Child in the supermarket?

[Whipituntilitpeaks]

Just curious, do you take your child/children with you when you go food shopping?
I’m currently a Sahm to my toddler Dd and always used go go early on a Monday morning, when barely anyone was there.
During the first lockdown, we stopped going and Dp would go on a Saturday morning.
Dp works Mon-Fri and often was there for hours queuing up etc, but back then he was the only one of us that went out (aside from walks in our field)
When it calmed down a little, I went back to doing it with my Dd, do you take yours?
For us, it helps dp as he obviously doesn’t mind at all, but after a long week at work, it’s not fun to do the big shop. It’s also some kind of normality in mine and DD’s life, but I’ve started to feel a bit worried about it. We’re not in the U.K. but cases are around the same number one more or less and some of my friends don’t take theirs into any shops
Aibu to still take her shopping or should dp or myself go alone on the weekend?

[MaudesMum]

It seems ridiculous not to go in the week when its quieter, rather than the much busier weekend - there's less risk to you (and everyone else) if you go when its quieter and therefore help to spread out the supermarket customers. If your child is contained in the supermarket trolly I really don't see what the problem is.

[Whipituntilitpeaks]

@MyNameForToday1980 The trolley? See this is where my fear heightens, things like her sitting in the trolley, I hate living like this

[jeaux90]

Single parent. We have no choice.

[Marzipan12]

Delivery is a sensible option untill you take into account you often carnt get one and usually have to go to the shop anyway as essential items are missing. I know don't bother with delivery for these reasons, seems pointless when more often than not I ended up at tbe shop for missing items anyway.

[AwaAnBileYerHeid]

No, not unless I had absolutely no other option.

[Ellieboolou33]

@RedskyBynight funnily enough I have not missed "the guidance" I will continue to take my children with me.

I've worked throughout (not at home) and my children go to school. I will continue to give them their weekly treat of doing the weekly shop with me.

[Pootles34]

Honestly I think it's fine - you're going early, it's quiet, so long as she's in the trolley she's not going to be running round. It's not like you're a family of 5 going on a Saturday afternoon.

I know a lot of people are having deliveries, but I'd rather leave them for people who are shielding or self isolating - we've avoided having them through this whole thing because of this reason, then couldn't get one when we were self isolating.

[CriticalWoman]

Carry on taking your child when it's quiet. The difference between the risk of both of you going at a quiet time versus the risk of one adult going on a busy Saturday is negligible, and your child needs stimulation/normality beyond your 4 walls.

[Lippyheaven]

Children shouldn’t be there, if it can’t be helped. I don’t understand the whole family going there, it shouldn’t be allowed. They should have cracked down on this a long time ago. Fair enough if your a single parent or have disabilities, I’m not meaning them. Last week there was a family of 6, mum dad, 2 young kids and baby then teenager. Kids were running around picking things up. Shop was heaving, it was a nightmare. If your wanting a family outing go for a feckin walk to the park. The staff certainly don’t want yous all there.

[Ladywinesalot]

I’ll take my kids one at a time so they can have some kind of outing.
And the want to choose some treats for themselves too.

These poor kids have been treated awfully over these lockdowns and have been sacrificed for a lot of the ageing population and for people who refuse to be accountable for their own health.

Yes YOU who smokes, is overweight yet insistent we all wear masks.

[sunshineandshowers21]

i take my two youngest (8 months & 2) and leave the two eldest (6 & 13) at home. i go in the week when it’s not so busy. the 2 year old goes straight in the trolley, the baby in a chest carrier and they don’t touch anything (except the trolley which is cleaned after anyway)

[OnlyFoolsnMothers]

Yes I take mine!
My child is allowed to see something other than the four walls of the house and a sodding “local” park.
Also for all the advice I recon it’s better to go in the wk with a child than at a busy wkend alone

[hollyangel]

Honestly, I sometimes think I live in a parallel world to everyone on this site. Why would I not bring my child to the shop? They have basically zero chance of getting Covid. If they did, they are very unlikely to get ill from it.

Latest data from the UK attached. Look at the youth figures? Why would you be worried about bringing your kids to the shops?

www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/deaths/bulletins/deathsregisteredweeklyinenglandandwalesprovisional/latest#deaths-registered-by-age-group

They already don't get to go anywhere. I presume the ones who are keeping them at home now don't allow them to get into a car or even use trampolines, both activities that
are far more dangerous for young children.

