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Original poster

... to ask if your husband still gives you butterflies

143 replies

anxietyaunt · 22/01/2021 08:09

Feel like a wee kid asking this question but I’m curious to hear from others. I know it’s naive to hope the honeymoon period will never end (ours was spectacular!), but I hear people say they still get butterflies regularly despite being together for many years. We’ve had a lot of ups and downs over the 11 years we’ve been together, but I definitely love my husband and think he’s the spunkiest man alive. Just can’t remember the last time I got butterflies. Anyone?

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Original poster
anxietyaunt · 22/01/2021 08:10

Yes - I still get butterflies
No - Nope

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Keepingitreal14 · 22/01/2021 08:13

We’ve been together 18 years and married almost 16 years. Do I get butterflies every day or even every week, no probably not but then he does a little random thing, or says a random thing and yes the butterflies randomly pop up.

edenhills · 22/01/2021 08:15

Not sure how to vote but yes I still get butterflies. 22 years

HappyFlamingo · 22/01/2021 08:18

Not sure whether Yes means YABU or YANBU? Together 23 years here. I wouldn't say I "get butterflies" (that's not a phrase I use really) but I still fancy him and think he's attractive if that what you mean.

queenMab99 · 22/01/2021 08:24

Not exactly butterflies, but after 22 years of marriage, my heart still lifted when I saw him coming down the path from work, however, that changed after I found he had been shagging the mother of one of my son's friends.
Twenty five years later, if I have to be in his company I smile, behave pleasantly, but think, 'whatever did I see in him? '
The mind and heart work in strange ways.Confused

StiffyByng1 · 22/01/2021 08:26

I get clusters of butterflies. Sometimes I’ll hear him laugh, or catch his gaze and I’ll butterfly up. He is a real beauty though, even when we’re going through a less connected patch I can’t deny that.

Original poster
anxietyaunt · 22/01/2021 08:26

@queenMab99 Flowers

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LeggyLinda · 22/01/2021 08:27

Not exactly. But I get a caterpillar from time to time.

JohnLapsleyParlabane · 22/01/2021 08:28

Weekly if not daily, yes

DumpTrump · 22/01/2021 08:28

My parents will be celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary this year. My mum says that Dad still makes her go weak at the knees. Smile

icelollycraving · 22/01/2021 08:31

No. If I’m brutal he’s never given me butterflies. The ones that did always broke my heart. That’s not to say I don’t love him, I do.

Littlepaws18 · 22/01/2021 08:32

Yes!!! Watch him sometimes and think wow he's mine. He treats me like the only woman in the world. I'm very very lucky

aLilNonnyMouse · 22/01/2021 08:33

I'm not sure what "butterfly's" is meant to feel like, but I feel a tingle and a rush of heat through my chest every time he kisses me still.

Been together for 12 years and we kiss several times a day.

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anxietyaunt · 22/01/2021 08:33

@DumpTrump That’s so nice. The only thing that happened with my mum’s knees around my dad was the urge to nut him with them. Bad match.

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CodewordIsRochambeau · 22/01/2021 08:34

Yes, definitely. Not every day or every week or even every month sometimes! But often when I unexpectedly see him out in public (eg if I bump into him/even lose sight of him in the supermarket etc) I get a terribly school girl rush of 'oh my god he's my husband!' ❤️

FriedasCarLoad · 22/01/2021 08:34

Not butterflies. But even now when he's working from home and I see him all the time, my heart lifts when he walks into the room. I might not be so excited as on honeymoon, but I adore him and he makes me feel so happy and loved.

maras2 · 22/01/2021 08:36

Yes, even after 53 years. Smile

Helmetbymidnight · 22/01/2021 08:39

we've been together nearly 24 hours a day since last march. if we had some proper healthy time apart id feel more kindly disposed towards him Grin

Metalhead · 22/01/2021 08:42

Not really, no. Hmm

CocoPark · 22/01/2021 08:44

Yes. The daily grind of life (especially now) is obviously quite mundane - but when he looks at me a certain way, gives me a certain type of kiss then yes, all the little butterflies. Together 11 years.

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 22/01/2021 08:44

When he does little things for me & when I watch him with the kids, yep

harknesswitch · 22/01/2021 08:52

No I wouldn't say butterflies, but I can look at him and get an overwhelming feeling of love for him. Even now he's close to 60, I still look at him and think corrrrrr Grin usually when he's just filed the car up with petrol and is walking back towards the car after paying. I have no idea why especially at that time Shock

Frazzle76 · 22/01/2021 08:56

Never really had 'butterflies' (like previous poster the ones who gave me those were the bad ones) but he is without doubt my favourite person aside from my kids and I look forward to seeing him when we've been apart for even a few hours. I still can't believe I landed such a kind wonderful man. (Even when I'm exasperated with him for something)
Together 8 years.

MaryShelley1818 · 22/01/2021 08:56

No idea how to vote so haven't.
But yes....absolutely still get butterflies. I find him the sexiest man alive and have done since I was 14!
I'm now 42 and 37wks pregnant with our second baby.

whoamongstus · 22/01/2021 09:20

We're only 6.5 years in so plenty of time for them to fade, I guess, but I still get excited when my OH gets home from doing the big shop/work/anywhere haha... and I fancy him more than ever.