids didn't get it - her 10 year old DD, two children in her class at school when they were allowed to go, got it separately.

I've got no idea how ill they were with Covid.

Actually I've also heard from work colleagues re secondary schools in their area having covid cases.

Oh and a colleague's 8 year old DD was quite ill with Covid 19 not long after the first outbreak last March but is fine now.

It’s amazing at how many ppl think that it’s the supermarkets that spread covid

NO, it’s household mixing and work places!

The biggest spread was mixing over CHRISTMAS!

Stop taking this out on the children

MN is so odd right now. I take my 6 year old to the supermarket when we need food. I don't make any special effort to leave him with DH. Zero concerns. People who are worried or at risk need to plan accordingly.

[quote Whipituntilitpeaks]@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz I do, but not really alone time to be squashed into a shop with a load of other paranoid, stressed people rushing around to make it out by 1pm 🙈[/quote]
So go one evening when he is home with dc. The last hour on a Tuesday (eg) is probably really quiet.

@2021ishere2021 How sad you made your 5 year old wear a mask
Such virtue signalling

@whipituntilitpeaks That's why I posted, to try and add a little bit of perspective to this conversation.

Life is a risk. Going anywhere is risky. Staying at home all the time is also a
risk, to your family's mental health.

We need to find a balance in this madness.

I take my 2 year old. I clean the trolley seat and everything around it with anti bac wipes before he gets in. He just sits in it. I take him a snack in my bag in case he gets mad (he's usually fine)

I wouldn't take 2 kids (I also have a 6 year old) unless I was desperate I would go at night when DH is home or try and get a click and collect.

@CandyLeBonBon Yes, totally, a whole family is bonkers and doesn’t make sense.

Tbh I don’t mind shopping with her at all 🤷🏻‍♀️It’s one extra thing aside from the patch of grass down the road we get to go on.

I could escape and go on a Saturday morning, but the amount of people is just ridiculous, takes ages to park, queue, not to mention so many people around me. I think when I balance it out, my logic says of course on a weekday! But as with everything with this, the fear has crept in.

Absolutely single parents have to take their kids, no one should judge or not understand that.

During the first lockdown I saw a couple with their newborn in the car seat on the trolley. Some people are just thick

Do you mean you? Because there really is no reason they shouldn't have done that, and probably good reasons why they did.

People here have no clue how to risk assess.

@HamSandwichKiller Only on MN will you find such Pearl clutching virtual signalling, and many that have no DC but love to comment about children on a parenting site.

You couldn’t make it up

hollyangel
I know quite a few children and teenagers who have had it. Why do you think they have shut the schools? To protect the staff and slow the spread. So what makes the supermarkets any different, the staff are scared to catch it too. Maybe think about others instead of taking such a selfish attitude.

@Ladywinesalot

It’s amazing at how many ppl think that it’s the supermarkets that spread covid

NO, it’s household mixing and work places!

The biggest spread was mixing over CHRISTMAS!

Stop taking this out on the children

1000% but it’s always easier to pick on children and Mothers. Particularly like the non parents preaching what they would do. With the greatest respect they have no idea what it’s like to see a small child who can’t comprehend what’s going on, have all their activities and interactions ripped from them. If going to Sainsbury’s to pick a magazine puts a smile on their face I won’t feel guilty!

Sometimes yes as my dh works away for weeks at a time.

@clevercatty, I don't understand the point you're making? You know some of the few children who get Covid and aren't asymptomatic. They were ill, they got better. What's the issue?

@Lippyheaven

hollyangel I know quite a few children and teenagers who have had it. Why do you think they have shut the schools? To protect the staff and slow the spread. So what makes the supermarkets any different, the staff are scared to catch it too. Maybe think about others instead of taking such a selfish attitude.

How is a supermarket different to a school is that a real question

Ds is risking himself every week day in school,as am I as I work in a school.If I want to take him the odd time I will do.

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz During the week, the curfew rules are that shops shut at 8pm, 1pm at the weekends, you have all the people after work at that time, it’s chaos.

@Ladywinesalot totally agree! it’s like people compete to see who can follow the rules the best 🙄

Iv no choice but to take mine...but he sits in trolley and loves his sanitation process