[CleverCatty]

Don't have DC but wouldn't take them if I did (not even a toddler) unless I was a single parent.

No need right now and it's not just because children can run, touch, spread germs etc it's other people! On a few occasions the hand sanitiser gel at the entrance to local Sainsburys has been empty and once as I didn't have any on me (was going to pick some up in there) used the security guard's instead.

By the way Sainsburys do a service called Chop Chop which is an app where apparently personal shoppers do a shop and deliver within a 1 hour time slot, I've not used it yet but friends have and said it's good.

[Fufumuji]

It really doesn't matter. IT's a small child, sitting in a trolley, doing no-one any harm and having no harm done to her.

Shop as suits you OP. There is no real logic to the objections you have been given here.

[CleverCatty]

@hollyangel

Honestly, I sometimes think I live in a parallel world to everyone on this site. Why would I not bring my child to the shop? They have basically zero chance of getting Covid. If they did, they are very unlikely to get ill from it.

Latest data from the UK attached. Look at the youth figures? Why would you be worried about bringing your kids to the shops?

www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/deaths/bulletins/deathsregisteredweeklyinenglandandwalesprovisional/latest#deaths-registered-by-age-group

They already don't get to go anywhere. I presume the ones who are keeping them at home now don't allow them to get into a car or even use trampolines, both activities that
are far more dangerous for young children.

Ok, I'll tell my neighbour that then, whose 10 year old has had two separate cases of Covid 19 with children in her class.

Teenagers get it too. An 11 year old boy died alone early in the pandemic here in London.

[ScatteredMama82]

No. I go at the weekend when DH is home, or get a delivery if I can. (DH works away all week, so I can't go in the evening).

[HorseOfPhillipMoss]

If we can't get click and collect either DH or I go one evening in the week when it's quieter while the other one is doing bath/bed with our 2 year old. I don't take him to supermarkets it's unnecessary. Single parents often have no choice but if you do I wouldn't take her.

[Missmonkeypenny]

I try not to but click and collect slots/deliveries are non existing around here. DH is a paramedic doing 60 hour weeks at the moment ( all range of shifts) so I have to take DS1 with me and try very hard hard time it with when DD is with her dad. When I do go, I do a big shop which lasts 10 days or so to avoid having to go more than once. I also go early in the morning and its usually very empty- if its busy when I get there, I'll go back later.

[Bhappy12]

We usually lucky enough to get delivery or click and collect, but the handful of times we haven't been able to I take DS, but he's small enough to be content just sitting in the trolley and putting things in for me/holding the scanner.
I figure if he's contained in a trolley he's not making social distancing any harder for anyone else and if I went on my own and picked up covid, he'd be getting it anyway.
To be honest, I don't like to take him though because he gets so confused seeing people it makes me sad.

[Figgygal]

My 4 year old hadn’t been in a supermarket/food shop since March
9 year old has been a handful of times

Online deliveries and doing too ups when dh around so there no need

[itsmeagainagain]

I’m also getting annoyed at the 2 adults and kids I see in supermarkets. I just don’t get it. If you’re a single parent to children who can’t be left along then yes of course you have to take them but if you have any other option I don’t know why people are not following the guidance. My 8 year old really wanted to come with me to Lidl the other night and although I knew I’d would be quiet I had to tell her no for her own safety and others too. It’s not ideal she’s bored out of her brain but we’re supposed to shop alone if possible. Not everybody must know this as some of my friends have been surprised to know this and just think it’s all the ‘paranoid’ people doing it. It’s pretty scary actually how many people just break rules all the time and really don’t care.

[Samcro]

i don't see the problem with a "sit in the trolley" aged child going.
the ones that run around touching stuff, mabe not.

[Whipituntilitpeaks]

@hollyangel I know! The logical part of me says that, but the fear has overtaken me again 😒

[welshladywhois40]

We stopped taking the toddler to the supermarket at the start of the pandemic but then relaxed in the summer.

Does your child sit in the trolley? If so I would still be going midweek while it was quiet and that would be one less person there during peak shopping.

Last dec we stopped going at the weekend and switched to 8am on a week day and it was utter bliss and quiet - that stopped us going at the weekend